Why does this married guy flirt with anyone but me?

[Anonymous]

He flirts with all the women in our office but me even though I resemble his wife the most and he doesn’t plan on leaving her anytime soon. While he is flirty and goofy with everyone else he is very reserved and short with me. I understand that I might not be his type but why did he marry his wife then in the first place?

[_Maya_]

So you are upset that a married guy isn't flirting with you. Do you see anything wrong with that? I know he does with everyone else... and that is so wrong. So why would you want him to do it with you too? That is the way you come off like you are mad that he isn't flirting with you. I would be disgusted if a married guy flirted with me. That means he is a step away from cheating. Not to mention never a good idea to get involved with people you work with. So this is just plain wrong on so many levels.

[Asker]

I know that it is wrong I just don’t understand what’s his problem with me. He is behaving very weird around me

[Asker]

Yes i wouldn’t appreciate him flirting with me but it’s not nice to feel ugly either

[TruthBeTold77]

Because imagine it's off putting who the hell what's to flirt with someone who looks like your partner? May as well just go home and flirt with them instead

[Asker]

no its not to me

[Asker]

If i loved my partner i would be nicer to people who look like him or are the same type

[TruthBeTold77]

People want the excitement of other people aka people that look different from their partner. What does it matter anyway he's married like why you so desperate for attention from a married person 🤨

[Asker]

you dont get it. it is insulting if you are the only of 15 women he doenst flirt with. it makes you feel super ugly. and also i wouldn't mind if he wasn't so dismissive around me

[TruthBeTold77]

Wow you're that insecure? You need to work on your self-esteem, love , respect the whole works because you have issues

[Anonymous]

Lol jealous that a married man “flirts” w all the other women but you. Wtf is wrong w you women. He’s in the wrong too if he is flirting w them but all of the other women are as well for letting it happen. Please define what you mean as in he’s flirting w them? Because in the eyes of women from what I’ve seen if a man is laughing w a girl, joking, having a good time it’s considered flirting. When in reality she may just be a cook chick w doesn’t act bitchy.

[Asker]

Well if someone always talks to an intern he doesn’t supervise and invades her space then yeah it looks weird

[Asker]

Also I saw him trying to play footsies with that girl during a team meeting. He was moving his feet under the table the whole time because he couldn’t find hers -.-

[Opinion Owner]

Ok he doesn’t like you move on. Women always after something they can’t have

[Asker]

Yeah, I never gave him a reason though and I’m prettier than her

[Opinion Owner]

Which is subjective. That’s your opinion of yourself. But when it comes down to it your opinion doesn’t seem true if the man you’re infatuated w is going after the other girl.

[Asker]

He is going after everyone but me and do look better than her according to everyone I ask

[Opinion Owner]

According to everyone you ask like your friends? Men aren’t usually going to say no she looks better than you, especially if they’re your friends or they just don’t like her in general. Even worse when you ask your girlfriends.

[Asker]

They mentioned it unprompted

[Opinion Owner]

Well regardless of whether they were genuine answers or not the dude doesn’t sound interested in you. If he is, which I don’t even know why I’m still entertaining you w my answers seeing as how he’s married. This discussion shouldn’t even be a topic. Then he’s trying to make you jealous by using these other women which is a shitty thing to do so that’s even more of a reason for you to stay away from him. I’m not saying what he’s doing is right, but if he does like you why is the just coming up to you to talk rather than using other women if that’s what he’s doing. Unless you’re seeing someone else or showing you’re not interested in him? But ultimately, the big picture here is he’s married, if you had any sense you’d keep it professional. Get yourself a man who isn’t going to do this shit to you when he’s at work one day married to you.

[spartan55]

Wtf? Fucked up component #1 You are upset that married man doesn't give you enough attention... really
Fucked up component #2 You can't understand why he would marry his wife because you think you most resemble her?
Wow, seek mental help.

[Anonymous]

The reason why he doesn't flirt with you at all is because you are the one he likes the most. He has no real interest in the other ones. But you shouldn't be concerning yourself with any of this.

[Asker]

Why does he hide from me and look at me with disgust?

[Opinion Owner]

He's trying to get rid of the desire by avoiding, being short, being rude, not engaging and the desire can cause anger. The flirting with the others is an expression of that energy channeled elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Honey you are obsessed with this man, please stop. He’s married, you acknowledge that every single time you post about him so what’s wrong with you?

[Asker]

I was obsessed with people but not with him

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you post about him so often then? It’s genuinely worrisome…

[Opinion Owner]

You also keep comparing yourself to his wife which I’m absolutely not sure why that matters. Just because you personally feel like you favor her and “look better” you’re more deserving of him or what?

[Asker]

It’s just weird when you are the only of many women he treats differently

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing weird is feeling left out or upset that you aren’t being flirted with by a married man, it’s also weird comparing yourself to his wife. I hope you stop all this.

[Anonymous]

He's a creep

[Asker]

Yeah But even the attractive women like it. Why isn’t he creepy with me?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he doesn't like you or his wife that much

[Asker]

Then why did he marry her? Also I’m prettier than many of the women he flirts with

[Opinion Owner]

He's tired of her I guess? Can I see how you look?