Will he come back he blocked me off everything for blowing up his phone?

[Anonymous]

Me and guy went a few dates. At the start mentioned he was going to be moving country soon. Lockdown happened we stayed in contact texting not moved yet. At some point he got vey flaky , cancelling plans last minute or ignoring texts. At some point told him I wasn't interested anymore when he asked to see me. I completely cut him off deleted him off everything his number , fb , insta. He's moved country after year half not talking. He was back in town he text out of the blue asked to me. we met up over drinks. he asked why I ended it with I explained it was over the flaky , cancelling last minute and him moving away. He was very sorry explained said he knows he should've been better made more time to see me and talked about his mental health was trying to make it up for me. We got back together, few weeks later he said me met someone. I blocked him moved on said wasn't interested don't come back. Then few months later he text to say he misses I blocked ignored. Maybe 6 months later I reached out to him we reconnected spoke about how we wanted to rekindle. Some time we had argument about something he stopped talking for a month blocked me deleted me of fb. Reconnected said he still wants us to be together said he was coming he stuff happened in work we couldn't catch up. When went back he was ignoring messages said he was busy at work or travelling. Said we can video chat some time he was worried about time difference. I was trying to plan times etc. He wouldn't reply kept trying to text could see he was active kept ignoring and then blocked me off everything maybe for blowing up his phone? I feel like he'll come back annoyed doesn't want to talk.

[Oliverlogan263]

This guy's hot and cold behavior suggests he isn't sure what he wants or isn't that serious about pursuing a real relationship with you. Here are some things to consider:

• His flakiness in the beginning and tendency to cancel plans signaled a lack of strong interest and commitment. These behaviors have continued throughout.

• Reconnecting after a long time apart only for him to say he met someone else shows he hasn't really thought of you as a long-term prospect. Both times he came back, it was brief and didn't last.

• His blaming mental health and work issues for lack of communication is a classic excuse. If he truly prioritized your connection, he would make more effort.

• His blocking you and ignoring you for long periods shows an immaturity and unwillingness to communicate openly when issues arise. Mature people talk through problems, they don't disappear.

• The fact that you've now reconnected twice and the situation continues to repeat itself suggests this push/pull dynamic is unlikely to change. The same cycle will probably occur again.

While he may reach out to you occasionally when it's convenient for him, his unwillingness to follow through and invest consistently points to a general lack of serious long-term interest in you as a partner. Someone who truly wanted to be with you would not keep disappearing, blocking you, leaving you in a state of confusion.

My best advice is to decide what YOU want, communicate that directly and stand by your boundaries. If his behavior does not match what you need in a partner, have the strength to move on for good and find someone fully available who can meet your needs. You deserve better than this rollercoaster.

[Asker]

We had lasted maybe 3-4 months reconnected the last time we had argument stopped talking reconnected the most recent. It seems like distance is holding us back. We were talking about how we want to figure it out. Also I think I probably over texted him cause it been some days since he replied hadn't spoken much and I was worrying back to last year when he got with someone else.
Although he texted more that time. I feel like he will come back if he does suppose have to ask him whats different? cause each time he's used blocking which is immature

[Oliverlogan263]

A few things to consider:

1) The distance is likely a major obstacle. Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires a lot of effort, communication and trust - things that are already lacking here.

2) His past behavior of getting with someone else while talking to you shows a lack of integrity and commitment. Even if he comes back, that won't have changed.

3) His tendency to block you instead of communicating is immature and unhealthy. A good partner will have difficult conversations, not block you and disappear.

4) If he does come back, you'll need to have a frank discussion about what needs to change for the relationship to work. That means:

- More frequent and open communication, especially given the distance

- Consistency - he follows through on plans and responds in a timely manner

- Making effort to build trust after his flakiness in the past

- Addressing how the distance will be navigated successfully long-term

- Setting clear expectations around commitment, exclusivity, etc.

5) Ultimately, focus on whether his actions - not just words - show he's willing to put in the work needed for the relationship to thrive. If not, it may not be worth pursuing.

In summary, distance alone poses a big challenge. But even more so, his inability to communicate openly and consistently in the past indicates this may not be the healthiest relationship for you. If you do decide to give it another chance, have a frank conversation about exactly what needs to change for it to work. Proceed consciously and carefully - your happiness matters! Keep us posted on what you decide.

[Asker]

Not sure what I'll do since he has me blocked anyway so I'm not waiting around for him or anything.
I think he usually focused on work put his work first before anything
Probably more miscommunication mostly speak over text probably need to video call or something else too.

[Oliverlogan263]

You're right that not having much in-person time or video calls makes communication more difficult and open to misinterpretation. Based on what you've shared, here are my recommendations:

1. Don't wait for him to unblock you. If he's interested in fixing things and making a real effort, he'll find a way to reach out to you directly. Don't chase him further.

