Does a taken guy like me or a we friends?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy at work. We hang out a lot but he's engaged.

We had our Christmas party the other night, and he was our Santa and he did our social club awards.

One of the awards was for the "best take out"

Infront of the whole staff when everyone was listening he said I was his best take out, as in going out for coffee, lunch and catching up with me.

I was quite surprised and got a few shocking stares back.

On Monday we went out for lunch, then when we came back into the office he smiled and touched me on the arm.

Then today didn't really have much to do with him at all. We also had a conversation on Teams a week ago and he never replied to my last message since then.

I don't know if he likes me or not.

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How do you spot signs if he likes me

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky one luv. On one hand, him singling you out like that in front of everyone does seem a bit suspect. And the arm touching too. Definitely sounds like he could be into you a bit.

But at the same time, he is engaged so it's not like anything could really happen anyway even if he does feel something. And not responding to the message on Teams could just be cuz he's busy, lots of guys suck at that stuff.

I'd maybe try to subtly test the waters a bit more, see how he acts around you alone vs in a group setting. Does he try to find excuses to spend more one on one time? Pay more attention when you talk? Little signs like that could tell you more.

Either way though, you're gonna have to be careful flirting back too much, since he's taken and all. Even if he seems keen, best not to stir up any workplace drama or hurt his fiancée if it can't lead anywhere.

Just be chill for now, see what else happens but don't put too much stock in it. And guard your own feelings too since nothing can come of it long run. That's my advice, good luck figurin' it out!

[Asker]

When we went out on Monday he drove me to a near by beach & we walked up and down the waterfront. He didn't try anything there & he did mention his fiance a few times that's why I'm a bit confused.
It's a weird friendship. Haha.
He has been asking to catch up last few weeks but we were both busy. This was the first time he touched me on the arm like that though. I'll see what it's like over the next few weeks before our holidays start. He's a sweet guy but too young anyway

[Oliverlogan263]

Ayyy that beach trip sounds kinda date-ish, not gonna lie! Even if he brought up the fiance, driving you there alone and walking like that is a little intimate. And him asking to catch up a lot too... dude is definitely sending mixed signals.

On one hand he might just like the attention and having you as a backup option. But who knows, could be having second thoughts about the fiance. Either way, not really fair to you though if he's just playing games! I'd be careful catchin feelings for sure. Keep your guard up slightly.

Gotta respect that you want to give it more time to see what's what before jumping to conclusions. Smart play. And hey, you never know - maybe they're going through a rough patch and it's all innocent enough. But keep your eyes open for any other red flags. This beach date was definitely one though, flirty or not! Lemme know if he takes you out again before the holidays. Stay safe out there!

[spartan55]

Why does this matter? You want to steal yourself a fiance? Just no shame at all...

[Asker]

I didn't say I want him for myself

[spartan55]

Then why are you asking if he likes you? You don't have to say it.

[Asker]

Free to ask

[spartan55]

Great answer. Wonder how his fiance would feel about you trying to move in on her man...🤔

[spartan55]

You are gross.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Maybe get to know him better over a coffee