Guy didn’t text for a couple days but when I texted him he replied right away?

[Anonymous]

Guy I’ve been seeing had stopped replying for a couple days, I waited to text to avoid being clingy so early on. So a couple days later I started up a new convo and he replied within a couple mins. His replied were super detailed, he even typed a whole paragraph detailing what he did that day. That night we texted for a couple hours stright until he stopped replying again. That was last night so he could pick it up again, but I’m wondering what your opinion is on his level of interest? He’s always been the one to initiate convo, this is the first time I’ve double texted. We’ve been on one date but it lasted the entire day, and went really great tbh! I get anxious due to past experiences, so I’d love some advice.

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Thanks all :) so it’s been about a day and nothing back. Do I keep waiting, maybe send a follow up in another day or two? Or start to worry? You’re all correct that he does seem interested when he texts. Just a little confused about these delays in between. Hahah oh gosh, dating.

[236color]

By the Great Green Goddess! Ladies please stop trying to diagnose relationships by text messages. A couple of days ago, my wife asked me if I had gotten her texts, I hadn't. Looking into it we discovered that my notifications were turned off, (I didn't do that). When, he answers, how quickly he answers, if he answers, all of that, is NOT indicative of how he feels about you. Again men, for the most part are, literal and linear. When asked they will say what they mean. If not asked, we will often not say anything. If you want answer RIGHT NOW, call don't text. Also understand you are not thing only thing happening in his life, he may be working, in class, studying, asleep, someplace with poor cell service, his notifications got turned off. Text messages aren't the absolute predictor of emotion.

[Asker]

Thank you 😊

[spartan55]

My advice is stop micro analyzing texting behavior and focus on the stuff that matters, (like when your next date is)

[Anonymous]

Do you like him? Do you think he likes you too? Doesn’t matter how many times you’ve texted him or he’s texted you, if you like each other, text whenever. Sometimes I forget to answer messages. Other times I just ignore them and do my own thing for a bit. Unless this has been consisten and you know for a fact he’s losing interest. Who cares.


Me and my ex used to triple text each other in the span of like 4 hours. I didn’t count his messages, and I doubt be counted mine.

[Asker]

Thank u

[Anonymous]

maybe he forgot. maybe he didn't want to talk at the moment. maybe he wasn't sure. maybe he didn't know how to answer the text. it could be literally anything. why not just ask or move past it? any change in behavior is okay to bring up. communicate.

[Nikki1989]

Really? You haven't figured this out already?

[DreamLife7]

Right like he's clearly not interested

[sheikalana]

He seems interested but since you guys are still in the talking stage and is not yet that serious he's just being casual and doesn't feel the pressure to stay consistent yet.

[Asker]

Makes sense. Still haven’t heard back yet, so k wait it out or maybe check in in another couple days? Hmm. Judging based on the quality of his messages, he seems interested.

[sheikalana]

Did you ask him a question and he hasn't responded?

[Asker]

I just asked what he has planned for this weekend. However this has happened before where I asked if he had anything fun planned and he replied a couple days later, and it happened as I mentioned in my post when I double texted for the first time and he replied right away

[sheikalana]

If you asked him a question and he left you on read I feel like it's his time to reach out to you.

[Simpleton1999]

Honestly when everytime guy has to initiate conversation, it kinda makes us feel tired. I understand that women don't want to be too much available but it's super tiring if you are the one who always texts first. Conversation and relationship is like a two player game. Both people need to contribute, not exactly equal but enough that the other person doesn't feel like he is talking to a wall

[smne35]

He's seeing others and to explain in detail his whole day is another lie, you way to wait in line for you turn go ahead but don't you think you deserve better

[magiusX26]

stop relying on just text. call, video chat, meet up and talk

[DreamLife7]

He is not your boyfriend and he is not interested in you. Get it? If a guy is not contacting you he is not interested in you.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you are dumb?

[ProbablyClueless]

Sounds like he's interested

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

He maybe forgot 😂