It all started Wednesday night. I’m on dating apps right now and a guy that I matched with and really liked said he only uses snapchat to communicate.. I added him on snapchat and we started talking.. mid-way through the night I see that someone added me from quicl add by the name of “Shawn.” I add this person thinking it was my brother’s old romantic interest that was transgender.. so we talk casually and sext over the night. (Talking about going to the movies then hooking up in his car) I text this person good morning on Thursday and apparently it was one of the old people I was talking to on bumble by the name of Josh. He said he really liked me and we were chatting up well so he wanted to try to wow me by being someone else. I have borderline personality disorder so the idea of someone being that obsessed with me was alluring.. anyways - so we keep talking and catch up. Thursday night we sext each other and throughout this time he continues to call me “honey” We then continue talking into Friday and decide to see each other. We had sex Friday nighy and shortly after I got upset, started crying expressing that I feel like he might leave me now. He reassured me that he’d stay and never leave and called me “honey, sweetie, ect” throughout the night. After this, he started to get extremely dry and spotty with responses. I haven’t heard from him since Saturday afternoon, it is now Sunday. Have I been ghosted and emotionally manipulated?
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**he is a virgin by the way/ or supposedly was.. I wonder how many girls he does this to?
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Yea which to be honest you shouldve considered him catfishing you as a red flag, that itself shows dishonesty, which tbh if someone is willing to lie to you to get to know you that means their first impression is a lie, trusting him seems like it was a mistake, you should learn to read signs if you aren't good at it cause he's most likely going to come back to you when he wants to sect again, I'm calling it, he will appear again and then you'll have to make a choice again, sorry this happened to you but I wish you the best outcomes with your situation.
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It's difficult to know for sure whether you were emotionally manipulated into sex without more information, as everyone's experiences and boundaries are different. However, based on what you've described, it's possible that this person may have misled you or manipulated you into thinking they were someone else in order to gain your trust and attention.
It's important to remember that consent is essential in any sexual encounter, and that it's never okay for someone to deceive or manipulate you into sex. It's also important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries in any relationship, and to communicate openly and respectfully about your feelings and concerns.
If you're feeling upset or confused about this situation, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or professional for support and guidance. It's also important to take time to reflect on your own boundaries and values, and to set clear boundaries and expectations in any future relationships.
you should have been careful