What was going on with this guy?

[Anonymous]

I was at a social group for people with Asperger’s and I was sat at a table with the quieter Aspies. One man with Asperger’s who was cute, kept eyeing me, then when I looked at him, smiled and said hi, he said hi back, then trying to talk to him was like pulling teeth and he didn’t want to work with me in group activities. At the end of the group event, I was standing there, looking down and when I looked up, the guy was right in my face, close enough to kiss me. Just lurking there in front of me, silently. I said hi and then moved back and he continued to get in my space until I moved to the side, then he walked past and talked to a group of other people. What was that about? Was he too shy to talk to me, trying in his own way, or just decided he didn’t like my personality? Most likely? I’m really outgoing and he’s quiet.

[caring__1]

You know this is a spectrum not a diagnosis of people who are all alike. There are common traits, but everyone will be different. If you're outgoing and prefer others who are outgoing, what were your reasons for choosing to sit at the table with the quieter Aspies? Aspies commonly have social challenges. He dealt with you in his manner. He probably didn't mean anything negative by his actions, but this was the best he had to offer. Maybe, if he got to know you over time, he might come out of his shell to some extent, but the likelihood of him being outgoing is slim to nil. I'm surprised you haven't encountered other Aspies you found talking with was like pulling teeth or who were uncomfortable in group settings. All people will be different. If you like what you see, continue the contact. If you don't like what you see, keep looking elsewhere. Don't take it personally. If he didn't like your personality, he would have kept his distance.