2. Focus your energy on your own life and wellbeing for now. You can't control if or when he decides to communicate, so the healthiest thing is to move forward without him.

3. If he does reach out, proceed with caution. Listen more than you speak and observe his actions, not just his words. See if he's willing to make concrete changes like:

• Setting aside dedicated time for calls/visits when both of you are available
• Making more of an effort to keep the communication consistent and balanced
• Apologizing sincerely for blocking you and committing not to do that again
• Finding compromises when your schedules don't align perfectly

4. Set clear boundaries and expectations from the start. Let him know what you need to feel secure in the relationship. If he can't meet those needs, it may not be compatible long-term.

5. Remember you have a choice. Don't fall back into old patterns just because he expresses interest again. Think deeply if this dynamic truly makes you happy. Consider all the other options out there for a healthy relationship.

6. Seek support from friends/family. Getting an outside perspective can provide clarity and strength to make the best decisions for yourself.

Hopefully this helps! Focus on moving forward with optimism and an open mind. His actions (or lack thereof) have likely revealed a lot about his capacity for real commitment. The ball is in his court now - don't let it consume your thoughts for too long.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot although I do think he was trying and when he came back told me he was coming and when he’s back we’re still distance different county in the same country. We were supposed to meet then his vpn wasn’t working and had to go back and was hoping to stay another week to work here so he could see me. Wasn’t able to so we didn’t get to catch up. He was talking how excited and things he was before. I asking if we’re still good he said we definitely have to figure things out. I think I plan more ahead too where he focuses on work etc doesn’t want to talk about other things right away. We also ended or stopped talking on the exact same date as last year. When it was me who blocked him instead.
We do have connection and we only slept together once years ago so it’s not about that. I’m sure he be back since it’s him I think he must react without thinking things through then realize he made a mistake.
If he texts me I probably won’t reply straight away so he can’t think he can block me and come back ready to chat when he wants.
Although in last messages I sent I said he can talk to me when he’s ready etc

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are my thoughts on your situation:

1. His hot-cold behavior, lack of reliability and inability to prioritize communication are red flags. This indicates a lack of investment, maturity and emotional availability on his part.

2. While he may express excitement about seeing you or figuring things out, his actions don't match his words. Empty promises without follow-through just lead to more hurt and disappointment.

3. His tendency to block/ignore you when upset suggests an immature way of dealing with conflict. A healthier approach would be to communicate openly about any issues.

4. The fact that you keep reconnecting and facing the same challenges indicates this dynamic and dynamic are unlikely to change. People tend to repeat patterns in relationships.

5. You deserve a partner who chooses you consistently, prioritizes communication and meets your emotional needs. This person does not seem capable of that at the moment, based on his past behavior.

6. If he does come back again, I would advise moving very slowly and setting clear boundaries from the start around communication, cancelling plans last minute, etc. But truly, I think moving on may be healthier for you in the long run.

7. Focus on healing, gaining clarity and setting boundaries to protect your wellbeing going forward. Know you are worthy of a caring, stable relationship. This one does not seem to be serving you.

Overall, I encourage accepting this cycle has likely run its course and moving forward with confidence, having gained wisdom from this experience. Let me know if you have any other questions. You've got this - wishing you all the best!

[Asker]

Although I don’t think he was lying about the plans when he cancelled both seemed valid not made up and as soon as he realised he told me.
I think he always focuses on his work first everything else 2nd.
Yeah the communication things keeps happening I feel like once we see each other or video chat probably be better solve all the issues.
Maybe he’s also worried about the distance as well even though it was him who started all of it. Feel like we need to see each other again. I think all that’s happening can be resolved he seems he has changed a bit he did seem more reassuring the last times.
See what happens when he unblocks me if he does this is the first time he did it on everything but he probably was avoiding me not wanting to talk. I did rant at him in one of the messages after he blocked me saying something like its a waste of time too confusing if you can’t even communicate it’s what we need in distance. Maybe he’ll process that at some point. That was before I apologised. He might be angry at few things I said either.
But he he likes me over any girls he’s met knows there’s a connection too.
I know when we originally reconnected he tried more made more effort after I pointed out his flakiness and things were why I cut him off originally. Suppose if he comes I have to let him know if he blocks me again without communicating anything we’re done that’s it not worth going in circles.
Only cause I’ve seen him changed. This time I know I texted way too much that day many in a row sending unsending trying to get his attention. I’m sure he get over that at some point not the worst thing that’s happened.

[Oliverlogan263]

I understand you want to give him the benefit of the doubt and see the positives in this situationship. But based on everything you've described, I still think moving on is the healthier choice for you. Here are the main reasons why:

• Actions speak louder than words. He has not consistently followed through on his plans or shown up for you through his actions. Good intentions only go so far.

