Guys, what conversation topics do you prefer that women start with you when you hang out together? What topics do you dislike her starting?

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Like, do you get bored and distant if she talks about family, friends, and relationships? Do you prefer she talk about objects and/or the news?

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Almost anything, but I'm not sure I'm typical. I liked talking about most anything except politics, because it's divisive.. and negativity is certain to ruin the mood. Sports is a second worst for me as it's boring, but most guys dig it. Guys like to talk statistics... "can you believe such and such scored 20 pts in that game, his average is 34... wow!!". so exciting right?

If you really want to get a guys attention, talk about technology... the latest 12 speed shifters from Shimano, electric bikes, new motocross bikes, adventures and vacations, fishing gear, hiking boots, cars, old cars new cars, electrics. Warning.. do not get into the latest fashion trends and shopping, but technical specs... how long the leather lasts, comfort. If guys get into fashion, they are gay as the tooth fairy... note to self.

Relationship stuff can be good at the right level and time.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

Whatever you do... Don't start the conversation about what kind of work I do. Even when you might just ask that because you are really interested in knowing... to me it would immediately ring alarm bells in my head because I came across way to many gold diggers already before and they do this as well to find out how much money I have

#trully hate woman that are just digging for gold on a date

DaveJord · Answer

Stay away from the any specifics about previous relationships. I mean I just say I date this chick, she was really nice and sweet, but it just didn't work out. Like that is all you really need to know, and honestly, I have no interest in why you got divorced or broke up with your ex-boyfriend. Like I am not him and I would rather make my own opinion about you. Because whatever that issue was with him, he is not me...

But they can't help it, they start going on about their ex.. telling me what he did, then what see did... and now I am already drawing comparisons in my mind to a long list of women that did fucked up shit to me, when they sat there and said the same things to me about their ex, that they are doing now.

I like to speak more about the future, life goals beyond career ambitions. How they see dating fitting in their lives. Like I am 47, lots of single working moms out there that will say they want love and commitment... but you work all day and three kids... so how do you see dating fitting into your life and then let's focus on those things and find a way to make it work.

I like to talk about future plans and set dates and then follow through... I hate the I don't know let me get back to you. Like you said you wanted to go on a second date so lets talk about that... but you cannot you say let me get back to you without any definitive answer on when or where or what... like you just put a cap on that conversation and that is what is I wanted to talk about. But since you pretty much dismissed the subject, now we are not talking about something productive that will lead to other conversations... instead, you're just sitting there like, okay?

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Like, I believe in listening to what interest her. This is how you connect and learn about her. Like, when she is sharing something, and the man chooses to listen, and is able to, at a later date, bring up that subject.

Like, by doing so, l am able to connect and show her respect. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, l am like there to listen. If she needs advice, l will provide it.

I believe it is very important to allow her to talk about whatever. The thing is, people just love talking about themselves. This takes the pressure off of me feeling like l must do all the entertaining. There is also the chance that she will share something that l can add to.

What is really impressive is if she learns from others what my interest are and can weave that into the conversation somehow without being obvious about it. Then she has given me the opportunity to open up and communicate with her.

People don’t need to have shared interest, but learning what they are into is an act of kindness, respect and caring.

Anonymous · Answer

As like many men I see relationships as tool to deal with the problems of life, i prefer conversations focused on such issues.

All relationships really are in nature tools to solve problems. This may sound selfish and untrustworthy that is only among people too arrogant and short term in their judgement which unfortunate includes most people.

Nonetheless your relationships are driven by nature because at some level they serve your self-interest even if your unaware of it. Women place more interest in relationships because historically their livelihood was far more depended upon them than men's.
Unfortunately this interest in the ever more complex modern world leads women to frequently over-complicate and create problems where none before existed via faulty information.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I'd like to know who she is/what she does/where she's going if I'm going to date her.

If it's a hook-up thing I care less. Where's a good place to eat/drink/get coffee? What are you looking for tonight?

I hate small talk either way and in my field, the last thing I want to talk about on a date is anything in the news.

Angelo75 · Answer

Usually I don't really mind what she talks about.
Well if she starts talking about sex though, she would be getting even more of my attention.
However, if it's on the first date, it would set off alarms in my head.

The thing is, the more a woman talks to you, the more topics she hits over time, the more confirmation you get as a guy that she's building trust in you.

MrOracle · Answer

Besides your immediate family, we don't really want to hear about people we don't know, especially if it is relationship gossip or "drama", such as another girl wearing a similar outfit as you.

We don't mind hearing about YOU, but we aren't in a relationship with your frienemy Stacy, or your gay cousin Steve, so we don't need to hear about them unless it directly impacts you in a substantial way.

Obviously your parents and siblings are largely exempted from this rule if they are an important part of your life - and we will probably meet them if we haven't already.

You wouldn't want us to talk your ear off about Javascript, the different types of fuel injection, or why we're stuck on level 89 of our video game for hours at a time, even if those things are important to us, and we know this and keep it to ourselves. All you have to do is ask yourself: if I was a guy, would I care about this topic? If the answer is NO, skip to something else.

Anonymous · Answer

If she starts talking about the Kardashians or Taylor swift I'm probably going to start eyeing the exit pretty hard.🤣

Otherwise there's not a whole lot I don't like talking about. I have a philosophy that you never know who you're going to learn something from so it always pays to listen.

My passions are investing, basketball, and astronomy. But this isn't really conversation beginners. These are things that you talk about when people know you already. So as long as she's honest about who she is it don't matter a whole lot what we talk about.

