Why didn't he just block me and tell me he knows who I am!!! He would just see my message and wouldn't respond. This is so annoying.
Lol so you’re mad that you made a fake account to deceive him, then he found out it was you now you’re mad? At him! When you put yourself in this situation Lol the complicated mind of women lol
Lol, I know it is all my doing. I thought he would just block me, whe he kept ignoring me, that is when it hit me, he must know. I checked and yes he knew.
So you asking for advice? Or just ranting?
Advice, why didn't he tell me he knew and threaten me with action
Maybe he gets off on it in some way. Maybe he likes having you on your toes like oh shit he knows now what? Lol he has the upper hand in this.
You know I won't be surprised if that is the case, he is all about the power and control and tbh honest I stopped immediately when I found out he knew. He is also very silent and blocked me on one of his account and kept me unblocked on the other. I was trolling both accounts.
But I blocked the other account lol
So what you planning on doing?
Nothing. It is all over.
Ok. Well I wish you the best w what you choose to do next. It was nice talking g to you
by the way, why do you think he blocked me on one account and left the other open?
And thanks I appreciate it, it was nice talking to you too.
The one he blocked me on was open for public viewing, the other was privatised
Yeah he’s probably just playing games. Best to move on. Find a new man.
No, not find a new man he wasn't someone I was dating or intended. He triggered the pain to an open wound, so now I will aid myself to heal what needs to be healed. This was a lesson learned.
It is important for my future. I will never allow myself to get this low.
It is important because this could carry on into something else later on down the road. I hope you’re able to get past it. At least you recognized it.
Yes, success God Willing. I will definitely get passed it, this incident was a blessing in disguise. Sadly I experienced a similar experience a year ago, and two times is too much to not have this addressed. I am worthy just like everyone else.
Worthy of respect
So what exactly if you don’t mind tell me what you need to get past? How men are acting like this to you or you just falling for stuff like this?
I need to be assertive and stand up for myself when someone is trying to hurt me, I try to be polite thinking things will get better if I am nice. But the goals of these individuals are to dominate and control me, and have perverted reasons behind it. I appear very submissive, when I am not, I am actually a fire cracker as you can see. I just try to be nice and control the psycho within. So I guess it's both, learning to defend myself when men behave like this, and reaching an emotional balance so that I deal with things in a healthy way.
Also being aware of manipulative tactics that these individuals use. In all honesty I am very aware of what they do, but I still get sucked. So learning to remove myself mentally. Which means not trying to psychoanalising every move and looking for answers on Q&A sites lol
Also learning to build my self esteem and self love
I see. That can be very challenging. I think women are more agreeable than men. So I see what you mean about trying to be nice. I have a friend who is the same way. Keeps meeting all these men who aren’t good for her, but she’s too nice. I keep telling her that. Sometimes the only time people understand is when you have to be rude to them. It’s never a fun thing but that’s the only way some people get it through their thick skull. Why the low self-esteem? Where did that come from?
Yes you are right women are very agreeable, that's also my default setting. Plus, I never walk around thinking I am ready for a fight. I am polite and respectful so when people are disrespectful I am so taken back by it, it actually hurts me. But I ahve also learnt that it doesn't get better if you are nice, it gets worse so now I am on edge. The bitch comes out real quick since this incident, it's like I cracked. I recently had a situation were I stood up for myself and it was more aggressive than usual, I swear I will get punched in the face if I carry on in this way. So that's why I am seeking therapy, for a year or 2 I am actually really excited by it.
The self esteem issues comes from my childhood, things that haven't been addressed that I still carry with me today. Trauma.
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m sure I have some stuff going on myself but as a man just keep going. Compartmentalize it cause in my opinion society doesn’t really give a shit about men. Men’s issues aren’t taken seriously. Yes you are right things usually don’t get better if you’re nicer. People tend to take advantage of you. Plus the way society sees it, if a girl stands up for herself, assertive she’s usually labeled a bitch or something like that compared to men who do the same.
How has compartmentalizing your problems helped you cope? but, I agree it is harder for men, they are taught to show no emotions, we need to normalize being vulnerable and there is nothing wrong with struggling and needing support.
It is true, women are seen as bitches whenever we stand up for ourself but that is a title I will happily take if it means protecting my energy and mental health.
