I went to a social gathering to network with other folks who travel solo or in group, basically to learn from each others experiences. This guy came up to me and started talking. Over the next 30 mins, he just went on and on about his job, his apartment that he owns and the three side businesses he runs. He also tried inquiring if I was interested in having kids later in my life. Basically, he was selling himself and trying to gauge if I fit in his "requirements". He happened to ask for my phone number and I gave it. I know that I have to learn to say no and I have decided what to do next time some guy asks and I'm not willing to give. Out of being polite, I just continued the conversation and at one point, I moved into a group of guys and girls to avoid talking to him one-on-one. I did notice that he was also exchanging numbers with another girl in the group. Seems like a player.
Anyways, so he texted me the time I shared my number and I didn't read those messages indicating to him that I'm not interested. He texted me again a few hours ago asking how my week is going and if I'm free for coffee on Sunday morning. I haven't opened the message to read it as it flashed on my phone screen and I was able to read it there. So, now he thinks that I haven't read his message.
I do not want to talk or meet him. Should I just ghost him? I know its not mature thing to do but I'm done being nice already.
2 mo
Is ghosting a player-kind-of-guy a better option or to reply and turn down his invite for coffee?
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Wow, you handled this situation about as poorly as you possibly could. Just say "thanks, but I'm not interested"
I agree with you. This was my first time at a gathering where I didn't know anyone. I thought I would just go, talk to people, hear their travel stories. So, this guy approaching like that was new to me. And I just was polite. I did realize that I have to learn to handle such situations in a better way.
Thanks for your advise. I will do so!
For normal emotionally intelligent guys getting the runaround rejection is worse than just a simple thanks. Used to get me so frustrated... I felt like saying I can handle you rejecting me, honest! Lol
Aww. I'm sorry to hear that. I have been rejected myself so I know how it feels. My best wishes!
It's okay. Any guy who wants to date (except the top 5%) learns about rejection early and often. My first was when I was 12, and it was awful, but I learned to handle it. My most women have no idea about what rejection is.