Would you move desks if a guy kept harrassing you at work?

[Anonymous]

I posted about this a few days ago.

A guy who is 23 kept asking me to go for a drink after work. When I turned him down he asked again for a coffee and lunch. Both times he wanted it to be only him.

Tomorrow is his last day.

I'm in a tricky situation because another lady opposite us has her WFH day that day.

I don't want to sit next to him all day by myself and make small talk. Most of my good work mates also have their WFH day also, so I have noone to go to if he asks again.

The lady, her face faces my face. Then my back faces his back.

I planning on sitting at the ladies desk so there will be a big gap where I won't have to talk to him.

Do you think he knows I'm trying to avoid him?

Also other people who know me will ask why I'm not sitting at my desk on his last day.

I was planning on saying.

"He hasn't got rid of his empty boxes and they're piling up so I don't have any space, when he breaks them down he'll be all over the floor and his recycling bins are taking up too much room in the small area."

Is this believable?

I just don't want him to ask me again to do something and when I say no, he'll be right there.

If he tries again, I'm going to go to my manager.

I can't WFH this week as end of month is always busy.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You sound exhausting. You don't "HAVE" to talk to him now. Just stop. Sorry he's too autistic to get the social cues you're giving off. Your box excuse seems feeble and nobody is going to believe that, or you are intrinsically so high maintenance that they ARE going to believe it because it's par for the course for you. I don't know which is applicable, because obviously I don't know you, but neither of those paint you in the best light, so I'd advise against that.

[Monalisa77]

she's blatently said no.

[Asker]

I have told him no so many times. Don't bring autism into this. He's exhausting. I had repeatedly say no, even infront of others. No is no.

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 Thank you 😊

[Monalisa77]

A guy i liked offered to walk me after work but after a few weeks of flirting id become too shy n nervous around him so got his boss to ask him n he suddenly cut me off

[Monalisa77]

I left him alone pretty much after a few attempts of trying to talk, it was only when i heard he was leaving i attempted to talk to him again and i thought things were fine again... Never did find out what his issue was

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 You honestly can't figure out what his issue was? He cut you off because you got your boss involved and he got set straight. How would you expect him to act towards you afterwards?

[Monalisa77]

It was his, can you not read? It was just a walk to the theatre where my mum was and if thats all it was, he could have said so lol

[Monalisa77]

he's mates with his boss, it was a friendly chat n his boss was v encouraging when it came to me n him if that's all it was i wouldn't still b none the wiser. He didn't even read my insta message of an apology then just stares at me when we c each other

[Monalisa77]

Irc, he told his boss about me already before he even asked him

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 I can read just fine, can you write? You said "A guy i liked offered to walk me after work" so... you were the one he was asking... and "so got his boss to ask him n he suddenly cut me off"... now his boss is involved. What part of what I said is incorrect?

[Monalisa77]

I said i asked his boss to ask him as things had gotten awkward, if hed said no to me i might not have handled it well.

[Monalisa77]

Mmy boss wasn't his, we had different teams

[Monalisa77]

He was flirting first too, i never start as too shy

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Monalisa77 Right, so you shot him down, now you talked to his boss, so now he's embarrassed, so now that ship has sailed.

[Monalisa77]

No i never did that, id just gotten confused n a bit shy. Never been out with anyone n dont expect guys to flirt with me

[Monalisa77]

Infact everyone else thinks the same, no guy would possibly want to flirt or get with me. So u can understand y i was confused n weirded out, even when i asked him to stop (just once, (as he was bothering me whilst i worked) he was still doing it

[Monalisa77]

Im interested in someone else atm n ill try not to make the same mistakes again

[TipsyFr]

Well we don’t have your no dating in the workplace ethics. Over here if someone asks you out and you don’t want to you say no, you’re not interested. If he’s persistent and tries again you tell him no and to stop asking because it’s making you uncomfortable. If he asks again then it’s harassment. If you tell him no he should get the hint, if you say I’m busy he would probably keep asking. ✌️

[provokeesmokee]

If he's not leaving you alone, talk to your boss. If your boss is no help, talk to his boss and HR.

Your work is being disturbed and he isn't so important that his sex drive comes before company productivity, as far as HR is concerned.

Make sure you document every proposition, rejection, and interaction where he tried flirting. Note the date, what's said, where, and if there's any witnesses that can corroborate.

Then get him moved.

[leahzrc]

I read this as "would you move if desks kept harassing you at work" I was gonna say "they mock us all day"

[inhua]

"harassing" is a matter of perspective

flirting vs creepy

flirting vs creepy

[DarkLegacy]

That basically sums it up

[Finchie40]

It sounds like since he is leaving the job his true colors are now shining that he has a crush on you and he figures he my as well take a shot at you since he won’t be working with you anymore shortly. So you are best to distance yourself from him if you have no interest in him what so ever

[Anonymous]

you got a few options either go to your manager and report him and go to HR and report him for sexual harassment OR you could call out sick from work OR you could punch him in the face and punch him in his dick and balls so hard he bends over from the pain. Personally I'd go with the third option but you do as you see fit

[DarkLegacy]

If it is his last day then what is the problem. Harassment is something that a person feels, he probably does not have any intent. Besides i expect your problem is not a case of him asking you out, but more a case of his physical appearance.

[abc3643]

If tomorrow is his last day, then what is the problem?

[Ironic_Method]

Just tell him you want to be left alone. If he doesn't, then go to your manager. No need to come up with elaborate schemes about any of this.

[boggboss]

It will be pretty obvious why you are doing it meh good luck I guess

[Avicenna]

yeah, I'd do that

[Anonymous]

Own that! Say you don’t want to sit with him because he keeps asking you out. Simple and move on.

[cnj421]

Yes. And repost them to HR.

[Staximus]

Tell him "take a hike, pal"

[KrakenAttackin]

What is WFH?

[Anonymous]

Kick his balls