Do you need validation from the opposite gender?

[Anonymous]

Do you crave validation from the opposite gender?

[PragmaticProfit]

Undoubtedly, we all desire it to an extent. In my early twenties, my self-worth was heavily influenced not by my grades, achievements, or money- but by the sexual attention I received from women. The sexual attention was abundant, yet after halting my steroid usage, I realized that my dedication to bodybuilding was the primary lure. Anyone denying the role of societal pressures and primal mating instincts in shaping these feelings is either misguided or not being truthful. As we grow older, our focus often shifts, and we find value in different facets of life. It's a gradual process. Nowadays, the core of my self-worth is rooted in my role and responsibilities towards my family. However, if most women in my life were to view me negatively today, it would still sting. So, even as the sources of our validation change, the innate desire for approval and recognition lingers.

[jshm2]

Validation from "others" is among the stupidest inventions of the decade.

If they don't pay your bills, they don't matter that much. No, those 100,000 "friends and followers" don't give half the fuck about you, than you think they do...

[Asker]

I don't have Instagram...

[Minahh]

I used to be a girl like that to an extent... I don't mean dressing provocatively or posting pics on insta (even that doesn't how to always be attention seeking) but I overlooked by boundaries and needs by wanting the guy to like. Now after being through my own mess and currently being in the dating program by this amazing couch who has already taught me a lot I don't anymore.

[Miah05]

A need is something that is necessary to live and function.

A want is something that can improve your quality of life.

Using these criteria, a need includes food, clothing, shelter and medical care, while wants include everything else.

[Asker]

So answer my question

[Miah05]

I did.

[Asker]

No didn't

[Miah05]

Yes i did. a need is food, water, shelter or medical care. Everything else is a want.

Does validation fall under food, water shelter or medical care?

[Asker]

I'dk does it for u?

[Miah05]

*pats head*

[DaveJord]

There is wisdom in this... so yes, I want to change my answer to say yes, I want validation from women, but I do not NEED it! ;)

[DaveJord]

I mean if you are dating and looking for that someone special, then I think it is a fair assessment to say yes to this. Yes, I want to date woman... and therefore I am seeking validation from woman. I am not seeking rejection, so it's fair to say am seeking validation.

[magiusX26]

i dont but those who bare it all such as onlyfans do. it also shows their immaturity because it represents their inability to tell the difference between good and bad attention. they choose bad attention, its a lifetime choice as once you choose that then you set it in stone that that is the only attention you are worthy of.

[Apple1996]

I prefer validation from women over men. Compliments from women just hit different while compliments from men are a dime a dozen. I only enjoy them if it comes from a special man like a close friend, a crush or a lover

[stratford]

If you're asking whether I'd like girls to find me attractive physically or emotionally, yes. But I gave up on seeking it a long time ago.

Most guys don't get that sort of positive affirmation, even in modern society.

[Asker]

You are enough

[stratford]

Sorry, I don't understand?

[Asker]

Compliment

[stratford]

Thanks. Feel free to PM if you'd like to chat about this.

[Anonymous]

Gender? No. All that matters to me is that my community, comprised almost entirely of immigrants, values me enough to know I'll help out in any way I can, and will ask. I'm the son of immigrants and will only do it for them. After spending time in every state but 4, I avoid areas that aren't immigrant majority. Their culture is self destructive, and I have no respect for them as a whole.

[Sonorous]

I wouldn't say it's a need. But it definitely is a want. But only in a healthy amount & through healthy means. Like having a nice friend to chat with & share similar perspectives.

[MementoMori777]

Need is a strong word, it can be flattering but I'm not addicted to it to the point I need it or crave it

[UniquelyBasic]

It feels nice but I don't think I crave or need it.

[Asker]

That's good 👍

[UniquelyBasic]

What about you? Do you crave validation? 😅

[Asker]

Nope.

[UniquelyBasic]

Well good for you then 👍

[rosemilk]

do i, or does my partner already give me validation without me asking?

[Asker]

I don't know u tell me?

[Lynx122]

I used to but at the moment I don't :) I feel like atm I'm more attractive than I've ever been to women and I have a girlfriend so I'm good.

[Adaeva]

I don't but, in effect, I receive all the time.

[Asker]

Lol sure. Stay in school, kid.

[Adaeva]

I want to be well-educated.

[Danny_dan92]

I wouldn’t say I need it, but I would be lying if I said it isn’t nice

[Asker]

That's nice

[inhua]

if it happens, then it happens. if it doesn't, then it doesn't. fine either way

[Al_Musafir]

Seeking validation from opposite gender calls for damages incurable. It's a disease.

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope. It's nice to have from time to time though.

[Anonymous]

Validation of what? Even if they accept me what does that even mean really? You can't really respect most women today.

So if I get it fine, if I don't get it same difference.

[Asker]

*people

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I didn't mean just women. You asked opposite gender. So I only said women.
I try to give respect to everybody till they prove unworthy of it. I'm just saying most women's critique of guys make no sense so I don't concern myself with what they think of me. I know I'm a good person, a man of honor, a man of integrity. That's really all that matters to me. The right people will see it. The wrong people it doesn't matter.

[Unit1]

No but it is pretty nice to receive it nevertheless. Then it means I don't have to sacrifice my style to appease others.

[sheikalana]

I only care for my partner's validation at this point.

[AngryCarl2]

Not any more. I now know how nasty y'all are.

[Asker]

I'm not nasty

[AngryCarl2]

Not YOU personally. I meant them other nasty hos.

[Asker]

I'm not a ho and I'm not nasty

[AngryCarl2]

I don't know who you are but I believe you are correct.

[Asker]

Thank u

[AngryCarl2]

You're welcome :)

[bolverk]

No, I never have, and I'm not Gay before you ask, I've had girlfriends in the past but not for the last 20+ years by choice.

[genericname85]

yeah i do. but i'm a man, so i already know that i'm not gonna get it anyway.

[genericname85]

for women, the world is all supportive, listening, validating and positive. for men it's more like "eat shit and die". and the most morbid thing is that people dare to tell men to "open up more about their feelings and get mental help". yeah, right. that might help if someone miraculously aggreed to pay their bills while they take a break to get their shit together. but men don't get that.

[LiamJHayden]

Need? No. Want? Companionship at least, yes.

[Charliefretz329]

One prefers to get it from their current intimate partner for sure…

[Anemone978]

Sometimes.. but not that often..

[LoveWorkingOut]

You dont need that tbh:)

[Anemone978]

@LoveWorkingOut thanks :)

[LoveWorkingOut]

Anytime :)

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. Not from mine either.

[Siri137]

No, not at all.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't need it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What does that even mean? I don't follow.

[Anonymous]

to be honest i think we all do

[AlbantheGreat]

No.

That's all.

[Anonymous]

My god, I hope not.

[Simslover92]

Not really.

[gothbxtch]

nope

[gothbxtch]

exactly what @Apple1996 said

[serious]

No, of course not.

[Jmmmfi4]

Life's taught me not to expect that

[Jazzy54]

I sure don’t.

[Asker]

That's good 👍

[Anonymous]

I get it every now and then but I don’t
Need it

[Wonderingguyy]

Nah not anymore.

[Grovermint]

No..

[Brady]

yes I do

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Very much ❣️