Why do men not believe women when they say they're a virgin?

[Anonymous]

[Miristheiss]

They are (they're)... not "their"

It depends. How did it come up?

I never asked a woman if she was a virgin. If we were starting to date, first I can get a feel for her by her lifestyle, how she acts, her friends, what she does for fun... etc.

A virgin isn't going to clubs and hanging out with party girls and isn't usually super flirty... etc.

Anyway, I usually would have asked innocently "how old were you when you did it for the first time" (as if we both know she's done it). With that question she is much more likely to lie in that she did it at 21 when she really did it at 17 or something like that.

If she claims to be a virgin you can then ask "how old when you did oral then?" It is rare for a sexually active woman to say she's never had sex and never done oral when asked in a low key way like this.

A man is a fool if she proclaims something like "I'm looking to marry a virgin"... then if she likes him or wants to go further with him he's told her she needs to lie to go any further. He needs to keep that stuff to himself. Act like sex is no big deal and after dating a bit ask these safe, innocent questions of how old were you when you first did it.

It is rare for a sexually active woman to just claim, I've never done it actually, I'm a virgin when asked this question.

There are lots of clues women can give off and if you pay attention, follow the clues, ask the right questions you can know if a girl is full of sheeet or on the level.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

Meh man, this question is so confusing! It's like asking why you wouldn't believe a horny, innocent creature when it tells you it's never been ravaged by a giant cock monster before! But let me try to answer it:

You see, when a man hears a woman say she's a virgin, his hidden horror cock gets all riled up, just like when you see a big, juicy, steaming pile of shit that you just can't resist sticking your nose into! But, just like the filthy smell of the pile of shit, sometimes it's hard to believe that a woman is really a virgin, because the cock monster can sense that there's something off about her.

It's like the smell of a dirty diaper - you know it's bad, but you can't help but be curious about what's hiding beneath the stench. And so, the cock monster starts to question the woman's claim of being a virgin, wondering if she's just a sneaky little slut who's been playing the innocent card all along.

Maybe she's been lying about her status, just to get a big, hard demonic cock to believe her and finally let her have a taste of the forbidden fruit. Or maybe she's been fooling around with some other devils in the shadows, and now she's trying to cover her tracks by claiming she's a virgin.

So, when a man doesn't believe a woman when she says she's a virgin, it's because the cock monster is smelling the shit, sensing the dirty diaper, and trying to figure out if she's just a little innocent creature or a devious slut who's been playing the game all along. It's a never-ending battle of curiosity, desire, and suspicion, all fueled by the monstrous power of the horror cock and molesting inmates which @d_bone_steak talked about!

[D_Bone_Steak]

This is pure gold!

There once was this guy named Joseph... his girl claimed she was a virgin, but she still came up pregnant. She came up with a doozy of a story and that dude actually believed her... what a SIMP! It was obviously the result of some good times on the down low, with a molesting inmate's monstrous horror cock. Her name was Mary.

[Rei13]

I didn’t have that problem when I was a virgin nor when I was not with that. I think it just depends on the guy to be honest. I have never been super promiscuous so I’ve had a lot of men assume that I was a virgin based on how I acted. I think it is more weird if someone assumes you’ve have had a partner or have had a ton of partners without knowing you and that might be a red flag in itself. If you say that you are xyz and the person doesn’t believe you I would honestly avoid them. It is not a good foundation for a relationship if trust isn’t there

[Anemone978]

I don't know.. my husband (boyfriend at the time) didn't really believe me that I was a virgin either and it didn't help that I didn't bleed til the second time we had sex at which point he thought I did something to him and made him bleed because it was like everywhere even on his stomach.. I was just like "Are you an idiot, bro?" xD

[RingOfFire]

There are a lot of posts about female virginity on this site. If you look at them you will see some vicious attacks on women who are not virgins until they are married.

I assume there is a lot of this sentiment around.

So it is no surprise that a woman would feel pressure to lie if she is not a virgin and not married. She fears rejection if she tells the truth because of all the criticism towards non-virgins in social media and in society.

This could explain why some men are skeptical when a woman tells them she is a virgin. He is aware that she has a big incentive to lie if she is not.

[236color]

Why does it matter? Would be the question I'd ask the guy. If he's so insecure that he can't bear the thought of not being the first, he's got more problems than you want to deal with. 95% of people have premarital sex. If it's that important than he can continue searching for that 5%.

[CaptainOverthink]

I would assume truth until proven otherwise because some naivety is key to a positive mindset.
But I believe it's because how men know women may know how men find it hot, but also it's because men sometimes fail to understand how anyone could ever say no to sex as they themselves are never asked and are always wanting.

