Why do beautiful people get special treatment?

Question

I’ve noticed that since I’ve lost weight and become beautiful, that men serving me are a lot nicer now and men get goofy and flirtatious around me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

its just biology for the most part, and the rest is society valuing beauty a bit more than it would otherwise biologically. i actually googled this like a couple months ago. from what i remember for the biology aspect its that being good looking means you have good genes & are perceived to be healthier than others which means to our monkey brains means that you have more worth than other people for a couple reasons: you are less likely to kill off or cause bad health to anyone so your safer to have around than some other people, if you do get sick your a less likely to be affected as severely and more likely to bounce back quicker, your wounds will heal better, you have better genes for survival so your kids will have a much better chance of survival themselves (and so if you have this person and some of their kids as part of your tribe, its very good for you because they're less likely to be empty weights and will help your own survival. also if you are the one breeding with them the benefit is obvious), they are perceived to be more likely to produce more kids. all that through evolution means that we associate being hot with having a higher social status (social worth). so in general people will treat you better because you're higher up the social ladder. the other biological part only applies to the opposite sex. so basically subsconsciously (and sometimes not so subconsciously) regardless of how we look we all want to fuck hot people of the opposite sex. and that translates in better treatment because of that. if your in the person's league that will be a bit stronger for obvious reasons lol

for the society part, we essentially have a strong prejudice towards unattractive people and we romanticize being good looking and believe beauty is everything in life, so that translates in the already higher social status and good treatment of good looking people being even higher (though not by that much, most of pretty priviledge rn is from biology) which means we treat hot people better than otherwise. and this is only going to get more and more extreme cos we're getting more and more superficial

Insecure2 · Accepted Answer

I know what you mean. I noticed that a lot od MEN have a tendency to evaluate a woman by her looks, too. Even when you try to get to know them online without a profile picture most just automatically answer with yes/no. But send them a picture in which you look good they will change their attitude immediately. It's probably because they are visuals and most photos that we can find online or in magazines, etc. Show slim and fit women so they might just believe that IT is the ideal beauty type. Although, I have to admit that women also behave in the same way when IT comes to handsome and fit MEN. We just want them to look at us and appreciate us.

SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

You're asking a very loaded question... to which the answer is a longwinded lecture about mate-selection and its interplay with genetics.

But basically people just want to make babies with potential partners who are perceived as healthy and long-lived, so those babies will live longer. Ergo they are more likely to invest their time and effort into others who look healthier to them.
AND this mostly happens on a subconscious level. They're not aware it is happening, and they're definitely not controlling it.

... All that aside, I regard the ideas of losing weight and becoming beautiful as mutually exclusive in most cases. Conflating weight loss with beauty is bourgeois as fuck.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Two parts to my answer:
First, that’s the way of the world. Attractive people just have a different reality. Attractive men, kinda…and attractive women, significantly so. People like to be around and interact with somebody who is beautiful, even if it’s just harmless flirtation.

Second, I suspect your confidence, charisma, and overall sense of self-worth has also increased in correlation to your health and appearance. That absolutely has something to do with people wanting to engage with you.

Either way, enjoy the ride and congratulations on seizing life and taming your own dragons. You are inspiring.

Finchie40 · Answer

Looks can be a part of the reason , but it shouldn’t be the only reason , unless someone just wants you for sex Most men in general are attracted to a girls’ beauty first , most of us men are very visual when we see a beautiful girl that we think looks good as hell , but what makes her even more beautiful , is the way she presents herself , if she has a great personality , if she has a good heart and good morals , is a huge plus , so if you come off as a caring person and you don’t have a stuck up personality and you don’t come off like your shit don’t stink, and you you don’t really have a negative mindset , your attraction level is going to increase tremendously from guys’. Sadly the tricky part for you , is not knowing what their true intentions are , Meaning if they just want to have sex with you or they want more with you , This type of thing happens with Guy’s as well, when it Comes to girls showing interest and flirting with him , he doesn’t know what her true intentions truly are , we just know she is interested in us. I can’t speak for everyone , but based off my experiences and things I have witnessed this is usually the case. I see beautiful girls’ all the time when I am out in public , but it doesn't mean I want to have sex with all of them. For Me to want sex with a girl, I have to feel chemistry and connection with her as well as attraction and see if her and I have a lot in common , just because she looks good on the outside, it doesn’t mean she is Good in the inside , so again , if you have a caring heart and a good personality and you smile a lot , you are going to attract more attention from guys that find you beautiful to their eyes , because you are coming off as a positive person , Usually people that get in shape and lose weight feel good about themselves , they feel they achieved their goal of getting in shape, so they feel better about themselves, feeling better about yourself is going to make more people drawn to you , because you come off as more positive about yourself than you probably did before when you felt out of shape , because you are now happy with your accomplishments, but the truth is, you should only work out and exercise for yourself , not for attention from others , cuz the truth is we don’t stay beautiful on the outside forever , but your heart does , if you truly are a good person and have good moral values. I knew a girl that had a great personality and a good heart that was out of shape and then got herself into shape , but when she was out of shape, she didn’t get the attention from guys until she got into shape , almost every guy wanted to bang her and be with her once she did , so it just goes to show there is more to love than just looks , I use to work out like crazy thinking it was going to help me get more attention from girls ‘ which it did in a sense , but the only girls I was mainly getting attention from was girls’ that were only interested in me because of the way I looked , basically Girls’ that only seek validation that have a selfish mindset. I don’t see love growing that way

