Do men or boys usually tell u what's bothering them?

[Anonymous]

So we went to dunkin and my boyfriend is a flirt doesn't respect me nor my boundaries, so this girl was flirting with him, and previously I had another girl flirt with him at the bank and I've been trying to find her now ik this girl at dunkin is her so when we walked to the truck he said what a flirty fucker, and when I got in the truck I acted oblivious and he looked at me and I said don't worry want to rip her fucking head off and proceed to eat my food, well he kept bring up and and I said like ur my future I'm here to protect what's mine and he said I wasn't his property Yada Yada, then told me I was being immature and stop talking about it but kept bring it up makes no sense, so I forgot all about it, so last night he was meh and I asked him whats wrong and I got nothing then he proceeds to "make a joke" that made no sense bc we were playing a game and said let's go to the casino and dodge all the banks and dunkins bc I can't go and I was like wtf so is that what's bothering him or other things and y the fuck does it matter ur with me for God's sakes.

[ohsheeT]

Okay first of all
Look at all the time and energy you have wasted I'm worried about something that hasn't even happened yet

When you first got together you knew he was a flirt then and he's a flirt now

Either you trust him or you don't it's that simple

But for you to worry about and make yourself sick over something each and every single day wondering and thinking about it is nothing but a waste of time and you don't need that in your life get out of this situation or change yourself

Understand we cannot make anybody in this world love us and why would we want to do that if we even try to do that then we know that that love is not real

A relationship is 50/50 actually it's more than that but anyway

Is it the guys going to cheat on you or he's not but with you projecting it each and every day he's going to get tired of it and the odds are he'll try to get away with it and do it


All you can do in a relationship is to your part to glue it together to make it work you do your part 100%, if he does something wrong he's going to get caught eventually and then that's when you say goodbye mother f*****

I told you a long time ago I wasn't going to be putting up with this crap so hit the road is that simple

Enjoy the moments that you have with each other don't make something in this something else that has not happened just do your part to keep it the way you want it and if he changes it walk away

[Anonymous]

I could be completely wrong here but reading what you wrote you sound like you’re a handful. Drama. Ok I get you said he doesn’t respect your boundaries. Sure I could say the same. But in reality you don’t respect your boundaries cause you’re continuing to be w this dude when you know he’s like that. Now please explain what exactly flirting is? I mean because women will get mad when a girl comes up to their man, maybe as a worker or whatever, he has a laugh w her, she's talking to him more, etc, they will get jealous. When in reality he just like talking. I’m the same, I like talking. But in the past girls have taken it as flirting because I got along w another female. So what was he doing that you say he was flirting? You sound like the type that even if he talked, tried to tell you how he really felt you’d just yell at him or give him shit. Women say they want men to talk, to be honest, but when you try to talk you get the 3rd degree or your feelings are dismissed. Most men don’t talk to women about their feelings for a lot of reasons.

[HaleyCatgirl]

I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this.

[sage2021]

My boyfriend would open up to me, I would listen intently to what he was saying, then comment if he wanted me to. Sometimes I would get a big hug and he'd say "That's my girl". Other times if he didn't like what I said, which I thought was the truth, he'd say "See, that's why I never tell you anything". Flip flop, flip, flop 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

Same

[HaleyCatgirl]

In my life personally yes because I'm trying to comfort my friends when something's bothering them I don't care about all that like childish shit about bringing it up later which is a really good point that other dude made that does happen and I've seen it so many times it's very pathetic

[Leapfrog00]

It could be he doesn't feel comfortable talking to you. It may be because he's afraid of being judged. You're not at fault for that. Sometimes guys are afraid to be open with their girlfriends because that means they have to show a more sensitive side.

That other girl most likely means nothing to him. When people get in relationships, they fear they're getting cheated on when they see the other person talking to the opposite sex.

There's usually signs that a guy is cheating, like not wanting to spend any time with you or making excuses when he doesn't want to see you.

It's important to give him space because being together every waking moment can make two people get at each other's throats.

The best way to find out if yes cheating is to just ask him. It's probably something else though. Guys are not good with being open. I hope this advice helped!

