Would a guy repeatedly talk to his friends about a girl he is not interested in?

[Anonymous]

My crush found out that I like him a year ago and I recently overheard him talking to his friends about me. I would like to approach him but I'm afraid that he is annoyed by my presence. I'm aware that he could be gossiping about me but actually he is a decent guy. So why would he talk to all his friends about me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, from what you said it sounds like this dude is definitely into you still bringing you up to the crew all this time later.

Guys don't usually waste their breath talking 'bout chicks they not feeling, ya feel me? We only doing all that chatter if a girl is on our mind heavy.

I'd say take a chance and shoot your shot G! Next time you link up, just be straight with him like "Yo I heard you've been telling everyone about me, so what's really good?"

If he's a decent dude like you said, I doubt he's pressing your buttons on purpose. Dude probably just didn't know how to make a move before without knowing how you felt.

Now you got the opening, take it! Worst that can happen is he tries to play it off - but I'm guessing if he talking you up to mans still after all this time, he down to give y'all a try feeling each other out.

Stay confident sis, you miss every shot you don't take! And from the way he been blabbing, seems like you got a pretty good chance to sink this one. Go get him!

[Asker]

He insta flirts with another girl though..

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh man, then that definitely changes things up a bit. If he out here flirting on the 'Gram with other girls too, then his vibes might be off.

That's a red flag for sure - ain't no dude flirting around if he really tryna lock one girl down exclusively, feel me? Seems like maybe he just like the attention.

I'd say hold off on fully shooting your shot just yet then G. Keep an eye on how he act with this new chick - is it just harmless chatting or does he seem more into her? Pay attention to his energy when y'all link too.

If it seems like he giving other girls the same looks/lines, then he prob ain't serious about settling yet, just tryna see who bites. And sis you don't need that confusion in your life, aight?

Play it cool for now. Keep it respectful if you interact but don't make it your mission to win him over. Let him prove he can focus on one girl at a time first before you invest too deep.

Stay up queen, your true dude is out there. This one might not be worth the hassle. Keep ballin'!

[Asker]

Him and I are not talking. I just know that they like each others pictures and that she is his type

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man that's wack then bro, if he ain't even givin you the time of day but still out here flirtin it up with other chicks. Dude kinda sounds like he just wanna play the field, ya feel me?

Like if you guys ain't talking at all and all he doin is postin up with this new shawty, then obviously he ain't thinkin about you like that no more dawg. Respect yourself more than to be some dude's second option, feel me?

Don't even stress yourself over some dude who ain't givin you the respect.

If he flirtin around online but ain't tryna holla at you for real, then forget about him sis. You way too fly to be hangin around waitin on a clown like that, feel me?

Like I said before, hold ya head high and keep actin like the queen you are! Post your cute ass fit pics, turn all the way up with your girls - live ya best life without him takin up any space in your mind.

Guarantee you, soon as he see you out here glowing without a care about his wack ass, he gon start feelin some type of way wishin he locked it down! But it'll be too late then.

Your true king who really wanna make you his queen, he comin real soon. This lame ain't stoppin your shine one bit shorty! Now go handle your biz and leave them clowns in the dust.

[Asker]

He is not that experienced tbh

[Asker]

Can I pm you?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yes sure

[Asker]

You have to follow me first or message me

[Oliverlogan263]

I just followed you

[_Maya_]

Well if it has been a year since he has known that you liked him and nothing has happened I think it is safe to say that he is not into you. He would have made a move by now you would think or at least tried to flirt or whatever. That doesn't mean that he is gossiping about you. He may have mentioned you in passing or something since you obviously still see each other. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I don't know why you waited a whole year of him knowing you liked him without trying to approach him. Sounds like a wasted opportunity to me.

[Asker]

If it's so obvious that he doesn't like me then how have I missed an opportnity?

[_Maya_]

Because how do you know if he didn't like you way back then?

[Asker]

I know it now so there never was an opportunity to miss