Why do men take forever to ask me out?

[Anonymous]

Some ask right away and I’m like not even comfy saying yes though I’ve said yes before anyway just cause I felt obligated lmfao.
but yeah. Then you have men that flirt in and on. I’m just like expecting to never get asked out OR to get asked out right away when i don’t even wanna say yes.

[_Maya_]

One possibility is that you don't show signs of interest even if you think you do. Sometimes people see us different than the way we perceive ourselves acting. Perhaps you aren't sending the signals back when these guys are flirting with you. Just one guess. Is there more context like are they endlessly flirting? If you don't want to say yes then don't to the ones that ask right away. You don't owe anyone anything and not under obligation to go on a date. Only go if you are comfy with the person.

[Asker]

This one guy kept asking me out and I felt like I had to because I once kinda said yes and then ended up cancelling lol!

[_Maya_]

😆 that's one way to say "no" is to say yes and then can't do it lmao.

[Asker]

Yep but he doesn’t even take no for an answer. After the dates I said don’t contact me again but he still has been trying to corner me etc. so it really didn’t matter either way.

[_Maya_]

Damn that is creepy stalkerish

[Summeroflove]

Because if you want to go out with someone then you need to be the one to ask him out. It could be MANY reasons why. It could be he’s asked girls to get rejected, a lot of people also flirt to see if someone flirts back to see if they like them, other times someone might not even be flirting.

If you like someone then you just need to ask someone or you limit yourself to those who ask you. You don’t HAVE to say yes not anyone. Just a polite no thank you would work you don’t have to explain to them why you said no. Just be nice about it unless he won’t leave you alone.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

From your post your giving mixed signals and rejection hurts. Personally if I were getting mixed signals no matter the attraction level I will most certainly walk away and ghost you. I consider that playing head games. I got better things to do with my time than play preschool games.

[PrincessBunBuns]

So in my personal experience, and I’m talking to guy and we have chemistry but he hasn’t asked me out yet, I’ll straight up ask. I’ll say “Well, when are you gonna ask me out?”


They’ll do one of 2 things, ask you out OR give an excuse why they can’t. Even the shyest man will ask you out on a date at that point, if he doesn’t, he’s 100% not interested or looking for someone to pass the time. I don’t care what excuse he has, he’s broke, he’s shy, he hasn’t gone on a date, etc. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just ask them out? I have never understood why women just passively sit on heir hands awiting for the guy they like to ask them out. He may never ask you, and then you'll never know hat might have been. Just grow a pair and take some initiative.

[In_Trance]

You're not giving them the right signs

[Anonymous]

You are intimidating.