[Asker]

It's just so werid to me bc I started out as his friend his best friend talking about his feelings, his current girlfriend at the time well all girlfriends and making myself distance out of respect for his relationships and we talked about everything u can think of and now since we started dating he doesn't communicate like he use to, we can lt joke anymore bc he complains that I complain when it's just my feelings being hurt and I express that and he gets aggervated with me and it could've been just a thing where he faked everything to be with me I don't know

[Asker]

I'm always making myself feel like shit so he can have a great day or to make him feel better and I just get the idgf about you when I do everything but proceeds to tell me I'm doing bare minimum when I'm doing 115%

[Leapfrog00]

Hmm, you could try maybe asking him if it's you he has a problem with. At least then you'll know if he's trying to change you. Did he break up with his last girlfriend to go out with you? If so, he may be the kind of guy that can't stay with one girl. It sounds like there's not a good line of communication open. If he used to be more open with you as a friend, that's usually because guys act differently as friends than they do boyfriends. It sounds like he made a better friend than a boyfriend.

Have you tried explaining to him that you feel he's distancing himself? Maybe he doesn't realize he's doing it. Sometimes people don't realize it when they're hurting someone else.

[sage2021]

@Leapfrog00
I know you meant well when giving your opinion, but please think about this.
You told her guys don't like to open up. Then you told her to just ask him if he's cheating. Would he open up when she asks if he's cheating?

[Leapfrog00]

In this case it's not about opening up. It's about provoking a reaction. Even if she doesn't get a straight answer, at least he'll know that she suspects it.
If she asks him and he avoids the question by getting offensive or asking her questions, that should give her an answer.

[Lionman95]

No but if a guy tries to I would say he´s not saying it right away but rather does in parts trying to figure out how she reacts. If a guy is talking about something he´s bothered he usually wants someone he can trust as a person to talk to, that meets that a guy doesn´t want someone that laughs or doesn´t take him seriously anymore afterwards. So I think your guy is bothered by something but he either can´t say what it is or he´s not sure of your reaction and therefore made this joke to lower your anticipation.

[Asker]

Could u say he might be cheating that's bothering him and his guilt is getting the best of him and that's why he made the joke that wasn't a joke

[Lionman95]

I can't say he's cheating but it could be that he's thinking about the incident at the dunkin and the way he's flirting with other women.

[virtue2332]

Look he is a smart MAN. He isn't saying shit because he knows THAT ANYTHING HE SAYS OR DOES CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST HIM. So he is exercising his right to remain silent. You must be amazing in bed because I don't know a guy that would put up with all this drama with all those options. If that's the case cut him some slack he is just trying to ease the tension by making light of the situation. You go and do some dumb shit with one of these girls you ain't be able to protect shit while you are locked away. Then he would have no choice but to take a nibble from one of these girls to see what it tastes like.

[HaleyCatgirl]

I agree but also low-key sounds like what the police read you when you're getting arrested at the beginning

[virtue2332]

exactly and I'm still bitter for not shutting the fuck up. It's exactly what they say and what someone would hear after beating up some girl over a guy. I have a case pending now for punching my daughters friends stepdad because he was drunk being abusive calling me the n word and trying to grab me when I went to drop off some things my daughter needed for a sleep over

[glennos89]

Some guys do and some don't... totally depends on the person. A lot of dudes don't wanne show any weakness's because we are raised that way sadly. They teach boys that crying is weak and on top of that some woman take advantage of a guy when he shows his weakness to their girlfriends and they use it later on against him.

Personally I think you are weak if you can't show emotions or weakness's but sadly boys are raised this way from early on in their lifes

[boggboss]

What are u actually asking here you have a guy that dont respect you I don't think it has to do with the separate issue of men not talking about how they feel it has to do with him enjoying the process of making u jelouse

[JacobJordan]

very rarely will I bring up things that bother me unless it is something my wife can assist with. She does know this because she also knows that the problems men tend to face are not problems women can help with

[Anonymous]

"I've been trying to find her now" you sound crazy. If you trust your boyfriend, it shouldn't bother you if other girls flirt with you. I would tell you how I feel, I wouldn't tolerate that for very long. You'd have to grow up or you're getting dumped.

[Chevy1_kb]

Yes he did and so do I if he tells me what's bothering him I do the same my ex was a bad argument starter on the most stupid things ever

[Holsen]

Nope that’s a stone wich is thrown and drowns into their subconscious

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah we do sometimes.. But, this story is a bit jumbled up.. I can sort of tell what's being said, but not really..

[Anonymous]

So, it seems you sorta kinda know how to use commas, which is a start. You should take it a step further and start learning how to use periods.

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂

[jahaims]

If he doesn't respect you wtf are you doing with him. Gain self respect before you expect others to respect you.

[getwiththepg]

Your boyfriend is being sarcastic & extra. That’s what I’ve deduced at least.

[Teabaggin]

No, when I'm hurt I keep it for myself and maybe bring it up when the time is right

[KrakenAttackin]

You are addicted to Fuck Boys.

[Joker_]

yeah