How do you guys feel about random hookups?

Question

I mean I just want to know from people who do this, how can you decide it's safe or not? isn't it scary?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I don’t just randomly hook up with girls’ for the hell of it , for me to get with a girl, I have to feel chemistry and connection and attraction for each other , before I even consider hooking up with her , we can’t read each others’ minds, so I just treat a girl the same way I would like to be treated in return , My intentions is for the long hau, l if her intentions is different or she is lying to me , that is her problem and something she will suffer the consequences of her actions for , if she chooses to lie , I think it’s dirty and dangerous and degrading that people can just randomly hook up with random people , to me they are playing with fire , if they have that kind of mindset. STD’s are not a joke and something I would never want to have. I have friends that have STD’s and they are pretty screwed for life and they kick themselves in the ass , for being so stupid. Sex is amazing , but amazing with someone you can trust , someone that only wants sex with you and no one else , People that can immediately jump onto bed one after another, are people that will experience Karma for their actions. I witnessed Karma plenty of times from people that can’t be honest that constantly lie , Nobody is perfect , so hopefully they learn from their mistakes , if not they will eventually will , when it smacks them in the face. I will not have sex with a girl that can’t be loyal and honest , if she has a reputation of being around the block a bunch of times , I will leave her on the curb where she belongs if I find out she is lying to me. She might get me in bed but she won't have me for the long haul if she is lying period basically thanks for a good time but not a long time

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I need to like the girl and for her to like me back otherwise it won't work.

One night stands with these girls that guys wish they could fuck only go one way.

You take her home, she gets on all fours, you get behind her and stick it in... and then SHE FUCKS YOU.

They're all the same. The whores in the bars and clubs all want the same thing. They want you to pound it from the back hard and rhythmically in time with the timing of her throwing her ass back.

If that gets you off thats what you want and need than it's good for you.

But me personally I need to like kiss and cuddle and exchange feelings of love with a girl otherwise my dick isn't staying hard.

These freak girls want more though. They want you to be able to entertain any kind of fucked up freak fetish they have. Since they're freaks and all they do is get fucked in public and do nasty shit all the time, they're capable of entertaining any kind of fetish.

Not me. I'm a freak too but not like these females are. They're disgusting. They can get off to any fetish as long as it's nasty and preferably semi public.

If you're a guy like me trust me you don't want to fuck these girls. It's not a good time.

There must be some type of men who are into that. I think it's bizarre.

Sex without kissing and cuddling and all that is not sex to me.

HappyWoman34 · Accepted Answer

I don’t do them anymore. I feel insulted by the number of men trying to hook up with me on dating sites and the number of guys that like me but act like freaks because they’re too scared to make a move, when I quite liked some of them. Sometimes I feel like I just can’t win lol.

TadBehaya · Accepted Answer

I engage in hook ups very frequently. It doesn't scare me since I trust my guts and happen to have a decent chat. I have no problem in turning down a hook up if I don't feel comfortable with the guy or if my gut feeling doesn't feel right. It's risky but it is fun.

Anonymous · Answer

Perfectly fine with them. If you are not comfortable with a woman, you don't hook up. If the "chemistry" is there or you are both "in the mood," then there is no reason not to do what nature made us to do.

In total truth, my first born - my eldest son - was the result of a one night stand. Frankly, even now I am not sure how it all came together. It sounds like it was out of a movie. I was on a business trip, met this really good looking gal, we had a few drinks and I ended up in her hotel room. We kept talking - one thing led to another and I ended up spending the night and we had some amazing sex.

It was raw, it was natural, it was spontaneous and it felt good. I woke up the next morning in her bed with her next to me. We did a little more and then I had to leave.

To be fair, my only regret is that she contacted me 12 years later to tell me that I had a son. I had gotten her pregnant but she opted to raise the child on her own. It was only as he was entering his teen years that she decided that he should know his father - and in brutal honesty that she should get to know me too.

Suffice to say I had moved on and my current girlfriend and I have three children together. Still, no regrets. I miss that I missed so much of my now 14 year old son's life, but I love him with all my heart and am getting to know him and his mother.

