Or if someone is a good person they're just a good person all round?
Thank you for your replied - really means a lot to pick your brains a bit.
Those sound like pretty extreme characteristics, compared to one another.
But there is a difference between knowing someone professionally and intimately. The friend relationship is in between the two.
People generally have much more control in the work life, among colleagues, managers, etc. People act differently around their peers than they do the people who have the power to end their employment. People also act looser around their family, because they think that family just has to put up with more of them, and vice versa. (Sometimes that is true, but family members end relationships too.)
The most impulsive, instinctual, and potentially honest behaviour comes out in romantic relationships. It's often where a lot of hurt lies, too. People don't like to reveal their deepest vulnerabilities, but they will become an additional player in their romantic relationships. And there is less logic and more emotion, so it's not easy to communicate with that person, in a way that disarms yet doesn't feel like an attack on them. You must tread very carefully if you feel there's something deeper at the root of their behaviour or reactions.
There's no one answer to your q. You will find out. And whatever you learn about this person, you may carry it with you, but remember that it doesn't have any bearing on the likelihood that it means the same for the next people you meet. Treat them all as individuals. (And they will each respect and appreciate you for that.)
Yes he can be a really good friend and colleague and still be a bad person in romantic circumstances.
This happens often:
"When I finally worked up the courage to divorce my husband, 17 years later, many people were surprised to find out that that he was emotionally and physically abusive. "He seemed like such a nice guy!" they would say. And that was true. He was fun, charming and intelligent. But that is the only side they got to see."
https://www. yourtango. com/experts/sas-for-women/secret-life-abused-woman
"People with controlling, unhealthy and abusive attitudes know their behavior is not okay. That’s why they don’t show it to most of the people in their lives or treat others with the same level of abuse."
Yes a guy can be great at work then be a nightmare to his girlfriend in the evenings. In fact I would say it's very common.
Think of it like this. A guy at work knows where he stands in the pecking order. He might be somewhere in the middle. He takes crap from higher ups and that crap flows down hill. He can be a really nice guy at work. But when he gets home he screams at the wife and kicks the dog... At home, he feels he is the boss. Simple example but I am sure a real one.
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Oh look its possible but highly unlikely , people can be many things , but I would say in this example he has not shown his true colours in example 1 , the good part. But some people do have split personalities and mental illness.
ya he can put on a nice persona for work and be a shitshow otherwise
Sure they can some guy make better friends then boyfriends
Of course we are complex
its surely possible
Meaning, you think they're faking it?
It's possible.
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