Was this guy flirting with me?

[VenusxxoxLove]

I told this guy I got a new job working at a museum. But I wasn't sure about it because it's a classy and elegant place. And then he said "well you are classy and elegant" I had a woman tell me the same thing a couple of weeks ago. (she's my friend and she wasn't flirting though). So It's hard for me to tell if the guy who said the same thing was actually flirting with me or not. He and I did sleep together once a couple of years ago.

[Guy13]

Yes…he was flirting

[Guy13]

Hopefully he close the flirt with invite to go out.

[VenusxxoxLove]

He's in a relationship.

[Guy13]

Oops, I missed that.- That complicates things... I guess you have to back off?

[VenusxxoxLove]

We slept together while he was in a relationship.

[Guy13]

Who knows... Time will tell...

[VenusxxoxLove]

Who knows what?

[Guy13]

How it will all work out in the end.

[Avicenna]

He definitely was flirting with you

[TheSpaceGnome]

Compliments are not flirting.

[VenusxxoxLove]

Compliments can be flirting.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, compliments can be nervous stalling to get up the courage to flirt, and they can be a way to hint that they want to flirt, but they are not flirting themselves, and often they are platonic in nature, or a way to avoid offending.

Flirting is direct. It's suggestions, requests, touching, things that initiate intimate progression in a relationship.

I can compliment someone without desiring them or having anything progress, for example saying they look nice is not flirting.

[VenusxxoxLove]

"Compliments can be nervous stalling to get up the courage to flirt" honestly I have never heard of this before. Flirting is not always touching either. You're right you can tell someone they look nice without wanting them. But as I've mentioned this guy and I have already had sex before. And in the past I have left him sexy pictures of me in lingerie.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm aware, my point is that those are your tells as to whether or not he'd be interested, not a compliment.

[VenusxxoxLove]

I was at his place of work he's a cashier who works at a store where I shop. Of course he's not going to touch me while he's on his job.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Public places are bad for flirting, but thats moot.

You already had sex, your confusion seems unwarranted and you are overthinking the matter, reflect on your past experiences with him instead of overthinking a compliment.

You had sex years ago, but you aren't a couple today, that is literally the most telling point of your story. If he actually liked you, you'd not even be in this situation. He would have said so before, during, or after sex, not 2 or more years later...

[VenusxxoxLove]

Just because we aren't a couple does not mean he doesn't like me. A person can like someone and not be in a relationship with them. Also, people's feelings change and just because it's been two years doesn't mean he can't start to like me years later.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You have a lot to learn, you can't even see the red flags yet.

[VenusxxoxLove]

What red flags? I never said he wanted to be in a relationship with me. I asked if he was flirting with me and you said he wasn't. But I'm not sure how you would know if he were flirting or not.

[AlexM007]

Yes, hahhaa pretty clearly

[Anonymous]

Definitely flirting.