Why do guys play with women’s feelings? He flirted with me and complimented me and messaged me every day for months and now he’s acting cold and said he doesn’t want me to get too attached
Play with emotions?
That is kind of vague. Here is how I am interpreting it. Why do guys act as if they are interested in her, interested in starting a relationship, act as if they care about a girl or like a girl... and then they just bail and leave.
If that is not what you meant then please clarify what you mean by "play".
There are lots of men who will tell a girl anything she wants to hear in order to get sexual access out of her. If they think the girl wants a relationship or wants the guy to like her he'll act as if he does... to obtain his goal of sexual access. Once she gives it up, his goal has been obtained, he was never serious about her or she was the type he'd never consider for a relationship OR he is the type that never plans to settle down ever with anyone.
Society preaches that you are liberated, you are empowered to have a bunch of casual sex and to be easy to bed. This is a lie unless you are a girl who literally just wants to sleep around and never be in relationships with a connection, bond and intimacy. For girls that really want love, a connection, a relationship, a commitment... you are all fools to buy in and put out. You should be putting off sex and going very slowly and be getting relationships and commitments before you give up sex.
All of you giving up sex thinking that will lead to a relationship... a large portion of you are being duped and you'll get played.
Most of the time, the main goal is to get your panties off. There are all sorts of methods, tactics, and strategies that might be employed in order to get that part done.
It just so happens that flirting with her, complimenting her, and doting upon her are all valid strategies. I mean they work!
Perhaps he has achieved his true goal already, or perhaps in the process of trying to get there... he's decided you're just no longer worth that much effort for whatever his reasons may be.
Think of it like this... If I was seeking a woman with the intentions of having a family in a comfortable loving marriage... and then I start to figure out she hates kids and says things like fuck the patriarchy unironically while she brags about being a strong independent woman. Why why why, would I continue to try and make something work with her?
Take that scenario a step further... Perhaps I did enjoy the sex and would like more of that at least. I might keep her around for that purpose, and then drop her like a bad habit once I find someone that is a better fit for my intentions. I wouldn't want her getting all obsessed and trying to eat up my time either. I would adjust how I behave towards her accordingly.
Some guys just like the attention you give them and make them feel wanted. They’ll go hot and cold because they don’t actually like you in that manner. He will keep you on the hook until he finds a woman he likes better, doesn’t necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you. Space would be good for you do that you kill any attachment you have to him and move on
Try spending over 7 years with someone and fall pregnant than find out when you are 6 months pregnant that he never to have kids with you and he dumps you
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Well I'm gonna say first that it's very possible he was just trying for sex. But it could be that something happened in his life wrecked him and maybe he's depressed. Guys don't really talk about what they're feeling so most guys suffer in silence. They either get through it themselves or they end up stuck in downward spiral. Because if he was talking with you for months then I feel like he likes you and he wouldn't just disconnect himself from you like that unless something happened. Of course he could be just an asshole hard to tell.
Guys don't just play with girls, they do with friends as well. Don't invest in people, more than, you can afford to lose.
I don't think he was intentionally playing with your feelings, I think he was confused with his feelings towards you, and then decided that he doesn't want to pursue things further with you.
“Men fall in love with what they see and women fall in love with what they hear. That’s why women wear makeup and men lie”
- Jordan Peterson
haha he likes the attention that you give him
don't listen to the other users that tell you that he wasn't trying to do anything to you.
nobody would compliment or flirt with you daily for months unless he had a motive
Well, he told you he wasn't looking for anything serious.
How is this behaviour unexpected?
If you're looking for something serious, you need to communicate that and avoid people not looking for the same.
Did he tell you his intentions beforehand? Or maybe he's just a two-faced a$$hole. Or maybe you did something that upset him and now he's being distant to you. There are whole bunch of possibilities that could factor into this.
Some guys are immature and love the chase. Other guys just genuinely have have no idea what they want.
Why do girls only focus on the top 20% of men then act like all guys are doing this? You want a guy that doesn't play games? Start dating/looking at non-chads.
He probably isn't into you anymore, but doesn't want to say the actual reason (s) why due to not wanting to hurt your feelings.
Why do people, men and women, play others? Selfishness.
He most likely showed you and told you from the start that he didn't like you. You just refused to leave. So stop pointing fingers at men when it's your fault. Accept the rejection and move on
Lack of maturity and character. or afraid of being hurt
Only thing I play is them tig oh bitties, nah’m sayin brother? UP TOP, don’t leave me hanging!🙌
women play mind games and do manipulative shit waaaay more than we do, women just freak out when it’s redirected back at them.
For the same reason women flirt with guys when they have zero interest in him.
Why do women make these things into gender issues when they're just behavioral issues? I'm a guy and I've faced the same from girls.
That's cold it someone who can't or won't to love you
he never played with your feelings, you though he liked you but you fooled yourself
Fear!
Because it gets them laid.
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