Is ok for a man to flirt with a woman in front of the woman who confessed feelings to him (and was rejected)? Why do I feel he is so cruel with me?

[Anonymous]

I would never do that to a guy if he had told me that he liked me, even if I had rejected him. Am I the only one who has this kind of empathy?

[Anonymous]

Yes of course it is. He’s clearly not interested in you by his rejection of you. He doesn’t need to be concerned w your feelings. But at the same time if he’s doing it on purpose that is just a straight out jackass thing to do because he’s doing it on purpose. Even if that is so you two aren’t together, never have been so that is up to him as far as what he chooses to do.

[Anonymous]

Why are you hanging around a guy who rejected you? A real friend would be a wingman in this situation. A friend doesn't secretly wish for their relationship to fail hoping they changing their mind and give you a chance. You're never going to be a friend to him so don't put yourself in the friend zone. Take your L and move on.

[IAmAzzurra]

In terms of it being ok, yes it’s ok because he owes her no loyalty.

It’s rude, hurtful and disrespectful, and if he cared about her, he wouldn’t do it …. it’s not nice, but it’s not wrong either

[Spongebobssocks]

yeah thats kinda fucked up. sorry he does that. Best would be to ignore him and show interesst in someone else

[Spongebobssocks]

Thankyou for MHO. How did it go?

[spartan55]

First of all, what are you calling flirting? Second, why didn't you just remove yourself from that situation?

[Asker]

Because we are working together. And the other woman is a new workmate, we are in the same company and he started talking to her when we were all together in the same place, touching her shoulder and staring her deeply in the eyes when he was sure I was close to them. Before that, he was talking to her, but not so flirty as when I got close. I then started ignoring him for some time and he seemed very concerned. Anyways, I seriously consider quitting my job, because I love him and this kills me, but at the same time I 'm worrying about not bei g able to find another job soon enough

[Asker]

*Then I started ignoring him, I mean

[spartan55]

I really doubt that he is deliberately doing it to be cruel to you. He's not 'making sure you are close by'... You are seeing things a certain way because you are hurt. He should be at somewhat considerate of your feelings, but on the other hand, you can't expect him to tiptoe around you. You two weren't even in a relationship.

[Gingerbread_GB]

It is cruel and it seems like he's not a very considerate person. So maybe it was better off that he rejected you.

[RavVid]

I think it is unkindly and unfeeling. If it was just a conversation I'd make sure the third person got included.

[Anonymous]

If he rejected you, you have ZERO right to control his actions or behaviors. if you dont like what he is doing leave.