What does it mean when a guy says you are too nice?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In some very rare encounters I have met women who were too nice in dating. Usually I have to deal with the exact opposite so I will take nice girl over a selfish modern disrespectful cunt any day.

Anyway what makes me nervous is I am doing things they don’t like but they aren’t speaking up about it. They are just internalizing it and one day they explode from all the pent up anger.

However it takes one to know one on the “niceness”. Chivalry was unfortunately pounded into my head since I was a little boy.

We are often afraid of confrontation and want to hope for the best. Not rock the boat. I’ve also blurted out and made bad assumptions before and ruined a potentially good thing. Women usually expect more tact from men on this then vice versa.

But you have to be careful. There is a sick predatory instinct that exists in almost all humans where we tend to push where there is mush. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and speak up after you have taken a moment to think it through. If you don’t people will take advantage of you.

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

It most likely means you're nice to everyone and look out for their interests. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but people can take advantage of you. People do mistake kindness for weakness, and kindhearted people aren't always weak.

It's OK to be nice to people. Just make sure to set boundaries so people don't take advantage of you. Know when to say no basically. Even if you already do, it's OK to say no on something you don't want to do also.

Never change. There aren't many nice people in the world!

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes when you’re ‘too nice’ you’re not respecting your own boundaries and letting other people walk over you. Basically you’re a doormat. That said being nice is not a bad thing, my kindness was the reason why my boyfriend fell in love with me but honestly he is a much better person than I am. I wouldn’t worry too much about him saying that to you. Just keep being kind but make sure you’re still respecting yourself and doing the things that you want to do without completely bending to another person. Which not saying you do that but I sure did when I was younger

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

If a guy says "you're too nice", it could mean that he's being respectful and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It could also be a way to let you down gently without having to tell you the real reason why he is not interested.

However, being "too nice" itself can also be a compliment and a positive thing. It's good to be kind, considerate, respectful, and generous. So if a guy does say that you're "too nice", don't take it personally and instead take it as a compliment!

Miristheiss · Answer

2 guesses.

1) They are complimenting you, flattering you because you have such a nice, sweet disposition/personality.

2) They are being literal. They think you are a pushover and let people take advantage of you and walk all over you.

Surely · Answer

He probably means that you accept him as he is. Even with his imperfections. You are always there to support and stand with him and will always do things for him. Even if he doesn’t ask you to.
Flip side of the coin. Your boyfriend is a bum. You overlook things that a normal woman would never put up with. But you still worship the ground he walks on, regardless of how badly he treats you.

lightbulb27 · Answer

various translations...

maybe it means you are too considerate of others and not as protective of your own interests. e. g. that be bad as others can take advantage of you.

there can be good views of it.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

It could be any number of things. It could mean he thinks you are a pushover or are gullible. It could mean he thinks you are a bleeding heart or he's trying to let you down easy. It's never a true compliment.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Need more context. What led to him saying this?

007kingifrit · Answer

it can mean many things, maybe he finds it annoying like you're getting offended on behalf of people you don't even know and you won't let him tell mean jokes (personal experience when i use the term)

or maybe he's flirting

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Maybe you're giving more than you receive and it doesn't feel right. Or you're a person who can't say no. Selflessness.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I take it as you’re letting people walk all over you and letting them take advantage of you. You need to set boundaries where that doesn’t happen. You still can be nice but don’t let people use you.

WhitneySnow · Answer

He can’t think of you sexually because you’re too much of a nice girl

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It means he's dumb.  I'll take "too nice" any day.

Anonymous · Answer

You are too nice compared to other girls. Now the context for the comment depends on what happened between you two.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know. Most women aren't very nice. He probably means you're gullible. Most women aren't very nice but there are a lot of gullible women that you can get over on if that's your thing.

Exterminatore · Answer

Hell if I know. Never heard a guy say such a thing or even thought it myself.

Jackblue · Answer

Honestly I think he suspects that you are going to get taken advantage of.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Generally that you have somehow awakened the last shred of decency he has remaining.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Your to nice how what happened to make him say that. What is he say are you to nice in general or are you to nice to guys the talk to you be specific

balyai · Answer

Means you shouldn't be that nice. It's a friendly warning

whistlingwh0res · Answer

people tell that. I don't think its compliment. They tell me "too nice" it's negative. I don't know what else I can do?

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Depends on the context, could be a compliment, could possibly not be one too.

Ciel7889 · Answer

He likes your behaviour and your company.

invalid1 · Answer

It means you're probably dissembling.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You’re a oushover or he’s not that into you

Christoff92 · Answer

You're courteous and polite 😀

boobliker · Answer

he is taken and dose not want to heart you

LavLavLuv · Answer

That means you’re too nice

In_Trance · Answer

It means you need to ask for clarification

peedy · Answer

It means you are a really nice person

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

He means you are boring in the sack.

BLP11520 · Answer

Maybe he is used to mean cold women

Breezy24 · Answer

Just be a bitch. That's what they really want.

riverrat3 · Answer

He doesn't feel he deserves you

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I would turn away froM'm..

Anonymous · Answer

I'm doing great ☺️

RyanK9b · Answer

Exactly that

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