What does it mean when he says im perfect for casual date but not long for long term?

[Anonymous]

[richardcory]

Let me give you an example: Back soon after I was out of college, I was dating a girl who eventually wanted to settle down, have two kids and a dog and live in a house in the suburbs. I wanted an exciting career, travel, long work hours, and I don't like kids.

We were both completely open about what we wanted in life and recognized that a long term relationship wouldn't be good for either of us. But we enjoyed spending time together and had lots of fun sex.

Eventually she found a guy with the same sort of life goals and we broke up without ay bad feelings - we still chat on FB now and then, decades later. I found someone and we got married. She has 2 kids and a dog. My wife and I don't have kids, and are both engineers /scientists and spend our free time in exotic travel.

"not for the long term" can be about compatibility, not about anything being wrong with either person.

[DextroShade]

He considers you recreational use only, likely because you have traits or tells that make you unsuitable for LTR. Do you have tattoos, piercings, danger hair, slutty pics on IG, or a woke/feminist worldview? Any of these things may explain why.

[Cynicaldreamer]

First off, ouch.
Second, it means he views you as someone fun to go out with, show off, and maybe sleep with.

But nothing serious, like a committed relationship. Basically he sees you as a casual fling.

If you're okay with that, knowing he'll move on when someone better comes along, or just a sexually relationship? Cool.
But if that's not for you, you need to move on.

[4ngelic]

translation: he just wants to fuck you nothing else

[strateguy632]

i dont know what casual neans so ask if he wants to be exclusive just you 2 without dating.

[boggboss]

That he enjoys just dating u but would never see it being serious