Texts are added below. Mine are blue, his are grey.
after he sent me the text, literally a second later he seen my snapchat story directed towards him. I made a snapchat story of me saying “so tired of MEN and the shitty decisions they make.” he seen it and right away said, “lmaoooo remember this. “goodbye ******* (insert my name)
He kept saying he didn’t wanna look dumb & get played and that’s why he always felt like things were sketchy and iffy for him. I don’t know how to sure I’m 100% serious.
He blocked my texts, calls and snapchat after that whole incident.
Well I don’t know the full story why you sent him that text. But he was Obviously was passive aggressive and hurt that’s why he msged you on Snapchat saying goodbye in that way. Why does he felt like things were sketchy? Don’t know if he was using reverse psychology on you to blame it on you when he’s having probs to be out.
Tbh you might dodge a bullet cuz you never mentioned he tried to reassured you… cuz your texts to him remind me of me in my early to mid 20s when guys tried to string me along and I was so mad, i blurt things out like that because I was also so hurt. Good men would talked things though. But men also don’t like feeling blamed and projected on angry feelings. But that’s everyone too.
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But hurt over what? Maybe I don’t see it I don't know. Could you explain it? Please
You put on your story that you’re tire of men and their shitty decisions. Imagined if he wrote that about women, like bashing women. So wouldn’t you drop him too? That’s why he said bye. However, I don't know what the probs were between you two because there’s no details of it. So it’s hard to say why he was saying things were sketchy and why you also felt the way you did too.
He knew the snapchat I made was directed towards him and him blocking me on Facebook this morning for no reason. We went our last night and everything was fine and even this morning he was texting me like he normally would. I confronted him about why he blocked me and he told me that he wasn’t trying to chase anybody who is being sketchy which I don’t know how I was being sketchy, but he has a hard time trusting people doodle has passed and his relationship in his past. I’m assuming he means the mother of his child since they were together for four years off and on
I don’t think he was trying to lead me on because he does seem generally interested but I also think he’s scared of looking dumb. I think he’s scared of being hurt.
No, you DEFINITELY dodged a bullet…. He has NO reason to blocked you and tell you why things are sketchy. He didn’t even tell you the reasons. You had a good date and he was still texting your normal in the morning. Then, out of no where blocked you w/o a reason. He gaslight you for sure. He was also upset and lost his ego when he saw your Snapchat story, so he’s just trying to make you feel bad.
I know it’s confusing. I know he don’t wanna be hurt (or so he says). But trust me, if he’s actually a good man, he would not be so passive aggressive and be so immature/defensive/gas lighting you. He has problems or maybe another woman. He’s just trying to come up with whatever BS to called things off. It’s very clear.
Ugh I had experiences like this in the past. It’s confusing and it will make you feel bad. But really, THEY’re the problem. They’re just tryna put it on you. I would either just not talk to them or just friendzone guys like that. They don’t deserve your time and feelings. Please save yourself the tears and heartache by moving on.
To be Frank, I don’t wanna get hurt either. But as a good person, I would not make someone else feel bad. If what he said is true that he don’t wanna get hurt, then he has issues with being emotionally immature and victimizing himself with the way he present himself AKA RED FLAGS! He’s not the right person for you.
Well do you think his reasons is legit? Sometime we defend someone when they’re wronging us = he’s really not it. Like for him to make you said those things to him and for him to end things the way he did, I still don’t think it sit right.
He was upset after he dropped me off because he thought I was confused on how I felt about him. Like he said one minute I knew and then I was confused. I apologized to him and told him I know what I wanted and told him he has my heart and he said “I don’t tho” He clearly never trusted my intentions with him due to past trauma/relationships. He said he didn’t wanna look dumb or look like a foul of it wasn’t what he wanted or to be. I. E him being sketchy about it.
Yeah, you’re right, he’s just afraid of being hurt. However, the way he address it on texts and Snapchat still wasn’t really good. I think you can take this as a learning lesson on how can you and a future partner address insecurities and reassurance on both ends. I think things went out of hand… like do you really wanna invest in someone whos gonna block you out of nowhere because they’re uncertain/insecure and then dropped you because of a misunderstanding/argument?
I already given you my honesty and advices, it’s up to you if you wanna consider it. Goodluck. But I think it’s gonna be emotionally draining journey if you wanna continue.
I don’t know what is going on inside his head. But if someone blocks you and/or says leave them alone. Just leave them be.
Don’t hate him. Yes he’s probably hurt so just use that as a way to not feel anger even though you’re right to. That’s how I forgive abd move on.
There is a time to be rightfully angry. But you gotta forgive at some point and a way to do so is feeling bad for them. That’s how you love your enemy.
Some take it too far and let someone hurt them again you do NOT have to do that. But it seems at least for now that’s not the issue in this case.
I don't know the exact details that launched this whole thing but I'm not sure I'd say he sounded hurt, more like he was protecting himself and deciding he didn't want to be in an unclear relationship/situation with you anymore. He was showing he has respect for himself.
