He said "I want you to focus on the work"?

[Anonymous]

Me and my coworker developed some sort of a relationship.

We made out a few times... we behave like an actual couple. But at the same time we aren't one. I don't know what we are exactly tbh.

Anyway... we spend only two days of the week together, cause he has to complete tasks elsewhere. I see him only on Mondays and Fridays.

The problem is that because of that and bc of the fact that there is some confusion about the status of our relationship. Plus he rarely texts and calls now (stress at work)... after we became more than coworkers and friends. I get anxious.

I asked him "do u regret this?" 2 weeks ago... he said "no, I don't".

Yesterday I asked him to call him... he sort of ignored me. This morning I texted him "are you ignoring me purpose?". He said "Ignore you? I don't, but I want you to focus on work, bc you are starting to overthink".

I wonder what he meant... does he want us to take a pause or what?

[Anonymous]

I think you need to talk to him about weather or not you are in a relationship because it Sounds like you are treating it as a relationship, while he does not see it as a relationship.

[Asker]

You mean he is just passing time? I told him one night that "if you think that I'm a toy, stop this right now"

[spartan55]

@asker
What would make you say that to him?

[AngryCarl2]

Apparently he considers you're not in a relationship. There are certain guys in the workplace who will enjoy a casual encounter and then just want to move on. He sounds like one of those.

[Asker]

The thing is... I told him that I'm not into casual encounters and he knows that. I told him to never approach me if he wants that.

[AngryCarl2]

Yeah, that sucks.

[In_Trance]

This is exactly why you don't date coworkers.
When it doesn't work out, it's awkward AF
The only confusion is your perception.
He's not interested

[Asker]

You might be right, but he is the one who approached me. I have decided to not act on my feelings. Actually he kissed me 2 days ago... why would he if he wasn't interested?

[In_Trance]

He's bored.
Probably in a relationship too

[spartan55]

He meant you are starting to be a pain in the ass with your overthinking.

[Anonymous]

He means you do your work nothing serious we can meet n talk when we done working

[Asker]

What do you mean by "nothing serious"?