Sometimes that compartment burst open n that monster may come out once in a while. I don’t think I’ve cried since I was 19, that’s well over 20 years. See the problem w normalizing being vulnerable, showing emotions as far as men is that it is often used against you. Plus women tend to jot respect a man if he’s crying. I know some women are ok w it. Like if he’s crying cause his parents died. There was this study that showed a lot of women lost respect for a man when he cried about certain things. But when asked about what exactly are the things she’s loose respect for him crying over, she couldn’t answer. So you’re kind of fucked as a man cause he doesn’t know if she will lose respect for him or not if he cries over this when she thinks it’s nothing. Women also said a good amount of them lost respect for a man when they seen him knocked out in a fight. They looked at him differently. Like he’s supposed to protect me. As I mentioned before men’s issues aren’t taken seriously. I know women have tough lives but I think it’s tougher being a man. It doesn’t seem so cause most of us just box it up, continue to carry on. Women tend to look at men as the enemy, like their guard up is automatically. If I’m walking in the park at night, pass some women more than likely their radar is going to go up. Then if a man expresses his feelings or his concerns then he’s a bitch, a whiner, complains all the time. So then we don’t say shit lol example. If men cried about a lot of things, society I believe would be in trouble of hard times coming. Do I like being the way I am? Not all the time, but rather be this way than a man who cries all the time, soft cause when something bad happens those are the men you’re going to want to be there to fight. A lot of boys these days to me seem feminine. I’m not saying men should be so callous they have no empathy or sympathy at all.
You're old enough to know that revenge almost always leads to something bad. Why are you trying to annoy someone?
Lol age doesn't equate to maturity I am very aware that it was an Immature move, it doesn't make me feel good. I don't mind sending you the story but I cannot message you privately becasue I don't have enought points, if I follow you could send me a message so I could give you the deets?
Lalalalmeagain this is my username I am already following you lol
I’m sure there’s a healthier way to heal your trauma. That’s just like an embarrassing low.
Oh trust me I know. I lost my self respect but I learnt a lot from this experience. I don't like being in this place I felt very triggered.
You felt triggered that he didn’t respond? What exactly were you looking for anyway? Like the purpose?
No, I felt triggered by how he treated me which led to this need for revenge. If I stood up for myself when he caused the offense I wouldn't need to go this low. I have been reflecting and I am embarrassed of myself.
All you can do is take accountability for your part, forgive him for his and start healing so you can close that chapter. He has so much power in your life without saying a word or doing a thing, and if that bothers you to realize, then it’s time to start doing the work to move on. Shake him for good. If whatever he did was really that bad then let karma deal with him, it’s not for you to exact revenge or have a last laugh. No one’s laughing.
Yes you are right, this experience made me take a good look at myself. I also on edge now, so I instantly become assertive everytime I feel like someone is trying to dominate me. In many aspects this experience has been a blessing in disguise I have always been such a pushover. In terms of forgiving him, that might take some time but I am willing to do it. I am feeling a mix of excitement and embarrassment about my future and present decisions/actions. I am deactivating my social media account becasue I don't anyone to come across it and laugh lol
I will definitely let karma hit this person in the ass.
Keep in mind that forgiving the person who hurt you has absolutely nothing to do with him, it’s about you. What you don’t want is to give him such an active role in your life when he’s not even present. Making plans or goals to get back at him rather than applying that energy into bettering yourself. You’ve made some mistakes and yes this was an embarrassing low, but if this is your rock bottom then you can’t go any lower and it’s time to start lifting yourself out of that hole. If it’s in your heart to deactivate your social media then do it because you need a break, not out of fear or worry or what others will think. Promise we are all living our own lives with our own troubles, but that’s easy to forget because this is such a prominent stage in your life. If you have friends, connect with them, get outside find some hobbies, start enjoying your life and being happy. That is a better revenge than you can even imagine.
To be honest he hasn't been the worst experience of my life, I had far worse. I just never thought I would experience something likes and, then allow it to happen. I couldn't forgive myself, so I had to take my power back in a way I thought might be safe enough, but it turns out I was wrong. Oh well shit happens, it is time to move on. I definitely want to deactivate my social media account to lay low for a while, hell it might be a permanent shift which I don't mind becasue it is a distraction. I will definitely work on myself, and I know it is the best form of revenge but I am going to be doing this solely for myself,
The lesson I learned from this experience is to stand up for myself and learn assertiveness, I won't allow anyone to try to damage my self-esteem again.
