I demonstrated vulnerability towards my crush, but it was in admitting anxiety of running into my ex. Will that create closeness or distance?

[Bethany22]

I know that usually, demonstrating weakness and emotional vulnerability can often bring men closer to women. But what if the woman is telling her crush about her anxieties towards running into a guy that ghosted her. Does that compromise her value to him, in that then he may worry about how much stress he might cause her if he were to stop contacting her?

[Angelo75]

Ohhh this is just rolling the dice.

Men come in all kinda varieties. Some might find it nice that you told them something like this, others will just get complicated in their heads about it.

Without knowing the guy, it's hard for us to exactly tell you how he's gonna react.

Next time, maybe try being vulnerable with something "outside" the relationship topic.
Like "you are affraid of spiders"... or... "the movie titanic always make u cry".

Stuff like that, so that he doesn't get a chance to draw any conclusion about how you'll react in a relationship. That way it stays neutral, while you still opened up with him.

[Bethany22]

That's helpful

[Anonymous]

While I hate to see you in pain I also wish every woman had a one time horrible experience of being both ghosted and also being friendzoned. Just to see how it feels. Make them think twice about their bullshit.

In general women who do this to men. Many of them go through their entire lives getting away doing this to men but never getting any karma.

I had an ex girlfriend ghost me after dating for 9 months. I knew it wasn’t impossible give she was much younger and immature. But it hurt. Really hurt a lot.

[catarecute]

dont talk about ur ex and dont have anxiety over guys. you should have more self control. no guy is worth getting anxious over.

[Anonymous]

if i hear anyone mention their ex, it pushes me away.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If a girl wants to get to know me and demonstrated anxiety towards running into her old ex, it would make me wonder if she truly wants someone new or to be with me.

[MrCommodore]

Bad move, as demonstrating such anxiety might suggest to your crush that you're hung up on your ex, which would be a red flag.

[Altheavas]

If your sense of self value is attached to someone validation, then you’re gonna run into a lot emotional damage. I see a lot of insecurity in this question, that’s a little sad.

[RealMarek]

Bringing up exes early on in a relationship at best does no good but possibly creates awkwardness or puts the other party off. Try to avoid this topic.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Distance. Tons of it. You're still not over him, I'm not going to waste my time with you.

[nawtee_me]

In and of itself probably neither. Continued communication will bring you two closer.

[NathanDavis]

it could go either way... or it could remain just the same it is now

you'll find out

[DiegoO]

If you haven't get over your ex yet, don't ad on another weight on your shoulders.

🤔 Lot of Yoda phrases have been popping out of my mind lately.

[love_conquers_lust]

He’s probably worried about how many jilted lover’s you have running around that he’ll have to deal with.

[Heelwwaringskannk]

If he likes here wouldn't he have no plans to stop contact unless he only wanted pump n dump?