Anonymous · Answer

Well they even get negative special treatments like stalking, harrassment, bullying from jealous peers. why people dont notice that? There is no positive in life without negative just keep that in mind. My sister is beautiful and she struggled with all kinds of mental health issues and trust issues because she got bullied by some bitches growing up. I spend all my time now with her protecting her and being her friend. I dont wanna lose my sister to suicide and she was on the verge of that. So she gets treated nicely for her looks but it pales compared to the horrible mistreatment she got. Female friends avoid her fearing their boyfriend will like her. And male friends are forced by their girlfriend to no hang out with her anymore or they would break up with them. No one left for her but me

MrPoppagorgio · Answer

Is there any chance that your new found confidence has made you more pleasant and outgoing? Some people are just that shallow, don't get me wrong. It could be that you're putting out energy that wasn't there before and it's coming back to you now. Just a thought.

RoseySarah · Answer

Just how guys work sorry! Same thing happened after I stopped wearing my glasses to school!

It's not special treatment more simps which can be a huge pain and stalking you.

Quickly put my glasses on after one semester way to much attention and issues!

Way to much drama from cheer leaders also and their loser bfs trying to bed me and her

FellowTraveler · Answer

You were beautiful to start with, that has not changed. As pointed out, it's biology to start with, but something more. Some people tend to project their own attributes onto the other person even though they don't know anything about them. In THAT context, you are desirable. If they perceive you as mean, or criminal, well to each their own. Either way, you are doing better than me so keep up the good work.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Just an unfortunate truth of the world
I recall the year I was in the restaurant when I was in shape, I had friends and even dated

Now I have fallen out of shape, keep a few friends and dating is a joke at this point

LiamJHayden · Answer

Sounds like those guys are hoping to score. I have seen it cut the other way as well. I have a couple of female techs whom I cannot send to certain clients because the court reporter and/or the female attorney have issues with someone else getting attention.

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

For me my boyfriend and I are very similar with workout and diets we're both fit and are self-conscious about our health. I don't think this really helps but like this is my view on it

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Do you go out of your way to flirt with short, bald, fat men or the guy that looks like Chris Hemsworth when you go to the coffee shop on the corner? Yeah? Same for us.

Anemone978 · Answer

Probably because men notice looks first.. and even myself I tend to be more open and friendly with good looking people LOL

FreyaRed · Answer

It's mutual courtesy show, when you're a competitor it's not beneficial catching glimpses, because you become primary target

Sonorous · Answer

Beauty is a good marker of health, and good health suggests favorable genetic & environmental attributes.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I don't know if that's true but in customer service the most beautiful are usually put in front or in the most people contact places. I usually was but I didn't have a clue because of constant harassment and bullying from piers.

menina · Answer

Because being "beautiful" and rich is what matters in this world. You're lucky...

Anonymous · Answer

Is this not blindingly obvious to you? Why do YOU think beautiful people get special treatment?

haana · Answer

because we all attracted to beauty. It’s not only apply for women. Even to buy shoes we look for the one that’s perfect and beautiful in our eyes.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Well I’ve never ever considered myself to be attractive but I know I am now because despite the fact that I don’t talk to people  women still approach me

Anonymous · Answer

That is the way society works. It is like that line from Seinfeld — “you never see any handsome homeless.”

Unit1 · Answer

Pretty privilege. Beauty and wealth is all that makes any real difference. Personality can do only so much.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

It's the way the world works. I'm not suggesting it's right, but just pointing out the reality of human existence.

Anonymous · Answer

Women do the same thing. I had a "glow up" , and I have noticed I get preferential treatment now.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Society runs on visuals, hat can I say, sucks I know, congrats on the weight loss tho.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Pretty privilege. Not unlike wanting to take care of babies or cute animals.

HaveNoName · Answer

Isn't that called "pretty privilege"? It is indeed a thing.

ethansf · Answer

That's the way it goes. We are all designed that way. Women get goofy around handsome men too.

Guanfei · Answer

Because they look better, and people welcome more what's appealing to them. Simple.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Pretty privilege is very real.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you mean by flirtatious?

PendJes · Answer

Our society is disrupted this way.

Likes2drive · Answer

It’s always been that way, fact of life

AnnieSW · Answer

Its horrid and wrong, I really don't know

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

Oh they prob just horny

whistlingwh0res · Answer

beautiful women and strong men

Teabaggin · Answer

It's called pretty privilege.

Peperoni0338 · Answer

Its because of pretty privilege. Sadly.

MaxUsefull · Answer

I believe this is self-explanatory, right?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

ALWAYS BEEN THAT WAY

jahaims · Answer

Evolution

AndreaH · Answer

Bias

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