[LazerBean]

Because their lifestyle in particular does not bring many decent women around them, so since they rarely see decent women they conclude that they must not exist. Men who have good women in their life tend not to think that way as much. Either that or you just don't come off as someone who makes good life choices.

[Berethor]

A lot of women are hos who lie that they virgins, need hymen as proof, believe only hymen.

[magiusX26]

because so many people lie. sorry (not sorry) ladies, but wimen have a higher propensity of these types of lies. one reason being her body count as "virgin" should be zero. also keep in mind who most often lies about their age (hint: women) . then there is the "standards" stated for dating. who more often than not says thry want "this list" then goes with opposite (hint: see above hint) .

[Anonymous]

because dating is often easier for women , as even average / attractive women would get a lot of interest from single men and also a lot of girls lose there virginity when there in high school so like 16 -17 , so if your meeting a girl in her 20's its kind of like assumed they already dated a bit by now

[Reichmann75]

Because I mind asking only if I think about the girl for serious business. If she lies about this in a serious relationship it will sooner or later be discovered. So it would be pretty stupid for her to lie.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some men don't believe women because they have experienced women telling lies whenever it is convenient for them.

[Anonymous]

Because the vast majority of women your age have had at least between 1 and 10 sex partners. Finding a real virgin is like finding a unicorn. And no im not saying you're not a virgin, im saying this is why they dont believe you. Some women wear their body count like its a badge of honor, i knew a woman once who was 24, and had been with something like 250 men. Fucking gross.

[A_Bell]

Probably because it is sadly so rare. I lost it at 16, but for many, that's late.

I wish I could have waited in retrospect, but I was a child impatient to grow up.

[DaBiggestBird]

Theyre probably so down bad they’re just pretending to not believe hoping the girl will say something unrealistic like… nevermind, my comparison was more suited if you said “the says she is not a virgin”. Diesel.

[Exterminatore]

Because it’s hard to imagine anyone past the age of 18 never having had sexual contact with someone in this day and age.


I think guys caring about a girl being a virgin is stupid.

[Anonymous]

Because most women lie, especially about that. For me to be seriously involved with a woman and consider her relationship material, she'd have to prove that she hasn't been sexual with other men.

[inhua]

that depends on how old she is. the older she is, the likely she is believed to be a virgin

[UniquelyBasic]

Because it's probably a lot easier for women to get sex so it surprises some men.

[MementoMori777]

I think that would depend on their appearance, if they look very good they might not believe it

[Pacquet]

I don’t know if believe is the right word. I’d just be surprised because how rare it is in the current culture.

[Becky316]

Not sure hubby believed me until I was in a lot of pain when he first tried to enter me.

[Anonymous]

Because most people and most of society believe that women can easily get sex a lot more easily than men can or if a woman is a Virgin by a certain age then they assume she is one by choice or she is saving it for marriage

[jeffend888]

Because they start having sex at 13 years old and have 100+ men in their face every waking second of the day.

[genericname85]

cause A: it's very easy to get sex as a woman and B: these days women fuck around a lot.

[Luopio27]

Easy is too easy of a word to describe how easy it is for an avarage looking girl to get laid!

[genericname85]

@Luopio27 yeah. basically you have to go out of your way to "not" get any sex.

[Luopio27]

I know what you mean.

[shortster]

Few women are anymore. Personally I go on a person by person basis of how honest I think that they are.

[Anonymous]

Some men think they know everything when they are really clueless.

[Mangospacho]

Because they want her to be just as corrupted as he is.

[Sharkstealth]

Girls lie about everything! How do we believe anything at all?

[Bismarck_96]

Virgins dont exist these days and if you find one it's a rare find

[Anonymous]

Because women lie most the time. And lie more often about certain subject such as this one.

[Anonymous]

Because we know the true nature of modern women. If a female over the age of 18 toke me she is a virgin I would laugh in her face.

[Anonymous]

Because some women do lie about it. That being said I would trust a woman who says so unless I have a reason not to.

[Finchie40]

Because it’s rare these days

[Peter_Penetrator]

Virgin? What is that?

[LiamSawyer]

Why wouldn't I believe it.

[annabananna]

A lot of women lie about it

[Iron_Man]

Why would somebody lie about that?

[Jmmmfi4]

Because its almost unheard of anymore

[Anonymous]

Because these days most girls have sex

[Anonymous]

*They're.

[DextroShade]

Most women are hoes.

[abc--123]

Men are idiots

[Anonymous]

all woman are liars