Aside from social media, maybe it would be good to take a break from men in general if you aren’t already. Like if this isn’t even the worst, it makes sense for this to be what sends you over the edge. On top of that, if you don’t have anyone to talk to for support and you’re more isolated with your thoughts and your triggers, that’s some tough shit. I know everyone says to try therapy and it sounds cliche, but I seriously think it’s a good investment. It’s great that you’re learning lessons from these things but a little extra help and being able to talk freely without bias or judgement works wonders. Of course this is me just assuming you haven’t already traveled that road or looked into it. Anyway, you’ve already gotten through one of the hardest parts and that’s acceptance, so be proud of that especially if you couldn’t do it a few months ago. Be patient with your process and confident in your ability to heal. This will pass🩵
He was a professional that forgot he was at work and didn't see the human Infront of him. This happened to me again a year ago, it's like these types of people can smell vulnerability and low self esteem. It is for this reason I want to work on myself, I cannot allow this to happen again and feel powerless. I also grew up in a dysfunctional home, where a multitude of things went wrong and contributed to the development of these triggers. I am seeking therapy, but I am thinking of doing something more focused and intensive for a whole year. I am kinda messed up and I am fully aware of that so opting for this option. Thank you for all the kind words and encouragement, this conversation has been very healing. I am throwing good vibes and blessings your way 💛
Ohhh okay, I thought you’d been in a relationship with this man, but it still doesn’t invalidate how your feeling or if he did what he did specifically knowing you were vulnerable and low self esteem. Unfortunately I think those are the people who pick on the person who lets them get away with it, and that’s never cool. I’m glad you’re choosing to take the time to heal and indeed stand up for yourself. I’ve had several moments like that in the workplace, being blatantly disrespected and it’s true, you’ve got to advocate for yourself. It’s tough especially if you’re soft spoken or don’t want to stir up an issue, that’s a mindset you’ve spent your whole life building when you think about it. If I was able to grow out of that at least a bit, I know you can too. Also, no trouble! I’m glad that I could say something to help. Sending the positivity and blessings right back at you.
Thanks, that is exactly the reason why I felt terrible about everything. I just allowed it to happen and then the trolling was a way to get back the power that was lost. I did try to take the sensible route by complaining to the organisation that he works but they blatantly ignored me. It is his word against mine, my desperation led to the creation of the account. I wanted to get back at him so bad.
Like you I am soft spoken too, and I don't look intimidating either. Since the incident, I speak my mind and hold a stronger stance, but I still need to work on it. Thank you once again for your words of encouragement.
Like we told you a few days ago when you asked, grow up
I am sure you are perfect. Karma.
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You need to stop. Delete the account and stop annoying someone. You’re clearly doing the damage to yourself at this point
That is true, I am deeply feeling it. Lesson learned, vengeance is never the answer.
😆😆😆 your Kung fu is not strong.
Lol it really isn't
You know the best way to get back at that person? Grow, live your life, become bigger and badder then ever before. That way he can't ignore how bright your light shines. And even if he never does at that point does it really matter? Because you've won.
Thank you this was incredibly sweet. I really appreciate it. You are definitely right, I need to focus on developing myself.
Wow, you mean your stupid idea didn't work? No way.
Lol thanks man, thanks 👍
What does gaf mean?
I think he gave a little fuck, since he took the time to investigate and find out it was me.
Lol I am not reaching, how else would he know? And no we weren't friends, he was a professional that did something bad to me. We only had one meeting.
He definitely doesn't care, that's for sure. I will let karma deal with him
Took advantage of me for his own gratification
I rather not go into detail
Whatever floats your boat 👍
He doesn't have to investigate. Sometimes you can tell right away who is responsible for sending the messages by the way they write. Also he clearly knows he hurt you and since the messages only started to happened afterwards it's pretty clear that it was easy to tell it was you he also knows if he blocks you, you would likely just create a dozen more accounts to harass him
My sister tried to say she didn't message me but I knew right away it was her by the way the message was written
@GoingNooWhere that is very true, he has my number and email and I was worried that he used it to check whether my contact details were linked to the troll accounts. He found my real account and blocked me on there and left the troll account running. That's how I know he suspects it is me.
@asker I know you are hurting but contacting him is not going to allow you to heal. I know because I was raped and I was also used and abused and I was also left thousands of dollars in debt. I did exactly what you did, in the end I realised making contact will just result in me holding onto that hatred and prevent me from being able to heal and move on. Plus that guy also didn't care at all what he had done either. He was actually out there laughing.
@GoingNooWhere I am so sorry to here this, you are very strong and I really admire your resilience. Some people are truly a piece of shit and I hope karma gets them. How are you coping with everything now? It sounds like you are in a better place? You are right tho, the more I reach out the more pain it causes me. He is enjoying it, since he remains silent he enjoys how it makes me crazier. But I am done trolling, I will let God deal with these people and I pray you get your prayers answered too.
His silence made me go crazy as well. Regarding the rape and everything. I won't lie, I am mentally messed up that in the past I tried to end things and although I still have those thoughts. My baby is what keeps me holding on because I am all my baby has and it terrifies me inside knowing if I end things my baby could possibly end up with someone who could abuse or harm them and I can't do that to my baby
@GoingNooWhere he is sadistic I really hope Karma gets him good. I am glad you didn't do It, I can hear how tough it is for you to deal with those strong emotions, I really hope you are getting support/therapy for this.
