Why does a girl avoid you and denies your existence?

[crystalline0909]

What does it mean when an ex-girlfriend even denies seeing your face where in the last she was head over heels in love with you? What would a guy do about this?

[Anonymous]

i'm dealing with a girl doing this to me , its so tough , like i don't understand why she'd do this , we always got along so well

[crystalline0909]

How long has it been

[Opinion Owner]

been going on for a while , maybe since last summer , well she ghosted me for a while at the end of last summer then returned this summer but doesn't really talk to me anymore and even if i try , barely get anything out of her

[crystalline0909]

Age gap? How long have you know each other like years since you met. Chicks are wired differently then men.

[Opinion Owner]

i meet her when she started working at a restaurant in 2018 so since then , but was more around 2020-21 when the idea of us became more real and we did a shot together at the bar , 2022 we got along good at the start of the summer then things went south for no apparent reason and we haven't really gotten along since

[crystalline0909]

I also asked if there's age gap

[Opinion Owner]

yes she is younger than me as she's in her 20's

[crystalline0909]

From Noida?

[crystalline0909]

Her is name starts from N, A or K?

[Opinion Owner]

no M

[crystalline0909]

Maybe she has trust issues. Girls stop opening up when they feel unsafe, uncomfortable or unsure of the other person's intentions.

[Opinion Owner]

i agree she has issues with me but not entirely sure what they are or why she's feeling this way about me specifically as i felt that i had made a genuine attempt to get to know her

[crystalline0909]

You have to be consistently regular in communication. Most men draw back after one week to three months. That's not how it's supposed to be. It takes time to build trust. Ask her the issue, maybe if she addresses the issues then a serious discussion would pave the way for breakthrough. Give importance to her feelings. Keep yourself in her shoe. Remember the less she trusts the more chances of her being loyal. more blunt she is more truthful she is. More angry is she, means more love. More closed off lacks trust

[Opinion Owner]

i've been wanting to have this conversation with her for a while but haven't managed to , i've wanted to know what the exact issue is for sometime now but she never seems to want to talk to me about it and never been able to figure out why. i'm just not sure how to have this conversation

[crystalline0909]

Call her. Ask her. Keep asking her until she answers. If you withdraw from her for days or weeks or months then she'll think you are there because you are bored, lonely or you want booty call. Try to continue communicating with her about anything consistently regardless she answers or not. Show her you are concerned and want things to change. She has to be reassured of your intentions and show that you can give her security.

[Opinion Owner]

i do try and talk to her there but its been a struggle to get much out of her. i do agree it makes sense to keep trying until i get an actual answer out of her that makes sense or that i can live with. last year when this first started happening i didn't get any closure for months as i didn't see her for a period of time as she went back to school and not at work. which was very difficult to deal with and i'd really prefer to get some answers this year before she ends her summer job and i don't see as much of her so i have the remainder of August

[crystalline0909]

What happened between you that she left? What did you do?

[Opinion Owner]

i talked to her a bit at her work today , she seemed better and we get along but she doesn't totally open up with me.
she was upset that i liked to spend time with one of her girlsfriends too at the place where she worked

[Subflics]

She'd not even be worth the thought