Did I just shut down this guy trying to flirt with me?

[Finfin1981]

I’ve just broken up with a guy so I’m chatting on line to someone but I think I’m a terrible flirt and just closed down a conversation where he was flirting 😔 please help me decode:

Him: yes I love my hot tub it’s great to be naked in the garden !
me: so you go naked in the hot tub?
him: yes 👍 obviously also it’s a great view for ehe neighbours too 🤣?
me: I wouldn’t know 😜.
him: well yes ! It may be a debate as they say 😂

me: I’ll have to take your word for it 😉.
him: well whatever happens to have a hot tub with you clothed or naked will be great. End of discussion.

how do you interpret this?
thanks

[ZackBan]

Your next line should be
"This discussion will only end in that hot tub. How it end remains to be seen 😉"

Trust me this is a solid back and forth flirting. Neither of you shut the other down, he's clearly into you and you're doing good with flirts

[JacobJordan]

your best option for response presuming you like the guy would be something like "oh me clothed and hot tubs don't really mix we'd have to go naked" or flip it. other option could be "well I do enjoy a good hot tub when do you want to meet" etc

[letthefire80]

I think unlike RPG chat options, men in real life, at least in your scenario can rewind conversations. You could follow up with "e-pp bba lapa tuu?", and he would still be willing to.

[Finfin1981]

What does that mean?

[Finfin1981]

Sorry what does that mean. ? Thanks x

[TrueConfection]

🤣🤣🤣 So true!

[TrueConfection]

That means you didn't shut him down.

[letthefire80]

That means a man will be unlikely to shut you down as long as he is interested in you even if you fail all your speech checks xD

[TrueConfection]

He wants a hookup. Just reply at any time and he'll still answer.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Sounds like he is a catfish!

[RedInnocent68]

Don’t think you shut him down. But there’s no where he could go with it. Now if you wanted to level up (and it doesn’t matter when you send it), you could be like, ‘so, used the hut tub lately?’ Or ‘so are you going to invite me to a hot tub party?’ And you’ll be right back where you left off.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

He was hoping for sex. That isn't flirting that is overt sexual innuendo.

He wasn't interested in a relationship past maybe a friends with benefits or quick hookup and he left the door open to see if you would be willing.

[yourfriendrob]

Hey girl, let's spill the tea! ☕️🙌 Sometimes, it's not about shutting someone down, but recognizing when someone's flirting game is just plain bizarre! 🤷‍♀️🙈


Remember, you have the power to choose who you want to engage with. If a guy's approach is leaving you puzzled or uncomfortable, trust your gut! 🚩💔

[spartan55]

You are the who leveled the flirting... Wtf?

by the way "end of discussion" came off as bitchy

[Finfin1981]

What do you mess I levelled it? So he shut it off you mean? Thanks

[spartan55]

Whoops, I misread that part, my apologies.

[Finfin1981]

That’s ok but I’m pretty sure he levelled it ! Seriously useless at this stuff been out of the game a while 🤣

[spartan55]

Hey, you and me both. You haven't even met this guy?

[Finfin1981]

Yes only met him the once though

[Finfin1981]

I know him through a friend

[spartan55]

Hmmm, seems pretty forward.

[Uby10000]

Probably a pick-up line? I am confused as much as you lmao

[Alex8736]

Nothing wrong with being flirty. I would tell people I'm getting nekkid but to further add it would be because I am getting in the shower 😇

[balyai]

You just broke up and you already started to flirt? Damn

Your ex deserves better

[Finfin1981]

He was cheating

[balyai]

Okay his bad

[balyai]

You both are kinda having a dirty talk

[Finfin1981]

But he’s the one that pulled back right?

[balyai]

No one pulled back

[balyai]

He literally said he doesn't mind being naked with you. And ended the topic cause he didn't know how you would react

[Finfin1981]

Ok thanks so he’s trying to gauge my interest I guess

[balyai]

Not sure if he likes you or wants to be in your pants. Can I see how you look?

[Finfin1981]

Lol ok

[Finfin1981]

You can see now profile

[balyai]

You are pretty

[Finfin1981]

Thanks

[balyai]

No problem

[balyai]

Wanna message me? I want to ask you something

[YAsQuen]

ur not getting any younger

[Finfin1981]

Neither are you

[klm75]

Interesting, can we chat privately?