How do men feel if a women is the 1st to be interested?

[SunnyCaliGirl]

[Lionman95]

I don´t really know how to answer that question because as a guy if a woman is interested in me and she doesn´t say chances are there that I never figure that out. I would say guys are either flattered or confused because guys also like people being interested in them or they are confused because they didn´t expect her to be interested in them.

[Lliam]

Once it dawns on me I look more closely. Picture a guy doing a double take and looking around like "Who? Me?" LOL
If she's cute and I'm single, I act interested back and start talking to her casually until we make a connection. It's cool when that happens.

[AaronKrieger]

For me, as long as I get to still chase her to a degree, then it's fine. I don't want to feel like she'll like me no matter what or else it feels desperate. This is usually figured out after a few conversations.

[Alpha-Provider]

Depends on the girl. If she fits my criterias, I'd feel flattered and I'd say "it's so rare that women actually do something in the seduction market".

If she doesn't I'd cringe. Also the problem is that most of the girls who show interest first are girls who have no problems with dudes in the first place. Which means they are used to date and have sex. And that's a problem because I don't want my potential girlfriend to be like this.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Very interesting point of view, so if a girl is the opposite of a girl who goes after a guy, which would probably be seen as demure and doesn’t chase 1st is likely to be seen differently?

[Alpha-Provider]

@SunnyCaliGirl I don't know. But I'd appreciate if she tried to seduce me without giving me the slut vibe

[SunnyCaliGirl]

@Alpha-Provider that makes sense on how slut vibes can impact negatively
I appreciate your feedback

[Jdodkfndosn]

Depends on if she is attractive or not. However, when I've experienced this, something felt off in each case. My brain knew this was made to easy and my level of attraction for the girls was reduced.

It sounds nice and seems like a great scenario for guys but I think it's necessary for us to do on some level at least, the chasing for the date. Could be the validation we receive when securing one.

[Jdodkfndosn]

Don't get me wrong, I don't think securing a date is a big win or anything, but it is nice to be seen positively by others

[backdoorman]

It depends on the girl and whether I find her attractive, physically and otherwise. But in most cases when a woman is interested in a man, he will have no clue. That's partly because most men are oblivious to the signs women give, and partly because the signs women give tend to be very subtle and ambiguous, and easily interpreted as something else.

[DarkWinterNights]

If I’m attracted to her and we are compatible it would encourage me to ask her out. There’s been a few times where I found out someone liked me and it sparked my interest in them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't feel anything. Apparently I'm not interested yet.

[AlbantheGreat]

Right now, I would tell her I'm not interested. I think men shouln't rely too much on their girlfriend/wife, because she'll probably leave, and if you have no back up, will you resist to the Darkness?

[Pohjolan]

Flattered if we can tell I suppose.

However there's a considerable overlap between the behaviour of interested and not interested women.

[TonyMetal___86]

That's good, nothing wrong with it if a woman was the 1st one to be interested...

[CVNT5]

i would love that so much, it makes our job easier.

[boggboss]

Some guys live it others don't

[Andres77]

Flattered and suspicious.

[MysticDevice]

Surprised but intrigued.

[ChiTown33]

Suspicious generally.

[Jmmmfi4]

Wish I knew