Do you think he likes me?

[Anonymous]

I don't care if he doesn't like me, but we're co workers that sees each other everyday at work. We talk as work friends but yesterday he invited himself to go to the grocery store with me and then we ended up going to a restaurant, a bar, and then I stayed at his place until 1:30 in the morning we both left work at 4:30 so we literally hung out all day. So when we were at the bar, he was being really overprotective towards me and was really upset when a guy asked me what was my favorite song and told the dj to play it, but all day he kept saying, " I want to respect you and I'm not that kind of guy". I just don't want anything to be awkward between us especially at work if something did happen.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for certain whether he likes you or not based on this one experience. However, it does seem like he enjoyed spending time with you and was being protective of you, which could be a sign that he has feelings for you.

That being said, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your feelings and intentions. If you're not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with him, it's important to make that clear and maintain a professional relationship at work.

If you are interested in him, it's important to take things slow and continue getting to know him outside of work. It's also important to set boundaries and communicate your expectations clearly to avoid any awkwardness or misunderstandings.

It's up to you to decide what you want from this relationship and how you want to proceed. Just be sure to prioritize your own emotional well-being and communicate openly and honestly with him to avoid any misunderstandings or complications.

[Asker]

Thank you for this, I'm actually hoping we can just become friends, someone I can feel safe around without worrying he won't try anything with me, I was a bit uncomfortable but the way he kept reassuring me and just made me laugh all night I enjoyed his company. He even messaged me if I was home and just ended up calling me because he really wanted to be sure I was safe at home so he was really sweet. But I will make the next time we hang out I will make sure if this is a friendly date type of friendship that doesn't evolve sexual intentions or being in a relationship. He messaged me today asking if I want to hangout again and even asked if we can have lunch together during work. Because he always goes home at lunch. In the other response I mentioned how he has been working at our job for about 4 months now and we never really talked like how we did yesterday. It was just talking because we work together, we don't really say hi or goodbye at work. So yesterday I really got to know him and we both felt safe around each other to talk about our past that no one knows about us. So I'm hoping he wants a friendship because I feel like if it goes beyond that it will get awkward and I would rather have him as a friend than anything else.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome. It sounds like you have a good understanding of what you're comfortable with and what you're looking for in your relationship with this coworker. It's great that you're communicating your boundaries and intentions clearly with him. If you're interested in pursuing a friendship with him, continue to be open and honest about your feelings and expectations. It's also important to be aware of any potential changes in his behavior or actions towards you and to address them if they make you uncomfortable. Remember, it's up to both of you to decide what kind of relationship you want to have and to make sure that you're both on the same page.

[Asker]

I will definitely lookout for any changes in his behavior or actions and going to be more honest and to make sure we're on the same page. Especially now since he called me again today and messaging me about how he was acting and making sure he didn't do anything stupid

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like he is being thoughtful and considerate of your feelings, which is definitely a good sign. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your own feelings and expectations. This will help ensure that you both have a clear understanding of where you stand with each other.

It's also important to keep in mind that workplace romances can be complicated, so it's a good idea to approach any potential relationship with caution and make sure that you are both comfortable with any potential risks or consequences.

Overall, it's great that you are being proactive and considering your options carefully. Good luck!

[aoihewgf]

Common for one of the co-workers to get too emotionally attached, regardless of both claiming they not looking for something serious

[Asker]

Thank you, I'm honestly new at this, majority all women work at the store I work at and it's usually older men around mid to late 40s that works in the warehouse area and we all don't really talk to each other, so he's the first young guy that applied and for some reason I caught his attention for him to wanting to be friends with me compared to everyone else that is around his age that are girls. I'm older he's 22 and I'm 31

[spartan55]

What do you mean he was 'really upset'?

[Asker]

Upset because he thought the guy was trying to flirt with me
He was ordering the drinks and he heard the guy, telling me, " what's your favorite song I want the dj to play it for you so you can have a great time " he literally ran towards us and told the guy, " what do you mean by that, I can do that for her myself and he was really close to the guy like he wanted to fight him or something.

[spartan55]

Red🚩flag

[Asker]

Yeah that kind of shocked me, he wasn't even drunk, so I can't say, " oh he was drinking to much "
Unless he wanted to seem like he can protect me but he took it too far.

[spartan55]

That's not protecting you. That guy was asking you about putting a song on the jukebox. I mean wtf. I would have made my exit after that.

[Asker]

That's true, I even told him, the guy was just being friendly, he heard me tell this girl that this was my first time going to a bar.
He felt bad afterwards and offered the guy a drink with an apology. Seeing that made me stay, because I started assuming the worse thinking he likes to be wild and start fights.

[spartan55]

Dunno, that shit can turn ugly in a hurry.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Do you guys do any sex at his place?

[Asker]

No we didn't, he was really drunk I stayed so I can sober up. He knew I was sorta uncomfortable so he kept reassuring me non stop that I can trust him and he won't do anything even insist that he will sleep on the couch and I can take his bed, but I felt 100% okay to go home.

[spartan55]

"do any sex" love it.

[mb120101]

Yes he's attracted to you

[Asker]

Thank you, I just hope nothing really happens, I never really been through this kind of situation and I'm the type that gets hurt really easily.

[mb120101]

Keep it neutral and if he asks to see you more set boundaries if you're not interested. If you are attracted bite the bullet and show him your interest its better than overthinking shit

[mb120101]

Unless you're already good friends 1am with a coworker isn't normal

[Asker]

Thank you so much, I will set boundaries next time. We have a pretty big age gap, I mean it's not bad but to me I just feel like we can hangout as friends than actually dating. We talk at work but just more like talking because we work together, but last night we actually bonded and gotten to know each better. He hasn't been working at my job long he was hired 4 months ago

[mb120101]

If he's older maybe its just a dad-protector vibe but i doubt it

[Asker]

I'm older than him, he's 22 I'm 31

[mb120101]

Oh yeah he likes you

[mb120101]

Id be all over an attractive 30 year old giving me attention girls my age suck

[mb120101]

I know older women aren't interested in younger guys who aren't established for a real relationship, but in a few years that can change 🤔🤔

[Asker]

His ex was 39, so I feel like he also likes older women more. During his 1st month working they just broken up, he kept to himself for awhile until this month he started to talk to me more but I assumed he wanted a work friend, because he eats by himself or just goes home for lunch. After yesterday now he wants to eat lunch with me, so i don't want to go through mix feelings I've been through that before and it just ended with me being heart broken because I decided to take that step and the guy wasn't interested. I'm not saying all guys are the same around that age but I'm just scared

[Asker]

My ex was younger as well, we dated for 8 months he realized I was boring and broke up with me

[mb120101]

I think hell stick around the rest is up to you friendzone him or not

[Asker]

I will definitely think this over, maybe in a way we can have a special friendship that we can both feel safe around each other

[spartan55]

@asker
No guy wants a 'special friendship' with you. Especially this guy.

[mb120101]

Good idea, you never know what can happen over time. Just dont keep him on the backburner that shits the worst for a guy (being led on so he stays as an option)

[mb120101]

@spartan55 Yeah i agree thats what i meant by backburner