Why am I so hung up over a guy I didn’t date?

[laurlaur101]

He seemed to be interested first and told me to hit him up I did the opportunity was there didn’t want to miss it and everything was going well we clicked I thought there was a connection and seemed like he liked being around me and I had fun with him and one day he stopped talking and I don't know why if I initiate he replies and in person he was acting weird i didn’t do anything wrong weirdest encounter ever never had a person act that way towards he was so nice before he completely switched and I don't know why that is then another guy talked to me in front of him he stayed there if he didn’t want to be around me then why was he still around when another guy was talking he acted so strange he seems like he hates me or something I don't know why he was like this then people told me he doesn’t like to get close to peoole but why pursue me then stop I don’t get it I’m tired of this. I wasted my time I feel like I got suckered into it.

[Anonymous]

Please take a break from dating, and I mean good solid few months because you need it. Right now you are destroying your self esteem as you keep pursuing men in one way or another and when it doesn’t work out it chips away at you. This situation was a blow that you could not afford since your foundation is already so rickety. He’s left permanent damage because you couldn’t handle that level of rejection, disappointment and you’re already so low you can’t rise above it right now. Instead you treat this as a void and think filling it with another man who’s interested will solve it. Nothing will solve it, not our feedback or a different guy, it’s inner work that you have to do so you can heal. The moving on happens when you feel ready to release that trauma, and you’re not.

[laurlaur101]

Yes been doing that that was my wake up call I guess I honestly feel much at peace on my son rn not interested in pursuing anything at the moment it’s the decision I made yet

[IslaTheWitch]

I would say he played with you. He probably got what he wanted (whatever it was) and now gives you the cold shoulder. Or he didn't get what he wanted... It is hard to guess, but from my perspective, he is no longer interested.

[laurlaur101]

Why do guys play? Idek what he as after so no he didn’t get it I barely knew him was trying to get to know him. He asked questions and made efforts and then he even said that I didn’t like him enough and idek why he was saying that like I don’t think he liked me enough I felt weird about the whole thing I even said to myself this seems too good to be true how could this guy like me and I always think how could any guy like me I didn’t want it to be real I don't know. I feel upset because I let this happen I should’ve known I don't know how to move on from this I’m pursuing myself I’m so sick & tired of failed attempts with guys I give up he came to me first I gave him a chance probably shouldn’t have but I didn’t know I feel like a damn fool😔 I don't know what to do and he kept me on social media tho I just want know why and get to the bottom of this I hate not knowing anything idek what to I feel like I’m not worth it to anyone

[IslaTheWitch]

It's understandable you feel tired and wronged.

One option is to write to him openly about your observations and ask what happened.

[Emanon25]

Don’t waste your time with this.

[laurlaur101]

I don't know what to do anymore been trying to be ok but I’m still not there yet I don't know what to do I think about this situation constantly keeps replaying in my mind

[Emanon25]

As I said, don’t waste your time and look for someone else.

[laurlaur101]

I don’t like anyone else right now I’ve been focusing on myself

[laurlaur101]

I dont have it in me to pursue anyone else anyone I’m done it sucks people come to me first then screw me over I’m done with this crap what tf is this behavior

[Emanon25]

Pm to talk