Why is this…. I don’t know him personally?

[Anonymous]

i only known this guy for about two weeks. he is known for flirting with a bunch of hot girls. i dont know if his goal is to be friends or date them. im one of the girls he flirts with but he is possessive over me the most. its not the good kind of possessive either, the kind where he will be mad at for talking to other guys when we aren't dating.

[ProbablyClueless]

Why tf would a guy flirt with someone he only wants to be friends with? The chances of miscommunication and the woman (understandably) thinking he's romantically interested are too high.

[Asker]

We are not friends tho

[ProbablyClueless]

That's my point. He's sort of "claimed" you.

[Asker]

So ironic that he did all that …. I did see him around for 2 years or so… but I think he was talking to someone but they weren’t official.. he eventually started avoiding me once they became serious

[ProbablyClueless]

If he started seeing someone, it makes sense that he wouldn't want to interact with someone he flirted with before he got into the relationship. I'm sorry you've had to put up with all the weirdly aggressive behavior.

[Asker]

Ikr bc I thought it was genuine or I thought it would go somewhere

[ProbablyClueless]

I hear yah! I think sometimes people do things with genuine intentions in one moment, but then something about the situation changes and their mind changes with it.

It could be that the guy was being genuine but was flirting with a few women he considered good options. People move so weird sometimes.

[Asker]

It couldn’t be genuine… why didn’t he choose me…

[Asker]

All that for nothing. It makes no sense

[ProbablyClueless]

Flirting for the sake of flirting isn't uncommon. It' can be a lot of fun.

[Asker]

But at what expense? My own emotions and insecurities. I felt embarrassed telling my friend about it… she didn’t even believe me. Then when we got into it she said how ugly I am and how he would never like someone like me. It hurt a lot bc I wasn’t even trying to talk to him. I payed him no attention at all. I thought it was real

But the killer part is his girlfriend looks nothing like me. She’s blonde hair blue eyes. She models. She’s hot. She’s different. She’s everything I’m not. I can’t help but look at her all the time. Her pics and everything …

I just feel shitty bc I thought maybe I was beautiful

[spartan55]

Who cares why? If you're smart you will get away from that guy yesterday. You probably won't though.

[spartan55]

No guy ever has the goal of being your friend.