On dates I keep getting tipsy talking about previous guys, casual hook ups, guys I hurt and how I kissed over 100 people. Why do they stick around?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Ps I’m trying to change xo

Will also go on about how I hate clingy guys that text all the time and I like to be left alone and how I hate hand holding then I get sad if I don’t hear from them

some of them will still date me after this which is even crazier. Maybe they put it down to the fact I’m mildly autistic

[JacobJordan]

Bit to late to change dear. You have set your path for life. Poor choices result in poor partners. You have made it clear you were ah lets just say you were very very friendly with many many people. As a result that is all you ever be to every relationship quality man so they will avoid you like the plague and to every none relationship quality man you are very useful until they find something better. You could still find someone to rope in and whatnot but odds are you and he will not be happy and it will end. This is why being excessively friendly is a bad idea and people are starting to realize it.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

People have no clue until I tell them? I live in a big city and nobody really knows each other because they can be from all different areas all together

[JacobJordan]

You don't have to tell them when you have that many partners you literally wear the evidence on your body. You age faster, talk different, act different, look different than those who have not done so and while guys are dumb we are not blind

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

My body count is low though.

[JacobJordan]

Not talking about just sex. Yes that definitely causes much more obvious alterations. But what you are doing causes alterations as well and they are visible. It is good that you have a low count. I won't ask how low as that would be rude. The other thing is you say you get tipsy so I presume you drink a fair bit. Drinking causes a lot of the same problems. Speeds up aging making you look older than you are. I am the wrong person to ask to compare the 2 as I am terrible with peoples age anyways. But if you are trying to change the first step would be to remove the alcohol. Then look at how you talk, act, dress. Those 3 in conjunction paint a fairly clear picture to would be suitors on if you are good for a relationship or good for something else.

[Chandelier8]

I know I'm not going to make a friend here, in you, with this reply but I insist on being honest. I think you're trying to tell guys how desirable you are, so they somehow want you sexually. Of course, every man, with no morals will be attracted to that and try to get sex for free. I think it's preferable to show them who you are as a person.

As far as clingy, I like clingy people, as long as they're friendly and not controlling and obsessed, which is dangerous. People are very clingy when they're in love. I don't want a standoffish person as a partner. I think you really want love, but pretend you don't, because you're trying to appeal to players.

I'm a love bug, I want love and lots of it!

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I only speak like this on dates if I’ve been drinking if I’m just one or two drinks in or completely sober this doesn’t happen at all. I should watch my tongue. Thank you for your honesty and no judgment <3

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

But maybe it is a little self sabotagey!

[Chandelier8]

I used to do that as well. Set the bar really high and you'll find a great one to cherish you for your beautiful self.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

thank you, you seem lovely<3

[ChicoFromThe305]

They want pussy, at least you are honest about your past tho, which isn't something to be proud of but it's healthy to start something with no secrets standing in the way.

[MrCommodore]

Very strange, almost like subconsciously you are trying to put them off.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I KNOW. help me 😭

[MrCommodore]

Sure, call over to North of Ireland and we can talk over a coffee 😂

[RavVid]

I would guess they think they have an excellent chance of getting in.

[Bklynbadboy12]

They stick around cause they want to fuck you when you say things like that you come off like your a easy lay. I'm not judging you but as your friend I have to be honest with you

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Is it bad to block them because I can tell they are not taking me seriously or interested because I said that

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope that not bad at all

[motownplayer2000]

Because they know they will end up being one of those stories if they stick to it long enough

[Techrescueff]

Because they like you and you are a good catch.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Maybe because I’m acknowledging that it’s messed up and they know I have a low body count despite all this maybe they are like let me give her a shot

[Techrescueff]

Perfect there ya go 😀

[Techrescueff]

@Bekaaaaaaaahhhh keep your head up. You will find your knight in shining armor.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. When's the last time you had sex? Did you behave the same way with that guy?

[TallAnon]

Probably too horny for their own good