Why does he keep hurting me emotionally than keeps coming back?

[Anonymous]

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Because you allow it. He's hoovering.

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/hoovering

You need to end it, but you probably won't because you enjoy being codependent.

https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-signs-of-codependency#signs-of-codependency

[DishLady]

👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@DishLady Thanks. :D

[idonotlikeyou]

Because you allow him to, you're doing this to yourself. You give him everything a man could want for free, including voluntarily agreeing to let him take his frustrations out on you. So why wouldn't he come back?

[Anonymous]

Because you let him back…. That’s why. You can not allow him back. He’s obviously a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, or dark Empath, at least something along those lines.

[Asker]

His acting like nothing has happened and being all nice what shall I do in this situation

[Opinion Owner]

Because to him hurting you is nothing. This is what vampires do. They suck the life out of you. Once that life is gone… It’s on to their next victim. Until he sees you doing well again

[Opinion Owner]

I know it hurts. But you need to be clear to him that he really hurt you and has no remorse. Seemingly no empathy and if he has any he enjoys the pain of others.

Tell him to leave you alone and don’t come back.

[Air_Force_Guy]

He sound’s controlling. Ain’t worth your time. Those things don’t usually get better (unless he’s working though issues and that’s just a stress response)

[Asker]

Also so the next day he acts like nothing happened and is being very nice to me I don’t want to fall into his trap again what should I do?

[DishLady]

Guys who keep hurting you, walking away and coming back typically have a controlling nature. Don't let a guy like that get too close to your heart. He's manipulative. Just because he shows up at your door doesn't mean you need to let him in.

[Asker]

Yea this morning his trying to be all friendly and nice how should I respond

[DishLady]

Shut it down. He's just going to keep doing this to keep you under his control.

[Asker]

Why what for?

[DishLady]

He probably has no way to feel empowered other than to mess with you. Some guys "get high" off of messing with a woman this way. Don't let him.

[smashleyy]

People can only treat you as badly as you let them. He keeps hurting you cause you keep allowing him to. Speak up for yourself and set boundaries

[Asker]

He is acting all nice and as if nothing happened am I falling for his trap again?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why do you keep accepting him back tho? How many times does it have to fail for you to know it's not compatible 😂

[Asker]

He is acting like nothing happened. And being all nice what do I do

[ChicoFromThe305]

Move on

[Asker]

What’s his tactic

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why does it matter

[Meisdipa]

I think you should ask is why are you allowing that to happen?

[Asker]

I’m not allowing like this morning his acting all nice as if nothing has happened and I am afraid to fall for his trap again why he being like thsi

[Meisdipa]

Just walk away if that's the case

[spartan55]

Because you let him.

[jahaims]

Because you let him