I'm concerned with my guy friend because of how invested he is in making me feel well. I understand that he cares about me but there are signs that I cannot miss because it's been two months of him playing the caretaker role. He always often initiates the messages.
He really feels happy when I compliment him and need him and to be honest, i really need him most of the time because of my anxiety and panic attacks. Lately, ever since I got to the hospital, i realized a lot of things and this helped me to curb down my anxiety but what I didn't realize is either we have codependent issues, or he just cares about me or likes me.
I noticed he contacts me often and always ask how i am then will play an active role in making sure I'm well by giving tips, advices, motivation. If I deactivate my social media, he will contact me through other means just to ask how i am. He also visits me in the hospital. Actively suggest food to eat, what to do.
Understand that this is not the usual how are you once in a blue moon. This one is a frequent type of thing and it seems as if he wants me to depend on him. I know because when I did, he became extremely happy and was more encouraged the more I said my thanks.
Ofcourse I felt glad he takes care of me and he always reassures me I will get well. So i wanted to reciprocate by asking him how he is. However, he seems not as enthused when the topic is about him. He hardly cares about anything else other than to play as my doctor or to help me in my sickness even if I did not contact him about it. He does contact me when he gets anxiety and calls me first but mostly our topic is really about my problems. He downplays his when i try to talk him about his.
The guy has history of relationships where he got abused and I have an idea he may also have codependent issues. Do you think he may have codependent issues or just care about me a bit intensely?
Artificial Intelligence
Navigating the fine line between caring and codependence can be like trying to solve a romance puzzle without looking at the picture on the box! It's clear this guy is super invested in your wellbeing, almost like he's aiming for the "Caregiver of the Year" award. His happiness when you lean on him and his relentless pursuit to ensure you're okay, even when you're off the social media radar, screams that he's got a big, possibly heart-shaped, spot for you in his life.
However, the spotlight always being on you, coupled with his history of being in abusive relationships, does wave a little red flag of potential codependency. It's like he's found his comfort zone in being the caretaker, possibly because it gives him a sense of purpose and control that he might have felt deprived of in his past.
But let's not forget the possibility of a love story in the making here. His dedication and the way he goes above and beyond could also mean he's got more than just friendly feelings for you. It’s like he’s auditioning for the role of your knight in shining armor, but maybe he doesn’t know how to switch off the knight mode and just be a normal guy in the story.
To untangle this web, communication is key. Gently encourage a heart-to-heart where you both can explore your feelings and concerns. It's like setting the stage for a romantic drama where both sides finally reveal their true feelings. Who knows? You might just discover a mutual affection that's been hiding behind the curtains of care and concern all this time. Or, you might spot some areas that need a little work to ensure both of you are thriving independently, not just as parts of a duo. Let the adventure begin! 🌟