Found his behavior very questioning... if he was genuine he could have told me about his divorce right what's your opinion guys?

[Anonymous]

I meet this guy he is a divorced man. I asked him to tell me the reason for his divorce so that I can decide whether to move forward with him or not. He said he will tell me the reason later and disconnected the call... I found his behavior very questioning... if he was genuine he could have told me right away what's your opinion guys?

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He has been separated for 8. Years and it's a long time to pick oneself up emotionally

[Screenwriter]

Basically, he hung up on you because you asked him about a divorce that happened more than 8 years ago. Seems a bit odd. Likely, it's a sore subject. Why not work your way up to it. Find out other aspects of him first. Then, later, ask about the divorce.

If he refuses to tell you, well, you have to decide how important this is to you. If he seems like a decent person is all other aspects, maybe you can let this slide for the moment. The HangUp, however, seems rude. Maybe he's just not ready to talk about it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

How long have you known him? If you asked him after three dates that's none of your business, if you asked him when you decided you wanted to be monogamous that's natural to be curious about, but still ultimately none of your business.

I think it was rude to hang up on you though.

[spartan55]

Maybe he's not ready to talk about something so personal yet

[spartan55]

I don't get what you mean by a long time to pick himself up emotionally?

[Anarcamus]

Shame tactic because he didn't just give her what she wanted...

[Asker]

He has been divorced for 8 years.. isn't that a long time. And the marriage it lasted for only few months... Moreover i deserve to know the truth

[spartan55]

Yeah, I guess 8 years is a long time. What if he doesn't want to be in another relationship right now.

[spartan55]

@asker
So you will be disclosing your entire relationship history to him too, correct?

[Anarcamus]

It changed to marriage.. so I'd imagine so

[spartan55]

Huh? What changed to marriage?

[Asker]

I have already told him everything about me without hiding.. i don't want him to know from anyone else

[spartan55]

Okay, that's good.

[noohair]

A divorce can be very hard on the male ego. And I can understand not wanting to relive the bad memories.

[Anonymous]

It might to soon for him to talk about his divorce, so go easy on the guy and give him a chance.

[Asker]

He has been separated for 8 years I don't think that's too soon

[Opinion Owner]

Doh! You're right.

[Asker]

8 years is a long time and one is enough mentally stable to talk about things because it no longer hurts. And they were married only for a few months

[Anarcamus]

Wow, sounds like a guy I know. And it's funny because he only refused to talk to people who weren't actually listening...

[Asker]

@Anarcamus there are some people who talk rubbish because they don't know what to say for a specific question

[Anarcamus]

That doesn't make sense. You really aren't entitled to any explanation they won't give. Sucks, hurts a lot of people.

For my friend it took a long time to reconsider the pain of losing his marriage cause she left with another guy. For a long time he was angry until he learned to accept his faults too.

Now he wishes her nothing but happiness.

Doesn't mean he likes talking about it.

[Asker]

@Anarcamus i am entitled to an explanation because i m getting married to him before proceeding with anything i deserve to know the truth

[Anarcamus]

Your post says meet now it's marry?
You really aren't entitled to the deepest inner thoughts of anyone... yes he should share but all your doing is clawing it out of him.

[Anarcamus]

This seems highly targeted. Good to know your goal was to shame this man and not be a mature adult and resolve it honestly 👍

[slatyb]

Your instincts are correct. Forget this guy.