He keeps coming back, acts like he wants me, but never stays. Why?

[crystalline0909]

He wants me to remain madly in love with him but always leaves me later after shity communication

[Leowolf13]

I’m going through this and I know how painful it is! We were in love but circumstances pulled us apart and now she gets in touch once every few months, only talks about her, not us, but I listen like a good boy lol and validate her feelings, then she disappears. She rejected me when I attempted to reignite our relationship. I finally stood up for myself and said this is no good, we shouldn’t talk anymore. She got mad and said she “needed” my friendship, as if I wasn’t allowed to walk away tho she rejected me. There’s nothing left that we share, just the rare text convo.

so it could be that he knows he will feel good by talking to you but he’s not interested in commitment. You probably give him validation in the thoughts he shares with you and you might give him a sexual charge when he needs his fix. I’m really sorry this is happening, it’s so painful and cruel. I had to learn to stick up for myself, even though it meant losing the one I love, because I knew I deserved more than I was receiving, because I believe in giving what I hope to receive.

[Leowolf13]

@crystalline0909 you are very pretty too, so I’m sorry he’s like this. Not fair to someone so beautiful

[smne35]

What was that term used not long ago, one night, nah that's got it booty call that's it that's what he sees you as and when you realize this and stay keeping the kitty away and him and find yourself a good dude who will respect you for who you are this will continue as it has

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's foul, sounds like he's playing You, just keeping you around so you don't leave, I'm sure his excuse isn't enough or you wouldby be questioning this, sounds like a waste of your time.

[ChicoFromThe305]

wouldn't*

[crystalline0909]

He is kinda whore

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's even worse, then I know exactly what he's doing, I hope you are aware he is speaking to other women and is most likely doing the same to others, but it's not fair to you that he's keeping you around while he talks to others, I'm assuming your emotions for him is keeping you from speaking to other men as well? If so then that's probably his game, he speaks and treats you like you are the special one so your emotions for him don't change and you stick around for him, while he does buttfuck what somewhere, I really hope you managed to get over whatever you have for him and see the reality on the long term effects of his actions and how it will effect you, he either puts you first or he should loses you, there's many guys out there that are willing to put you first but the more time you waste waiting for the one that plays games, he might find someone else and throw you away, trust me, the fuckbois don't have the proper material for a relationship, it's just how it is, the one that will lose at the end is you if you waste your time on him, my best bet would be to confront him about how he treats you, speak your mind and ask him why he keeps switching up on you like that and make sure he knows you won't tolerate it forever, that's his problem, he probably feels like you would.

[crystalline0909]

He lost me 4 years back.
Anyway you are absolutely right.

[ChicoFromThe305]

He lost you four years ago but you still stick around, why wouldn't he believe you'd stick around forever

[ChicoFromThe305]

But I've seen the player game too many times to lack the knowledge on it, best of luck crystalline, wise corn out ✌🏼

[crystalline0909]

I don't stick around. I've removed him from my life. He just appears back with in few months

[ChicoFromThe305]

Next time ignore him, watch him get flabbergasted lol

[dynamicyandere]

Exactly. He’s just keeping her hooked and reeling her in before she goes to far. It’s a game. She’s the fish and he’s the angler.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep that's the perfect description, he's taking advantage of her hopeful spirit.

[crystalline0909]

I get it. He is playing me but Why would he want me hooked. What does he get out of this

[ChicoFromThe305]

There could be many reasons, for example it can be as simple as it feeding his ego and the more girls he has waiting, the better he feels, he could be keeping you around for sex and if you've never given any that's a bigger reason why he might keep you around because it might hurt his ego that you haven't given him any and it's in his bucket list and keeping you around gives him hope.

[LiamSawyer]

Sounds like he lacks maturity or there's an incompatibility issue.

[LiamSawyer]

A beautiful woman like you should be able to find a guy that deserves to be loved by you and that treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

[NikolaiIvanovB41]

He just wants sex from you and you give it to him easily.

[crystalline0909]

I never do... its been 4 years me rejecting him constantly

[Nemesis2k7]

He wants the validation / his ego fed. He is a narcissist. Run.

[SlayingBoooty69]

IF he is too inconsistent, you should move on. Not worth the time if he can't commit.

Do you mind if I ask you for some help?

[crystalline0909]

Sure

[SlayingBoooty69]

leave me a dm?

[crystalline0909]

Done

[bradley142]

cause maybe he dont want you wanting anyone else which he should either love and want you or let you go

[Andres77]

Step out of his game.

[Jmmmfi4]

DOESN'T SOUND READY

[crystalline0909]

Then why lead me on, and then closed off

[spartan55]

Because you are easy sex.

[crystalline0909]

I'm not. That's a bigger issue for him

[spartan55]

He is easy sex?

[crystalline0909]

Yes.

[spartan55]

Huh? That makes no sense.

[crystalline0909]

How come? He is very easy to get in bed. Any women can have him, all they have to do it send a nude or talk dirty. He'll fuck.
And I'm an extreme private person and don't let random men touch me.
What doesn't make sense to you.
We used to be together but since I discovered his infidelity I left him.

[spartan55]

You make it seem like most guys won't jump at the opportunity of casual sex...😂😂

[crystalline0909]

Where did casual sex come from. It is not about casual sex for me and he knows it. You sound like you are not here to understand my point and answer my question instead you are here on behalf of men.

[spartan55]

Think whatever you like.