The past year I’ve had a sudden bad gut feeling about a friend I’ve known for years, should I ignore it or stop being friends with him?

[Anonymous]

I met my friend (let’s call him Adam) at one of my first ever jobs and I’ve known him for 8 years or so. We use to be close friends and I’m also friends with his brother. They’ve always been absolutely fine. For some reason, the past year I’ve just gotten a bad gut feeling about Adam. He’s done nothing wrong and I haven’t seen him in a few years but everytime he messages me I get an uneasy feeling like there’s something creepy or off about him.

Things I find slightly odd is that he only messages me when he’s at work. Or if I share a picture of my face or if I’m dressed up, he will message me. He doesn’t hit on me at all but I just get a bad vibe for some reason and I don’t know why. All I can say about that he has a girlfriend and just had a baby with her last year. They’ve been together for about two years or so. The only thing I could think that he did that wasn't great was when his brother told me his girlfriend was pregnant, and when I congratulated him he didn’t seem that excited about it. I just find it extremely creepy how he’s got a young son, and he messages me only at work or when I’ve shared a photo of myself. Am I being silly for feeling like this? I don’t know what it is but I feel like there’s something bad about him that I don’t know about, like he’s done something bad or very wrong. What should I do?

[ChicoFromThe305]

You should definitely listen to it mostly when it out of nowhere like that, instinctual feelings are no joke, I used to feel the same about a women I texted for around a year and Every time I spoke to her I felt uneasy, kinda like what it feels like to be nervous but not quite the exact feeling because I know I wasn't nervous, turns out after ignoring this feeling for about a year I couldn't handle it anymore and I told her about the feeling and that I know for a fact with 100% faith that there's something she's keeping from me, turns out she was catfishing me, if I ignored it any longer I know the results would've been worse, since then I've never ignored them.

[pickles77]

what images do you associate with that feeling? I know it can be hard to pinpoint but try to get clear about the vibe you get from him. If the feeling is somewhat threatening I would politely find a way to mitigate any further interaction with him.

[Asker]

I’d say a wondering eye. Would go after woman when he’s got a girlfriend and a young son. I don’t want to say it as it’s a serious thing to say but he gives me vibes he’d go after 18 year olds. He’s never shown signs like that but I just feel it in my gut!

[pickles77]

Oh okay maybe talk to him about his current relationship he must not be getting his needs met

[strateguy632]

trust your gut block him