Hello, I would like to just note that I am a sophomore in college. There is this guy that is in my economics class and he is just so confusing to understand. The first time I noticed him staring at me I look at him and he didn’t stop staring so I looked away because I honestly was kind of scared. It was a blank expression, no smile or anything and his eyes were wide open. I ignored that and moved on. I would notice in class he would stare but it was quick so I didn’t think much of it. Recently, he now started staring at me but smiling this time and its also a bit long but it was better than no expression. I look a hot mess when I go to my classes, because its an early class and I have to walk around 25 mins to get there so I do not look great and it’s extremely humid outside. I am not quite sure what is going on here, I am not attractive so I don’t understand why he is staring. Could this be some sort of dominance thing? If anyone can let me know that would be great.
Why is this guy staring?
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Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, for you, you can’t decide if you’re attractive. A guy being attracted to you does. Guys don’t pick a random girl out of a crowd with the intent to dominate them subtly over long periods of time. He probably thinks you’re cute, or he’s a complete psycho who picked you out of the crowd with the intent to subtly dominate you and make everyone think you’re crazy for posting about it 🙂
I dont even think he knows this website exists 😭
I dont know I get the vibe he's one of those dudes to purposely go after an unattractive girl as a joke because he seems popular in the class and he is friends with most of the people.
That would be pretty horrible if true. I obviously don’t know the guy, but I literally can’t imagine doing that to someone so I wouldn’t even consider it as an option. I don’t know though. It feels douchey to say, but people consider me somewhat attractive and I’m mostly attracted to girls who probably don’t consider themselves conventionally attractive. I’m not necessarily attracted to what people consider conventional beauty though, so I’m sure there are other people who are the same way. Even if this dude is a creep or you aren’t interested, the main point to take away is that you shouldn’t take yourself out of a possibility with someone who may genuinely like you just because you don’t think they could be attracted to you. I know what you mean though, I get insecure about my looks too. Just because other people have considered me attractive doesn’t mean I think so 😂 but I have to trust their word on it, they’re the ones who have to look at me.
Thank you, I think I will just smile at him next time and then look around to see if maybe some of his friends are in on it to make sure. Its just an odd situation and I want to be sure he's not making a joke out of this because I have had this happen to me.
That really makes me sad. I’m sorry to hear that happened to you. It’s like actually heartbreaking the more I think about it. Just try to keep your faith in people. There are still good ones out there, even if they can seem hard to find.
Thank you, I will still try because I dont see the harm in doing so.
Good luck 🙂 give it an honest shot, don’t assume he’s a bad guy, but there’s also nothing wrong with being careful. Maybe you’ll even just end up friends if nothing else.
Dominate you? The hell? Uh, no. He finds you attractive. Don't confuse interest with attraction.
What do you mean interest with attraction? Could it be interest and how do I know if it is?
You'll know if he is interested. Guys aren't subtle like that. I am attracted to the new Ferrari. But Im not interested because I can't afford it.
Its confusing cause he stares sometimes but doesn’t approach me.
Why would he? You aren't showing any interest.
You’re right. I just get nervous it’s intimidating.
Why, it's just some guy.
He just doesn’t look approachable
Then I'd say find another dude.
Well, the one where he's staring expressionless, he's probably just staring into space, you're just in his way. You mentioned its humid on the way to class. What do you wear? That might be a factor.
Literally sweatpants and a tshirt.
Ok, not sure why he'd be staring in that case. It's not like it's a tank top or whatever. Honestly, I'd just talk to him, see what's up. If it makes you uncomfortable, best to deal with it now.
I mean he seems like a nice guy but there is something off about him. To be honest I don’t feel comfortable approaching him.
That's fair. I can't really help much then. Maybe have a friend talk to him or talk to a higher up? Sorry I'm not much help.
Thank you for the advice I really do appreciate it.
No problem, I'm happy I could be of assistance. 👍