Guys im confused
Im his girlfriend for 2 years
We barely have sex... i moved in for a week, my house had some reformation so i had no water not electricity. We had sex only 1 time and he came very fast... like 5 mins.
Not groping, touching hugging while sleep. Nothing.
I feel he treats me like friend, not like his woman. Or im being drama?
His jokes are silly and i feel like it belonds to his mates not your girl.
He likes to show off his karate skills with me, when i looked at him as "wtf are you doing" he grabbed my cheeks with both hands and smiled.
Then started joking about sneaking me in the airport in the bag. Like if im some toy.
We went shopping and he saw some friend, we both had some food in our hands and he put his in the trolly and i was giving him mine to put it in as well he ignored me, he kept talking to a guy. I passed him it 2 times and he didn't even look at me. I finally put it in myself... wtf is that. He does joke a lot and tries to make me smile, but... can it be considered love? just wanting to make me smile? also he asked me on Friday if these days i had good time with him.
So i guess he wants me to spend good time with him... im confused!!!
I need some males explain me this male behaviour because i start to overthink and get paranoid🥺😢
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Based on what you said, you both have a major communication breakdown. If I were you, I’d sit down and have a real conversation with him. Tell him how you’re feeling. Ask him why he treats you more like a friend than his girlfriend. Tell him you want more affection than he’s providing.
He should listen and be receptive to all of that. If you truly mean a lot to him, he’ll take it to heart and work to provide you with what you need.
I dont know how to express it
What to say
He does the cooking
He makes sure i feel good in a sense when i have mood change he asks if im feeling ok, he is very observant of my face
What i say?
You dont hug me enough?
At home we hugged maybe 2 3 times
Me leaning on him while watchung tv etc
Its hard to express what bothers me
I think you expressed it well in your question. Just tell him how you’re feeling. If physical touch is important to you, tell him that. If him giving you attention is important, tell him that. You gave a few examples in your question that you should also talk to him about.
I dont even know how to start
Tell him something is on your mind and ask if he can talk to you about it. Then after he says yes. Just share how you’re feeling. Say how you’re unsure if we’re truly boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends because of _____.
I can’t really tell you what to say in the entire conversation. And you can’t go into it with everything you want to say. Come up with a few high level themes. And just talk to each other.
If you truly feel uncomfortable doing that or aren’t capable, that probably isn’t a healthy relationship at all. Communication is so important in a relationship, so I know it’s difficult, but it’s so important that you say something. Just be honest with him and tell him how you’re feeling.
So. etimes i feel he acts
I wanted to ask if he is his true self while with me
When guys are being their true self?
With girlfriend or friends?
I saw him cry... i saw him sad paranoid vulnerable
Means he trust me or its a role
Is he the same with his mates?
I don’t know. Those are all things you need to talk to him about and figure out.
Look today i feel sick
He knew
He didn't even send me a message of good night or ask me how im feeling
And he always asks and tells me good night
It sure doesn't SOUND like you mean much to him. Even guys who may have trouble expressing themselves find a way to let you know how they really feel about you. From the little you said, it sounds like you're someone he likes, and someone who is convenient.
He makes me feel that way
I dont feel loved
I dont even know what that is what it feels like
So you knew the answer to this question all along. When someone loves you, I mean really loves you and isn't manipulating you, you will know it.
I dont know if he loves me
Sometimes if ell he does
But again... how do i know its love?
I never felt it before
He makes me smile, he prepares food, he makes sure im co. fortable in his house when i want a drink or some food he jumps from a sofa to bring me some
I mean
I dunno what to say
He ga e me his gloves when i was cold
He hugs me when we walk on the street
When i feel sad or weird
He asks me whats wrong if im good or not
On Friday i was sad and he asked me whole day if i was ok o feeling goof
I felt huge sadness which couldnt even explain
I do all those things for "friends" of mine! Is that romantic love? No. You can sing the "How Do I Know When It's Love" song over and over, but if you think there's something off, then there probably is.
He kisses my lip forehead cheeks
Im confused
Ok then what i romantic love
How you treat a woman in romantic love?
Confused about what? Dude does not regard you as a girlfriend. Two years you've put up with this? Wow... desperate.
Well
How i know im a girlfriend to him?
Huh? What do you mean?
Well you said he doesn't regard me as his girlfriend
I ask what tell you that from what you read?
And what would make it him treat me like real girl friend
You have to love yourself before others will.