Did I mess up any chance I may have had with him?

[Anonymous]

So I took a liking to this guy. We had good conversation, laughs, always hug when we see each other etc and you can tell that we liked each other. The feelings were mutual and they showed. The thing is, we would only speak when he spoke to me. We would only hug when he went in for the hug first and it wasn’t that I didn’t like him like he liked me but I fear rejection and I’m shy and sort of introverted. So rather than making the first move, I always overthink of what could happen or overthink about what he will think if I did make the first move. Long story short, I guess he got tired of being the one to have to make the first move all the time and now he ignores me and gives me a cold shoulder. Although it does bother me, me being me, I ignore him as well rather than being more mature and putting my fears to the side and taking the initiative to interact with him first and put in the same effort but I don’t want to come off as “Thirsty” because he could also be doing it to make me chase him but it seems it could be for the first reason I mentioned. I notice where I could be lacking maturity but I just can’t bring myself to be the first to speak, flirt, hug etc even though I know I like him.

[spartan55]

He's not trying to get you to chase him. He got tired of you doing nothing.

[Anonymous]

You smell like drama n headache

[Asker]

I actually haven’t started any drama with him. He chose to stop speaking due to my lack of interaction and I just kept quiet about it. I didn’t go to him and get angry because I understand why he did it. It’s me. It’s about me not facing my own fears so I’m far from drama but a part of me wants to fix what I know is my fault but that part of me that fears rejection is telling me to just let him ignore me and I ignore him until the feelings go away and try again when some other crush develops and don’t do the same thing again. I’ll learn from this.

[Opinion Owner]

You will face this same issue with other crush too. No one gonna kiss your feet just because you're shy or whatever. You have to change yourself

[Asker]

To be fair it’s not that I want any guy I like to kiss my butt and pamper to me. I just can’t bring myself to be more courageous. So, I get comfortable with the guy I like always making the first move because it keeps me in the safe zone. What I always tend to forget is I can’t hide in the safe zone forever because then this happens and it’s not that I even do it purposely but I’ve had bad past experiences that has placed that particular fear of approaching first in me.