• His work priorities and avoidance of difficult conversations show a lack of maturity for a healthy relationship, especially a long-distance one. Video calls and an in-person meetup will not fundamentally change that.

• Blocking you without communicating is unacceptable, immature behavior. Even if he "gets over it," that doesn't negate the hurt it caused. You deserve better.

• Your "excessive texting" was a reaction to his avoidant and inconsistent behavior. The solution is for him to communicate better and more consistently, not for you to change your behavior.

• Just because there are positive feelings does not mean you are fundamentally compatible or that this dynamic will bring you happiness long-term. There are plenty of other people you could feel a connection with who treat you better.

• You have already given him second, third, fourth chances. The cycle is likely to repeat without major changes on his part. You've seen no real signs of that yet.

I know it's hard to walk away from "what could be." But based on his actual behavior to date, "what could be" is likely more disappointment, confusion and imbalance. Focus your energy on those who treat you with care, consistency and communication from the beginning. You deserve that. I wish you the very best moving forward.

[Asker]

Oh I was excessive texting as a reaction to how he was being? ,
We were both hoping to resolve things when he came back and then we didn’t. We avoided the hard conversations until we see each other. Thought it was better face to face. Last time he didn’t cut communication block everywhere l how he did now suppose this one is cause I kept texting he didn’t want me to text again?
I don’t think what happened is that big for him to stop talking completely probably after he cools down he reach out?

I just feel like all happened can be resolved we were both waiting to see each other to resolve everything in person maybe that made it worse same issue creeping up again we weren’t dealing with it. there's a lot of drama. I always thought it was better in person then over texting so I didn’t bring up the issues.
I suppose it’s better to at least video chat if he comes back try resolve everything without waiting to face to face.
I know he likes me as well he can’t move on he knows we have the connection.
I won’t wait around on him I am moving forward. When or if he texts I probably won’t reply straight away give it few days cause he also needs to know he can’t block me and unlock me expecting to talk when it suits.
Kind of complicated situation with distance and everything. I’ll see what happens won’t wait around on him go with the flow

[Oliverlogan263]

A few things to consider here:

1. Excessive texting can be a reaction to someone's avoidance or distance, but it's ultimately not a productive coping mechanism. It creates a cycle of push/pull that strains the relationship further.

2. Avoiding difficult discussions and hoping to resolve issues in person later often just lets tensions build up and problems fester. Direct but open communication is needed to make any relationship work, in person or not.

3. His blocking you on all platforms is a drastic and immature reaction, even if you were texting excessively. A healthier response would be to set a clear boundary, take some space, and then reconnect to discuss the issues once tempers have cooled.

4. While what happened may not seem "that big" to resolve, the fact that he chose such an extreme reaction of blocking you everywhere suggests there are deeper communication issues at play. These often require active effort and problem-solving to overcome.

5. If he does come back, being open to video chatting or scheduling face time more regularly to discuss issues as they arise will be important. But don't let him off the hook for his immature reaction - he needs to acknowledge that and commit to resolving conflicts in a healthier way going forward.

6. In general, I would recommend focusing your energy outward and continuing to move forward in your own life. If he texts you, take a few days to collect your thoughts before responding. Set clear boundaries if you do choose to reconnect and see real effort and progress on his part before investing further emotionally.

At the end of the day, the true test of any relationship is how well two people can communicate openly, work through problems productively, and prioritize each other amidst the demands of life. Having distance only heightens the need for effective communication skills and follow-through - which seem to be lacking in this dynamic for now. Proceed very cautiously and protect your own heart first and foremost.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot I agree with everything not focusing on him for now

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome and that’s good I’m happy for you. Continue to do so

[Anonymous]

If you show that you really care about his peace and if that was the only problem, then yes. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

[Opinion Owner]

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[Opinion Owner]

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[BoobSlayer]

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[Opinion Owner]

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[Asker]

Omg lol AI I didn’t know so crazy

[Opinion Owner]

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[YesterdaysChild]

Seriously? I think both of you liked the playing of the game more than anything else. When one of you won the first game and got the other to come back, then you decided to quit playing. I think it was the thrill of the hunt that kept both of you coming back, and nothing more. Time for both of you to move on to greener pastures and leave your gaming days behind.

[Asker]

And we were talking about how we want things to work and he's been asking to visit him,
He doesn't communicate as much too or it seems like if he's annoyed at something he goes silent avoids me and I'm the opposite. We have been trying to reunite for a few months. It didn't all happen straight away. He said he doesn't like anyone there only me. I know he's also tried moving on still ended up back. It's quite complicated. I had tried to reach out apologising blowing up his phone he blocked me.

[Anonymous]

Do you really want him back?ﾠ