Men what woman would you prefer and women what do you think men want?

[Anonymous]

Option A

Option B

As a man I want/i think men want a hardworking woman, independent, knows what she wants, gives the respect she receieves and can stand up for herself!

As a man I want/i think men want a caring woman, down to earth, submissive and supporting!

Updates

+1 y

Almost half women think men want option A.. that's sad😣

[Anonymous]

I see two females with blue accounts voted for option A.

[Asker]

😂 yeah... that makes more sense

[Asker]

There are 4 of them now

[Opinion Owner]

I would bet good money I can tell you exactly which users they are. There are half a dozen prominent "male" users on GAG who are obviously females. If you pay attention they are super easy to spot. I'm sure there are others too, but many of them always go anon so I can't tell you the users.

There are obviously some pink users who are males as well.

[Asker]

Alright yeah that makes a lot of sense. I never met a man that preffered woman A over B lol. But I have no idea who the anons are.

Kinda sad half the women (with the pink accounts) dont know what men want

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm a man, and I voted for option A because there wasn't an option to vote for both, and I'll refuse any woman who isn't both (minus being submissive).

[Opinion Owner]

@TheSpaceGnome Sure you are

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Opinion Owner
Dude knock it off. Just because you don't want a work from home artist/coder/gamer/geek for a girlfriend, one who's bubbly, sweet, caring and a homebody, doesn't mean other guys don't. She is either both, and wants equality over a dom/sub dynamic, or I'm not dating her.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheSpaceGnome Mmm hmm

[Asker]

😂 im sure a few men maybe prefer it but most would prefer a submissive woman.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The way I see it, a submissive woman is a pain in the ass.

They don't think for themselves, and you have to decide everything for them.

I can't stand being around indecisive people, especially if they try to pawn off responsibility for their choices on me.

I'm also attracted to smart women (because dumb women are boring hobby wise and shared hobbies and interests are a must), and smart people submit to no one.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I think what some men mean when they say they want a submissive woman, is they want a submissive woman in the bedroom, but I don't want a woman who doesn't initiate ever, because its going to feel like she is with me for money and security instead of me actually making her horny. I would rather she was very enthusiastic, and spent ar least half the the instances initiating.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheSpaceGnome You've made a ton of generalizations and false assumptions here about what a submissive woman is like.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, submissive means you submit to someone else's orders/directions. I understood it just fine. And I do not want it in any context of the word.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheSpaceGnome

You assumed a submissive woman doesn't think for herself, and the man has to decide everything for her, which is completely false in many traditional relationships.

You assumed submissive women are indecisive, which is nonsense. Some are, some aren't, just like everyone else.

You assumed submissive women try to pawn off responsibility for their choices on the man, which is ridiculous.

You assumed submissive women aren't smart, which is absurd.

Smart people don't submit to anyone? Are you really that naïve? There are dynamics in every relationship, including friendships and professional relationships. My boss and I get along great, but we both know he is the boss, and that drives some subtle dynamics in our relationship. If you think I don't make decisions, you're wrong. If you think I pawn off the responsibility for my choices on him, you're crazy. And if you think I'm not smart, you're sorely mistaken.

A man can be dominant and a woman submissive while still treating each other with kindness and respect, and letting each have their choices and responsibilities.

You simply are ignorant of how some healthy and successful relationships work, and what many woman want in a man and a relationship. Or, more likely, you're just a woman pretending to be a man to push an agenda.

[Asker]

Very well put (Opinion owner)!

[Kiasssss]

I’m a female and I picked submissive because of you have two bosses in one house hold it starts to collide

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker Thank you. And thanks for MHO!

[Opinion Owner]

@Kiasssss You're exactly right, having two dominant personalities in a relationship is a recipe for failure.

Now, there are men who are more passive and submissive, so a woman with a dominant personality is a good choice for them. I suspect our gnome here is one of those men. Either that or, as I said before, "he" is just another one of the many females with a blue GAG account pushing her social agenda.

That said, most women are attracted to dominant men, but many also want those men to not be dominant in their relationship. That's unfair to the man, and a great way to ensure their relationship will either fail, or will be unhappy at best.

[Asker]

You deserved it! And I agree with what you answered @kiasssss

As a submissive woman I need a dominant man too, which like you said is the most commen

[BlackJeep]

I got option B. My life is amazing.

[Asker]

2/3 of men pick the same as you!

[Asker]

answered wrong lol but thats great!

[BlackJeep]

There were no wrong options. I would be proud to have option A but I'm just at a different stage of life

[Asker]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Anonymous]

Those options are far too rigid.

My requirements from a partner are small but non negotiable. Hard working? I want her to be committed and passionate about what she loves to do, whatever that may be. I'd rather she work smart than hard. Independent? That typically has a negative connotation to it. Of course I want her to have a mind of her own. But we have to be able to compromise. And of course I want someone who's caring, down to earth, and supportive. But I do not rule anyone I don't expect anyone to submit to me anymore or less than I to her. I have no problem leading. If that's what she wants but I don't claim to always have all the answers. Just always to give a full effort.

So based on that I'd say I don't fall into either category.

[Asker]

Yeah thats the point. It is 2 extreme options

[Opinion Owner]

Well faced with two extreme women I'm going to pass on both then and remain single. 👍

[Asker]

Alright😁

[GreatBigCircles]

I really don't like this poll, because it makes a false dichotomy. A woman can be confident and assertive, AND supportive and caring at the same time. Being assertive isn't being domineering, and being supportive doesn't mean being submissive. As a guy I want someone who I can trust to be myself around, who'll speak up when they're uncomfortable, and are okay with me speaking up when I'm uncomfortable. You know... Like a mutually caring relationship.

[Asker]

Thats the point of the qiestion. Its two extreme options... so its either one of the two or non at all

[GreatBigCircles]

Sorry. As a guy the poll itself just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Feels like I'm being asked to pidgeon-hole myself into a caricature.

[Billlewis]

My only concern in my relationships is to block everything else out and focus solely and exclusively on pleasing the female, wherever that journey may take me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Option B pic is smiling, having fun, and looks like we'd have fun cooking together.
Option A looks too caught up in work

[TheSpaceGnome]

She has to be both.
I'm the male version of both.

Only exception is submissiveness. I'm not submissive, and neither should she be, I'm not into the whole dom/sub dynamic. Its equality or nothing.

[Anonymous]

I want both! My girlfriend is literally the definition of both and she is amazing.

[Asker]

Glad you got her!

[Anonymous]

I want someone who doesn’t attempt to pigeonhole the human race into two silly, arbitrary, made up categories that don’t really exist.

[Asker]

Lol its human nature but okay

[gothbxtch]

as a woman, idgaf what men want!! also, why not a blend?

[MrOracle]

The problem with that attitude is that you can't have a relationship unless BOTH people want one, so by definition, you MUST care about what the other person wants if you hope to get a relationship. Being selfish and self-centered might get you a weekend or a month, but it won't get you anything long-term. This applies equally to men and women.

[gothbxtch]

@MrOracle i see what you’re saying, but i would gaf about a man who was interested in me for me already.

[ColHathi]

Can I have both? I want both.

[Asker]

No... in this dilemma which one would you choose?

[ColHathi]

I don't know, sorry. They can both be good in their own way.

[Asker]

Then I guess you'll be forever alone in this question:) but I wish you meet the perfect match in real life!

[ColHathi]

Heh, thanks :)

[Asker]

😎👌🏻

[als24]

100% Option B.

[Asker]

2/3 of men pick the same as you!

[als24]

Nice.

[littlesquirrel]

You know that women can be both?