If a guy has a girlfriend who works and only ask for him to spend his free time with her but he makes her leave every Friday so he can play games?

[Anonymous]

What should I think? He’s not working I work 40 hours a week I don’t ask for much come to bed and hold me at my bed time but he makes me feel like the games and his friends are more important he says it’s a me problem

[NamerOfStars]

Well, the problem you have is either that he's a jerk or that he's being inconsiderate- the next step is to isolate which it is. Lack of thoughtfulness can be fixed (if the person in question is willing); jerkassitude, less so. Sit him down and talk to him, but remember that the goal is to make him see that your needs aren't being met, not to guilt him into changing his actions- if you're going to be annoyed at his being inconsiderate (if that's what it is), you can't turn around and do the same thing.

If he's getting together to play with a group of buddies who've been doing it for years, then that's going to be something that's very important to him, as your desire for physical intimacy (sexual or otherwise) is to you. If that's what's happening, then he may not be able to schedule around it, and you may have to adjust; could you do your snuggling a little earlier or later? Yes, it still sucks to not be the only priority in your man's life, but it's just another form of loyalty- and you may be able to find a compromise that works for both of you.

Let him know that this means a lot to you, and that you're feeling kinda neglected. Again- I don't repeat this as a criticism of you, but because it's so important- do your best to not make him feel attacked; that's going to put him on the defensive, and then you're not going to get anywhere with him. Make it clear what your desires are, and that his playing and not spending time with you means you're not getting what you need. Ask if he could dial it back a bit, or if there's another way he could think of to make sure you both get what you want.

If he blows you off, then he clearly doesn't care that much about you, but it's best to make sure of that before dumping his ass- he may simply not realize how important this is to you.

[mb120101]

Manchild vibes, nothing wrong with gaming but he has the wrong priorities. He could do that while you work

[Nikki1989]

Because his friends and games are more important to him. You deserve better.

[Iron_Man]

That’s ridiculous telling his girlfriend to go home because he’s playing video games

[Avicenna]

That should be a dealbreaker if it continues

[In_Trance]

You're both Knuckleheads

Figure it out