Is it a good idea to confess your feelings to a crush if that person is not taken?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Yes, it is. I have confessed to two guys that I really liked. They weren’t ready for something, it’s not like I was either, but it felt good to finally get those feelings off my chest. I’m shy, but I’m also used to rejection, lol. Almost every guy I’ve ever liked has never liked me back.

If you have talked to them before, it might be less weird to profess your feelings for them; but if you’ve never talked to them and they don’t even know that you exist, instead of telling them you like them, ask them out for a cup of coffee casually, or ask for their social media like snap or insta.

I don’t think I’d ever make the first move on a guy ever again. It’s reserved strictly for guys I really really like.

How about yourself?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It depends-
If you think their feelings might be mutual? Sure! You have nothing to lose, and who knows, they might like you too!

But if you interact or talk to them, and they don't seem interested in you, or only give off, "We should be friends" vibes-

NO. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Typically you can sort of tell how someone feels about you based on how they talk or interact with you.

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

It's not a bad thing. Though I never do that, I am just honest so if one was to ask me or tease me about it I would just answer truthfully but I wouldn't go out my way to take them off to the side and tell them or something.
A good example is, Her "So ya know how've got a bit a crush on me" me "Yeah?"
So I won't deny it. In such example she didn't have feelings for me and it was just a joke. But in such example I had a crush on her. And that's usually the way it goes, they can normally tell if I like them or just ask me out right.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

There are ways of telling someone you have feelings for them without laying everything on the line and risking losing them for good. I call it testing the water.

For example use the word hypothetically. So.. something like" If I was to tell you I had strong feelings for you, hypothetically of course, how would you react?"
That way you aren't committing yourself, just putting a feeler out there.

brutus21 · Answer

it depends but be ready for disapointments too, the first one will always have some effect unless you over a period of time get rejected more often and accepted more often, this is for guys though, can't say for girl, Remember the first time you strated walking, it was the most difficult, the first time you started something it was the most difficult, so bear in mind that while you re being youself dont over burden yourself if you get rejected or feel like shit, its part of life, and if you re in high school, remember high school is the worst time for most people, its te wild west of growing up.

Emilyis · Answer

I don't see it hurting anything at all. The worst thing he or she can do is say no thank you. not interested. I had two boys in high school basically tell me that but I was just not interested in either of them. I know that both of them just wanted in my jeans. THAT wasn't going to happen and they knew it.

20yearsolder · Answer

No you should keep your feelings to yourself, never letting them know how you feel. What do you think?

Bluemax · Answer

If you were in a loving relationship, ask yourself how you would want someone with a crush on you to act.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

If you think there's a chance that they might like you back, go for it, just understand that there's also a chance they might not feel the same way. Not getting your hopes up will help with the sting of rejection a little.

NathanDavis · Answer

if they do not seem to be interested or feeling the same way, if there's no apparent reciprocation then I would just not do it...

I would keep it to myself and then just let if fade away, because it does... eventually

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

Yes, as long as they're single then there's nothing at all wrong with confessing how you feel about someone. Direct communication is always better than mind games and guessing.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It depends on how well or how long you've known your crush.

Mark987 · Answer

Yes, you never know if you have a chance until you take it. I know a lot of people that their crush weren't interested but they ended up dating after

ohshee · Answer

Sometimes I think we all just have to be a little bit bolder in certain situations otherwise how's that person ever going to know

NamerOfStars · Answer

How else would you end up together? If you wait until a terrorist demand or divine mandate tells them to date you, you'll be waiting a LONG time.

beebella · Answer

If you're hoping to get something out of it and you feel like they won't respond too negatively to it, then I think it's fine.  Otherwise, it might be kind of pointless.

zagor · Answer

Depends. Is it someone you have to see regularly regardless of the outcome?

slatyb · Answer

You don't have to "confess your feelings." Just invite them to coffee or lunch or dinner or whatever.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends, do you want an answer to your question of whether he'd be interested? Closed mouths don't get fed.

McKellar · Answer

That is a suspenseful and debatable good question, isn't it?

Adam1978 · Answer

No you should ask them out, not confess feelings, that you can do later if you end up dating.

possumpi26 · Answer

No, not worth it to ruin a perfectly good friendship

dustybiker · Answer

I say it a lot as it’s one of a few things I try to live by… Never create regrets.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Depends on how well you know the person and the nature of the relationship.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Is rather live my life having tried and failed, than wishing i tried, but didn't.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Usually. As long as there’s some evidence that your crush likes you back. I voted C.

loveslongnails · Answer

Depends - if you think they have reciprocal feelings, go for it. If you're not sure, prepare for the worst.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, it you don't it will be one moree thing that will keep you up at night in 30 years.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It's a better timing than if he IS taken. Just befriend him see how well you two click.

Bubbles16 · Answer

I'm actually going through something like that now I have a crush on my guy best friend but I can't tell him because he has a girlfriend

TheAfrikan · Answer

It depends on how long you two have known each other. If it is pretty a long time, Then it is absolutely okay for you to tell them and make that shoooort gun shot dear. @cherry234

SynthKobra · Answer

Honestly the best way to "confess your feelings" is to just ask them to hang out

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Why not? If you don't you'll forever be left wondering, "What if?"

Pohjolan · Answer

Statistically yes.  Confessing increases the probability that you end up with someone you desire and not confessing decreases the probability.

IsoUser · Answer

My Opinion personally is that you Never put your heart on your sleeve, In any event just my humble opinion

TheOgAnna · Answer

Yes if you have known them long enough and are sure that you want to be in a relationship with them, but be careful if they seem clearly not interested because you could have your heart broken.

Still-alive · Answer

I would just ask them out and if they decline then move on

KingofCups · Answer

Yea and like everything else in life you have to have the right timing.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

In my personal experience you should keep it to yourself in vast majority of cases

Deku2009 · Answer

Yeah that way you found out if they share those feelings towards you

Jltakk · Answer

Of course, why not? As long as you know they're not taken, go for it.

TrillXHippy · Answer

How would you know if your crush isn’t taken?

Anonymous · Answer

You can try why not? But it’s not guarantee that he will like you back. Just try

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

What are you waiting for.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Well if you don't, it won't ever progress.

globetrotter22 · Answer

You can say you really like them.

Waldoe · Answer

yes, you might Win...

Wise4myage · Answer

B. I think its a waste of time.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Nothing wrong with it!

Rizwan_khan · Answer

May be he liked you also.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

By default I believe it is a good idea

Vendela · Answer

No guts no glory

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I voted c

The_Naughty_Guy · Answer

Yes it’s a good idea

Rahul8124 · Answer

Yes good idea

Slim57 · Answer

Why not?

Abdulwahh · Answer

Not always

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