Hi!
(Long story, just need to type it. Thanks for taking the time to read it.)
This has been bothering me and I don’t know who to talk to about this..
Me and my coworker have been flirting for months after both our relationships ended almost at the same time last year. We hold gaze while talking for a very long time, smile, wink - almost all cues in the book. We have a lot in common and I’ve started to really like him. I’ve shown a lot of interest, like adding him on social media, texting him, talking when I met him by accident (we live close), and hinting/basically saying I’d like to meet him outside of work. He is polite but never initiates in that way. For a while, the flirting stopped and got intense again. Then he started again and stopped again. Now I am leaving my job (for other reasons) and he ramped it up again. When he saw I was speaking to another guy (just talking), he responded annoyed and jealous. The past weekend I met him by chance at a party and we had intense eye contact for what seems forever - without breaking it. We spoke for a bit but I kept some distance. I don’t want to be pathetic and again try to take it to another level so I just figured if he wants something, the ball is in his court.
He seemed nervous the last weeks with me. A few times he also mentioned out of the blue he wants children in three years and things like that. We had quite real conversations and I personally don’t just discuss this with anyone random.
I like him a lot and I am very confused.
My question here is: am I right by now letting him take initiative after all this? I could just ask but I just really don’t want to be shot down. It would hurt me a lot.