Tim2nice · Answer

That would depend on each other’s level of intelligence, education, background, profession, hobbies, etc. I’m into history, literature, art, architecture, archaeology, classical music and sports, so naturally I like to talk about these subjects, so I seek like minded people otherwise they will avoid me or I will bore them to death.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Don't talk just listen and ask open ended questions
Don't give ur opinion ✖️ if u don't like them ghost them instead...
Advice
Avoid political, economical, finances , opinionated topics , boy v girl topic, boundaries , conterminus and controversial topic
Talk about general topics movies, games, hobbies , art , brag about ur painting skills 😂😂talk in generalities
Music 😂😂
In first phase..
Second phase figure out their opinion n then think if u wanna talk about it or influence them 😂😂

NathanDavis · Answer

anything that she is genuinely interest on... intrigued by, passionate about... very involved with, meaningful to her.. or has a lot of fun with, if she is into, I do want to hear and talk about it

getting to know more about the real her is always a great start

molonski2 · Answer

Yeah , I dislike the family , friends , relationships bit , just find that annoying. As for the rest anything that she is actually into is fine , can be political , sports , I dont care , just more interesting if she is generally into it , even if I disagree.

Current events , may well show her intellect.

Lionman95 · Answer

I dislike news/politics or work related stuff (at least right away).

Talk about something you´re interested in like hobbies, music or podcasts, something you experienced on the way while meeting with me or something that happened to you that stuck with you. Or something I need to know to get to know you.

RealMarek · Answer

I prefer to hear things that tell me about her who she is and her personality. So if she’s genuine, most topics are okay. Probably a bad idea to talk about exes, at least at first.

worldscolide · Answer

Honestly very little is off limits. That having been said.. Politics, religion and sex are things I refuse to talk about on the first few dates.

zagor · Answer

Probably not a good idea to discuss politics or religion on a first date. For friends you're familiar with, sure, if you're respectful.

Fashion and clothes, or celebrities or reality shows - ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I’d rather we leave the political views aside if we have opposing viewpoints on the political parties. If she talks about her family, that’s fine. We can share stories about our families.

Constatine · Answer

Talk about family please... The news today is so depressing... I can't believe her family is that bad.. 😄

As long she is not explaining how good she is.. And how good in her job it is fine with me.

strateguy632 · Answer

i LIKE talking about location city and jobs or college. i dislike talking about plans, until later. about family, friends, and relationships, that is also good not boring. news topics should be avoided until later.

RavVid · Answer

I'd prefer a discussion on geopol. However that is unlikely and mostly women talk about themselves/friends/family/clothing.

It works better than you might expect because I don't like having responsibility for making conversation.

bblazerm · Answer

I depends on how well I know/like her, or how relevant/what it adds to the current conversation. The less so, I would prefer topics about things of a more objective nature, to exchange ideas and get to know each other that way. That being said, I would not say I am typical, as I care more about that in my own life, being more of a solitary person (Enneagram 5)

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I noticed that early on while getting to know one another, most guys like to talk about where we went to college and then we'd compare our college life experiences.

Slim57 · Answer

I like deep thinking convos, or about hobbies, music, but yeah I'm bored to tears if I'm being honest if she talks about her family and them having A baby or one of them getting married, although I do care and ask about family members if they're not doing well to see if they're making a good recovery

shortster · Answer

Like to talk about anime and board games. Hate talking about investing.

syncheart · Answer

I like to talk about anything. As long as it is something I know something about so that I can hold up my end of the conversation. She is welcomed to talk about anything she wants.

Anonymous · Answer

Shocking and interesting question because women normally are not the ones to initiate communication with a guy they like

Nikki1989 · Answer

Anything to do with music or art in general.

exitseven · Answer

The most awkward first question a girl asked me on our first date was she asked me if I was looking to fall in love.

Avicenna · Answer

Common interests, then whatever she is passionate about. Definitely not the news, though!

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Test the waters and find out. Even on topics I don’t know about, I see it as a challenge to test what you know so I might learn something.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Asking me about my background, my vaules and pros and cons is what I would like. Dislike would be asking me about money related stuff, how much I make and that sort of stuff.

nawtee_me · Answer

I can talk with a girl about anything she wants to talk about. There aren’t many topics that turn me off enough to not at least have an opinion of.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm up to any good conversations.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Nothing, in particular but, records or music is always great, with me!

m33ladEmjay · Answer

I think getting a hello from a woman in N. America at this point is a wishful thought process.

Mike87479 · Answer

It’s not so much the topic but more the duration. If it’s a topic I’m not interested in I’ll lose interest if it goes on for too long.

SotiCoto · Answer

Revenge fantasies against humanity are always a good one.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I don’t hang out with women. Haven’t in 8 years. Last time I did I was falsely accused. Never again

Likes2drive · Answer

Keep away from politics, talk about family maybe and interests you both like

boobliker · Answer

do you like this dress or something like that

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m fine talking about anything, and am more of a listener than a talker anyway.

jimmy2 · Answer

Anything As we go then we lead into relationship then love

balyai · Answer

Anything other than politics is fine

Jennz6 · Answer

Tell us what you like

Lokiion · Answer

Pretty much anything

Sharkstealth · Answer

The coce addicted sharks in Florida waters.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

You missed shaking hands to my dick.

In_Trance · Answer

Nothing is off limits

TallAnon · Answer

Preferably about the topics we have in common, lol

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, anything and everything.

BLP11520 · Answer

Money...

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