When he gives compliment on my character and not on my looks?

[Anonymous]

When guy gives compliment that I’m ”kind-hearted and very nice” does that mean he’s not attracted to me?

He didn't give compliment that I’m pretty or beautiful. He just said I’m very nice and kind-hearted.

[Anonymous]

Either you are ugly or he's some type of incel who thinks you need to be "humbled" hoping to lower your confidence so he can get into your pants. If it happens often wirh different guys you're probably just ugly. If you were attractive he wouldn't pass the chance just because he wants to stay friends like us women do sometimes. Even if he isn't actually interested he would take a chance for sex if you're attractive. Saying this without any hate, I'm ugly myself

[Asker]

He’s muslim and he doesn’t do sex before marriage

[Anonymous]

My guy says nice things like I've got a big heart and reaches out and touches it and I'm like that's my boob, my heart is up hear but he's gone into honry mode and we have sex

[Asker]

So he could be atttacted to me even though he hasn’t complimented me on my looks?

[Blueeyes81]

It depends. I've told women I was dating that as I figured they had heard the "you are beautiful" or "you have gorgeous eyes" line a hundred times before. I wanted them to know I found her character just as attractive.

I've also told women that I had no attraction to this. It was meant to show how much I respected her.

So context is key.

[Asker]

Would to tell girl after you rejected because of some compatibility issue?

[Blueeyes81]

Yeah, if I genuinelyfelt she was nice and sweet.. That's pretty common in soft rejections. Build them back up after you just tore their heart out so to speak.

[Asker]

What does soft reject achieve though? He rejected me because of different life goals. Does his words mean that he otherwise liked me?

[Blueeyes81]

Soft rejections are mainly for the person doing the rejection. No one wants to hurt someone else especially if they are a good person but just not compatible. So they try to give you good with the bad. I hate receiving soft rejections myself but I get why people do it.

[Asker]

Do you think he otherwise liked me and found me attractive? It’s weird how he couldn’t look me in the eyes at all.

[Blueeyes81]

Hard to say. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. That's why I hate soft rejections it always leaves you with questions vs getting smacked with the cold hard truth. By the sounds of it he liked you as a person but just wasn't feeling it and wasn't looking forward to rejecting you. He had his reasons and sadly only he knows them.

[Asker]

The reason he gave was “different life goals”

[nonyabeez-wax]

He's trying to be unique. Some of us guys know that a lot of women get the "your beautiful" compliments all day everyday.

He probably finds you hot, but doesn't want to come off like the other sleaze bags that hit on you...

[NamerOfStars]

More likely, he's trying to do something MORE than just complimenting your looks. Women hear that all the time, and he's trying to stand out.

[Asker]

Would you say that to a girl after you rejected her because of some compatibility issue?

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

I feel like women get commented on their appearances too often, like it's the only thing of value that they possess. So, I try to notice or say nice things about their character or capabilities / talents instead. That's just me.

[Asker]

Are his compliments very special coming from a guy?

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Hard to tell. He could just be attempting to seem "different".

[Riribichri]

He’s playing and giving short dick energy? Or he’s not into u , bro zone him

[AydenHazor]

It could be he's not attracted to you, or it could be that he is attracted to you and is trying to differentiate himself by complimenting you on who you are and not just how you look.

[boggboss]

Means he respects u and dont want to come off as only wanting your body

[BigDog1989]

Probably just trying to be genuine. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One mans pretty is another mans "ugly"

[Asker]

Are you saying he probably didn’t find me attractive?

[BigDog1989]

ask him

[Asker]

I have another question

[Asker]

I guy that I stopped talking to months ago I suspect is stalking me now

[Asker]

Recently fake account that had same first name as him had viewed my stories ( it had his first name and first letter from his surname) now I can’t find that account anymore lol

[BigDog1989]

Sounds like it. Or a fake

[Asker]

Today fake account view my storied and then block me as soon as they’ve viewed my story. Who would do that? That same account has viewed my stories couple times now. It has female name.

[BigDog1989]

yikes

[Asker]

What?

[BigDog1989]

nothing just saying "yikes", i mean at this point you're just telling me your life story. No real question here

[Asker]

Do you think it’s probbly him stalking me?

[BigDog1989]

prob.

[Asker]

Why would ge do that when he dumped me?

[BigDog1989]

to troll you

[Asker]

Lol I don’t think so

[BigDog1989]

i think so

[Asker]

And why would he troll me

[BigDog1989]

why does anyone troll. TO BE A TROLL

[Asker]

Okkk

[BigDog1989]

GO AWAY

[Anonymous]

Perhaps because you are not attractive enough, i mean you are past 30.

[Asker]

Lol you’re a troll

[Anonymous]

Are you hot? Or do you see yourself as more of a Plain Jane?

[shades777]

just say thank you and move on

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[shades777]

instead of fishing for compliments just move on

[Asker]

He said that after our first date. He didn’t want second date because of different life goals. During the date he couldn’t hold eye contact with me. I don't know did he find me attractive or not. It’s weird how he couldn’t look me in the eyes

[shades777]

ah well just move on then, its not that big of a deal

[Asker]

Does his words mean that he otherwise liked me and was attracted to me?

[shades777]

hell if i know i wasn't there

[Asker]

What’s your guess tho?

[shades777]

whats there to guess about,

[Tstrbrainer]

What exactly was the compatibility issue?

[Asker]

Different life goals

[Tstrbrainer]

Just because you have different goals and are not compatible for a relationship doesn't mean he has to dislike you, I'm guessing he still likes you.

But since there's no second date, why bother?

[Asker]

Still likes me in what way?

[Tstrbrainer]

Like a person, a friend and most probably as an attractive woman he'd like to make out with

[Asker]

So you thought he found me attractive? When I asked him what goals didn’t align he just replied ” just in general level they don’t align”

[Tstrbrainer]

Maybe that's because you guys are from totally different backgrounds when it comes to professional or social or private life

[DreamLife7]

He sees you as a friend no attraction

[azgınteke]

I attach importance to intelligence