I am glad you have your baby to keep you moving forward, It sounds like you have found your purpose which gives you energy. Your baby does need protection and you sound like such a great mum. One thing I will suggest though, keep working on yourself the mental and physical, you deserve to love yourself.
I wish I was getting help and therapy unfortunately I have been screwed over badly by the mental health team and every psychologist and I have even been misdiagnosed and had my patient confidentiality breeched multiple times that I now no longer feel safe reaching out and asking for help anymore and if anyone tries to make me I just lie and tell them I'm fine. I don't even dare say anything to my family because while they are allowed to have depression and struggle and even post it online if I dare say I have depression and I dare try and talk about my trauma I get shut down and told I am no victim and so on.
Honestly I believe one day karma will catch up with the guy you were contacting. I know karma caught up with the guy who done what he done to me because although he is now married he hasn't been able to get his wife pregnant and I know it is cutting them deep inside. I know karma also caught up with the spermdoner who abandoned my nephew when he wasn't even a year old. He too went on to get married and he is his wife were only ever able to have girls. He never got another son and it kills him knowing the one and only son he abandoned wants nothing to do with him. It may take years but karma will catch with him
@GoingNooWhere that is really sad, I can see why you want to be a lone ranger, you have been let down so many times. Honestly with mental health professionals you have to swim through a lot of shit before you find a diamond. I had to go through a fare few crappy therapists so has my partner, it sounds like it's a common theme, but the breech went too far!! How the hell did they do that, we as patients are trusting them with vulnerable information and this is how they handle it. I think there are a lot of organisations/charities where you can speak to counselors anonymously. Have your tried any?
Family judgment sucks, you just alienate yourself from them further. Do you have friends to turn to? Or work colleagues? Sometimes just distracting yourself from those negative thoughts can help? I like YouTube too, sometimes you can find great channels that helps too.
Thanks I hope so too, I wish karma teaches him a big lesson. I managed to get a reaction which helped me stop tormenting him loooool
I am really happy your perpetrator has got his cumuppence. I hope more comes his way until his burdens bring him down to his knees. I also believe what goes around comes around and I am glad your nephew isn't speaking to him lol
Although dont tell work colleagues about your problems, I mentioned work colleagues so you could pass time with them, which could serve as a distraction.
I also feel some friends aren't the best people to confide in either but they could serve as a good distraction.
u Do you tried to do something to annoy him and he turned it around to annoy you. Maybe your plan wasn't such a good idea!
No it wasn't, this hurt me more than it hurt him. He didn't feel anything, I will focus on myself and build myself moving forward.
I would block you in a heartbeat it if this site would let me because you're spamming is becoming increasingly annoying. He's a stronger man than myself
Spamming? What are you on about?
What are you possibly confused about? You have been spamming this question and it's annoying.
I am not spamming this is a genuine issue I am facing. I am sorry if it is t worthy enough for you.
You are spamming. You have asked this question several times just this week. It's a small Q and A site. Everytime you spam this question, it stays on everyone's feed for at least a week. Nobody gives a fuck that you wanted to be childish and create a fake account to mess with someone. That isn't a "genuine issue" that's just you being an idiot.
Many people have mental health issues which lead to behaviours like this, a little kindness wouldn't hurt. I already feel low, don't kick a dog when it's down. Better yet remove yourself from situations that casue you distress. I have every right to be here just as much as you.
I couldn't even be bothered to read everything you wrote. Get a hobby, friends, a boyfriend, find literally anything to stop being this much of a loser.
You're most likely just trolling anyway so cry me a river
Thanks for the advice.
No problem. I'm sure I'll end up giving it to you again because this won't be the last time you ask this
That's funny. I'd deny it and create another one and fuck with him some more.
Lol!!!
Just block the dude and move on.
Yeah I blocked him and I will move on.
Well, he didn't want to give you the pleasure
Ohhhhh makes sense. Thanks for answering.
Give me the pleasure for what?
That never works out.
I am so annoyed 😫😫😫
not this again 😂
Lol he found out and kept quiet the whole fucking time!!!
well there's nothing you can do lol
have you ever thought of the fact that you are giving that man free follows, maybe thats why he doesn't block you 😂
You are enjoying this too much
What is free follows?
everytime you follow him to bother him with a new account its a new follower 😂
Ohhhhh lol
backfire 100 lol
True, although he doesn't know that I know he knows
So I withdrew fast looool
still doesn't change the fact that you are giving him followers lol
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