Why did he say ” despite everything I wish you all the best” ?

[Anonymous]

He broke up with me. He made it seem like I did something bad to him?

[strateguy632]

simply "despite we separate still i care" like a gentle let down, but not a veiled accusation

[Asker]

he rejected me because of different life goals. He said ” I believe fervently that you’ll meet more compatible guy soon” Does that mean there’s no chance he change his mind?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

"Despite everything that made me not want to stay with you, I wish you the best."

[Asker]

It was about different life goals according to him not that I did something wrong

[ZXCwWRQWz]

So that! Different life goals. Nothing wrong.

[Asker]

“Despite everything” made it seem like he’s pissed at me or hurt? Do you agree?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

What do you want? You miss him?

[Asker]

I do miss him but he rejected me because of different life goals. He said ” I believe fervently that you’ll meet more compatible guy soon” Does that mean there’s no chance he change his mind?

[Asker]

I asked him what plans didn’t align he said ”our goals just in general level don’t align ”

[ZXCwWRQWz]

There's a 0% chance if you'll forgive my harsh opinion, and it is just an opinion from some random guy on the internet. The only way I see to change that is to change your whole life goals and that's not practical.

[Asker]

Why do you think there’s 0% chance?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Because this is the language of a man dead set on finding another girl if you'll forgive my bluntness from the best estimation I can give. And I could be wrong, mind you.

[Asker]

What languaged showed that? Also just because of different life goals? He diye en try to see if I could make compromise

[Asker]

Didn’t even try*

[ZXCwWRQWz]

You miss him a lot, yes? And feel hurt. I think the best you can do is try to talk to him about it but in a friendly and easy way. Pace yourself there; don't write 24-page letter.

[Asker]

Wouldn’t that be desperate? Last time we talked was almost 6 weeks ago. When he told these things I went no contact right away and couple days ago removed him from my Instagram

[ZXCwWRQWz]

You could just ask him how it's going it. "Hey, how are you?" That doesn't seem desperate at all to me as a starter.

[Asker]

How is it not desperate when I was the one who last time reached out to him and the I got his long paragraph of saying how I’m kind hearted and very nice but… if
Missed me wouldn’t he reached out to me?

[Asker]

If he missed me*

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Maybe wait a week or two!

[Asker]

We haven’t talked for 40 days now

[ZXCwWRQWz]

So you can ask him how it's going. That's perfectly normal and fine. We're just all human beings living in a community of people we know at the end of the day.

[Asker]

by the way me and him were texting daily for 2 months and went out once. During the date we did talk about future plans. After the date I reached out to him first thanking him for the coffee etc and made little bit small talk. That’s when he said all those things. He sent me long paragraph.

If I reached out to him he thinks I’m obsessed with or there’s something wrong with me? I do miss him a lot though…

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Just be like a normal person. "Hey, how are you doing?"

[Asker]

If you was in his situation what would you think if you got that text?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I like it. "Hey, how's it going." Even if I have mixed feelings for the girl, I think it's nice and we can chat. Doesn't mean I take her back but I think it's nice that we can chat for a start.

[Asker]

I don’t want a guy that has mixed feelings for me

[ZXCwWRQWz]

You could cut him off then but you won't want to because you miss him.

[Asker]

I miss him but I want him to miss me too

[ZXCwWRQWz]

The latter part is so very tough. All you can do is present the best side of yourself as I see it. But "Hey, how's it going?" after a while is a very nice way to make a man remember you in a good way, and possibly miss your company.

[Asker]

What do you think about the compliments he gave me while saying we shouldn’t continue to date. He said” first of all it was very nice to get to know you and talk to you. You are very nice person and kind hearted”

Despite that he still didn’t want to see me…

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I really don't think he wants you that much. I hope you will forgive my blunt analysis.

[Asker]

So why he gave me those compliments then?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

A lot of guys unfortunately compliment a lot to get into a woman's pants. One well to tell if he is really complimenting you sincerely is if he does it on something that few or no other women around you have.

[Asker]

What made you think he doesn’t really want me? Would he continue to date me despite different life plans if he really liked me?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Guy's intuition in my case.

[Asker]

Let’s say he reaches out should I give him a chance?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I don't really think so but up to you. There is a side of me that understands the desires of a broken heart. And there's also a side of me that's old and think this whole game we play is so stupid.