It takes him 1-4 hrs sometimes to text back?

[Anonymous]

Just looking for a friendly male opinion.

I’m in the talking stage with a guy. I already know he’s not a big texter.. his opinion is that if he has something to say, he’ll say it but he’s not the text all day “ how are you, what you doing?” kind of guy.

He does hit me back.. it’s VERY short and sweet. It takes anywhere from an hour to 4 before he replies. I know he is also a busy guy and always doing something too.

Are there any other men here like that?
Is that also a way of playing hard to get and not being overly eager either?

[FilmGuy93]

The guy's just not a texter. He probably doesn't particularly enjoy that style of communication. Don't try to force it. I'm not much of a texter either, and I would hate that.

[spartan55]

Are there any other men like that? Yeah pretty much all of us. For some reason girls can't/won't understand that guys don't like texting. Also, guys don't play hard to get, so cross that off your list.

[Asker]

LOL this is the first man I’ve met like that… I’m used to more sensitive men.. and ones who write paragraphs lol

[spartan55]

They were unusual trust me. Some guys will text a ton at the start, but only because girls pretty much demand it.

[spartan55]

Then they get bored, fast. If you are going to gauge interest with how quickly/frequently a guy texts then you will not have much success with guys. Figure out a different way to communicate. At least talk on the phone. Do you get why texting sucks?

[Anonymous]

Men categorize females, and if he's acting like he can get back to you "later" he doesn't find you super super attractive. If he was very infatuated he would be texting back right away. It's all about looks for guys. I know you hate to hear it but it's true

[Asker]

If there’s one thing I can promise you… it’s not a looks issue. I’m in shape , not a huge make up girl, but pretty. I don’t dress like a floozy either.

[Opinion Owner]

A floozy huh what you mean by that there tootz?

And it says you're in your 30s, so you're almost at the wall. Not wearing makeup might be the issue too. By being "in shape" I'm assuming you're under 130 lbs. I think I already have a visual though. Send me a pic and I'll be BRUTALLY FUUUCKIN HONEST if it's the looks, which I'm 99% sure it is.

I'll give you some pointers to make him obsessed with you. I'm experienced, been with 500+ women, including models and p0rn chics, etc.. I know how dudes think and what they really want.

[Asker]

Check your DM

[Opinion Owner]

check yours now

[spartan55]

OP has lots of humility too.

[OfMiceandMen]

I am like that, not playing hard to get at all. I just prefer to talk to her directly than spend a half an hour to say what you can say in 10 minutes.

Plus, I am a busy guy, which he maybe too.

[RavVid]

I think he is just not a big texter and is a busy guy. With me you should be happy with a 24 turnaround.

[Asker]

Are you the same lol

[RavVid]

Yeah much the same. I take texts as a non urgent communication that should not interrupt what I am focusing on. If it was urgent you'd voice call.

[Snedger____]

He might be busy with other things. Everyone are different. Some people focus on important things, so do find time to text.

[Mettbltt]

he doesn't care about you

[In_Trance]

He's busy

[Asker]

Ya , but if a dude is interested… does he not make more effort?

[In_Trance]

He's thinking the same thing about you

[Asker]

I put in some effort , but not too much

[In_Trance]

That's your problem. Stop comparing and stop measuring.
If you want it, go get it