I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now and things have been pretty great. We are in a long distance relationship (he lives and goes to school 3 hours away) and only get to see each other once a month when both of our schedules are free. Occasionally though, he will come down to see his friends and family and of course, I don't get to see him on those days, which is 100% understandable. He is in a fraternity and has lots of "bro time" which is one of the things I love most about him and I would never dream of trying to impose on that.
But there are times when he gets invited to a birthday party where all his friends bring their girlfriends but he won't invite me. There was one time that he invited me about an hour before he was about to leave, and by the time I got there the party was over. He told me about this party about a week in advance and I didn't ask to come along because I feel weird about inserting myself into something like that, but it hurt my feelings that he knew other girlfriends would be there and he didn't even think to ask his friend if I could come along until everything was wrapping up.
And now next week he is invited to another birthday party and was really quiet about it. He told me he would be coming down for the weekend and when I asked him what for, he gave me no answer whatsoever. I ended up asking about it twice more and he finally told me, but seemed annoyed about having to divulge this information.
Am I wrong to feel upset? I know that I should be more assertive, but I don't want to get in the way of his other relationships, especially since he has such limited time with his friends and sees them less often than he sees me. It would just be nice to be included once in a while (of course not every single time), especially since his friends are such great people and I would love to get to know them a little better. I guess my question is: How can I bring this up without sounding like I want us to be attached at the hip 24/7?
But there are times when he gets invited to a birthday party where all his friends bring their girlfriends but he won't invite me. There was one time that he invited me about an hour before he was about to leave, and by the time I got there the party was over. He told me about this party about a week in advance and I didn't ask to come along because I feel weird about inserting myself into something like that, but it hurt my feelings that he knew other girlfriends would be there and he didn't even think to ask his friend if I could come along until everything was wrapping up.
And now next week he is invited to another birthday party and was really quiet about it. He told me he would be coming down for the weekend and when I asked him what for, he gave me no answer whatsoever. I ended up asking about it twice more and he finally told me, but seemed annoyed about having to divulge this information.
Am I wrong to feel upset? I know that I should be more assertive, but I don't want to get in the way of his other relationships, especially since he has such limited time with his friends and sees them less often than he sees me. It would just be nice to be included once in a while (of course not every single time), especially since his friends are such great people and I would love to get to know them a little better. I guess my question is: How can I bring this up without sounding like I want us to be attached at the hip 24/7?
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