Guy takes lengthy time to respond to my messages?

[Ofoceansbeaches]

Tldr: He used to be so happy but when his relationship failed, he always takes time to message me hours or even days

He admitted though that he still has contact with his ex but they are no longer together. I've been undergoing a lot of heavy issues lately like death of family member

He does respond to me and helps me. He even tries to solve all of my problems even if some of them I just mentioned in passing but he brought all problems up and tried to fix everything in one message.

But it seems like he responds very late. I'm not sure if I should be happy that he is trying to fix all of my problems even those that I am not worrying about or should I be upset that it feels like with the delay of his response, is it an indirect message to just stop messaging?

I once stopped messaging him before but he kept messaging me and tried to bring back the friendship.

[Chevy1_kb]

my ex use to take long answering me on texts after a year of the relashionship thays cause he was cheating new birds to talk to wiles am still his and said he loved me all the time only me but did all that and after a year said he would call all the time but never did that pissed me off to fuck a swear thats when I just decided to no text him see if he does first am no being to soft let him things he's hots gift everyones after him get me and the full three years a was with him took me out a walk four times went a nice cycle with his mum but never anywhere else like pictures dinner out town for clothes shopping swimming sea life center but done all this with the other ones plus he always use to look about everywhere when we where walking as if incase anyone seen me with him i could see through him

[Anonymous]

sorry for your loss.

not sure why you're so concerned for this one friend to answer your messages? yes, your feelings are valid. but sometimes people are just busy, don't know what to say, forgot, don't want to talk. just please don't depend on one person to help you through tough times. that puts a lot on that person and it may make them pull away. which is what you see here. people have their own problems too.

if you need problems fixed, please see a therapist. one that can actually help you.

[Giddyup]

When I was first getting separated before divorce was final, I was on dating apps and more than a few women said I wouldn't date someone who was is newly divorced because your not ready.

I called bullshit, few years later and I say the same thing now. Point being, it's difficult to be in a relationship when your not in a clear mind. Sure, sex and hookups can be easy. But if you want to connect with someone, both of you need to be ready. Sounds like neither of you are ready?

[Anonymous]

your question while fascinating isn't the reason im here.
When i went to school i was taught to spell dilemna with an n, but apparently its now spelt with 2 ms and was always spelt that way.
But it wasn't, im not an idiot.
Which brings to mind an alternate reality theory i can't recall the name of,
Does anyone know?
(only permitted 2 questions today so can't ASK it)

[midnightmoon05]

You two were texting/connecting with each other while he was dating a woman? That’s call cheating.
he takes long because he is busy with other women… you are his “friend”? Not his wife.

[WhitneySnow]

He sounds like a good guy. He’s just taking the time to respond properly to all your problems. He’s probably super busy and stuff too. Don’t dump him as a friend just because he responds really late.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like maybe he sees you as nothing he can gain, or even that you are just taking advantage of him, or you are not appreciative so he is slowly ghosting you. What may I ask do you do for him?

[AmeerX]

Sometimes people need brake from instant messaging. I find it tiring to message. I like it if it is really so urgent then the other person should just call. You should call him instead for a few days. It will help

[spartan55]

Good lord. All of this over text response time? Smh...🙄

[strateguy632]

because very busy. so try a reminder text in evening

[Jamie05rhs]

Probably because you were part of the reason that his relationship failed. And he's understandably pissed about that.

[OddBeMe]

You even reference “too long didn't read” and still wrote a novel long Q.

Maybe you answered your own question.

[Alex8736]

Let me ask you this. When you 2 are together in person do they reply instantly on their phone to incoming texts?

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Even i don't reply quickly because some people are busy

[shades777]

shoes on the other foot huh

[Anonymous]

People have lives, stop being selfish

[MaxiMad]

He loves you.

[Andro36]

he's married

[In_Trance]

He's busy

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you