To be sure, first finding out I had a 12 year old son was a bit of a shock. Still, you get over it and you work to make it work. Truthfully, even with having missed his birth and a lot of his pre-teen years, I would not change a thing.

It was amazing sex. I did what nature made men to do - and it made me feel like a man. I met a hot girl and in the end I got a son - a piece of myself in now young man. In my mind, those are all pluses. Not the ideal, perhaps. Still, I have no regrets.

In fairness, things need not have worked out this well and I am lucky that his mom did such a great job raising him as a single mom. However, even that is part of the randomness. You make judgments about the person you are about to have sex with and you trust those judgments.

Frankly, when I met the woman who would be the mother of my son, I could have been wrong about her. As it was, she is a good woman and the only thing we can be accused of is acting on our natural instincts. When that had the results it did, we both stepped up to the plate.

So to me, the issue is less about a "random hookup" then how you handle them. How you judge people before you hook up with them and what you do if you get the result nature intended - a baby. That is how it works.

RebelinSteel · Answer

For guys it is safer, however you still take precautions and let someone know where you are going, meeting etc. Girls have it much harder and really need to think about how to approach them, taking a friend along until you are okay the guy seems okay, making sure someone knows who you are with, when you will be checking in. The first time you feel unsure, then leave. Listen to your feelings and not your hormones.

smne35 · Answer

Speaking for myself I'm not into one nighter hookups or soliciting ladies of the night, no disrespect to them, but I like my involvement with a woman to be meaningful, lasting, intimate, not jumping from this one to that one, just because you can do something in this case hook UPS don't mean you have to buy if that's what your into I have no opinion one way or they but to say cool if thats how you do it's not right or wrong, just add I said I want a more meaningful lasting personal experience, build on it,

ohsheeT · Answer

When I was your age and a little bit older a little bit older LOL I used to love it I complete stranger and just totally take them to the Moon.. and then I stopped for quite a while because I got into a relationship but even nowadays it's to me it's not even worth it because they're having an outbreak of AIDS everywhere again and I mean it's just crazy the amount of people that are getting this so

I can't tell you what to do but I mean if you do do it just make sure the guy wears protection because whether it's a disease whether you get pregnant you know both are bad especially when the guys not going to be there for you probably I mean the odds are is he won't be if it's the hook up hell nowadays even in a relationship they're not even there for you

HawkPerception · Answer

Never had one. I've always been a one girl kinda guy because I know that happiness would be finding a partner to sail through life with. Although recently because I've had 3 long term relationships where all my partners that left me, I'm becoming more open to it. But yes... it is tough for me to do it. I'm mostly just scared of STDs to be completely honest. Women seem to have much higher body counts than men nowadays because it's easy for women to get men and hard for men to get women.

aceleon · Answer

i'm a guy, how can it be not safe for me aside from the risk of pregnancy or disease (which is kinda of a hard thing because my hook up years ended in high school)

not exactly the best since i really don't feel positive feelings for the girls who do this aside from lust but as a guy who is strictly against being in a relationship, it is kind of my only way of getting laid, either hook ups or fwbs which has it's pros and cons.

DJB72 · Answer

I couldn't do it. Sure I'm certain that mechanically everything would work, but I understand the psychology and spirituality of sex too well to share it at random and I doubt I could be with someone who didn't feel that way.

I get that we all have a past and everything, but if she's slept with more guys than she's had birthdays I'm not going to be the next one. And that measurement should be a guide for anyone, not just a guy looking.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I've had a few one night 🌙 stands when I was younger all in the name of fun and naughtiness 😉😈

As I've becum older and wiser, it is something that I wouldn't do today as catching STIs are at record highs around the globe 🌏

I'd much rather a regular friends with benefits casual arrangement instead of a one-off hookup 🤪

cryanBWC_10collins · Answer

HOOKUPS MEANING TO PAY FOR SEX, AND ONE NIGHT STANDS MEANING TO GO TO BED WITH A PERSON WHO DON'T WANT NOTHING ELSE EXCEPT FOR THE SEX... IT IS ALWAYS A LITTLE SCAREY BUT IT'S JUST GETTING READY FOR THE BEST TIME OF THE BEST OF THE BEST FOR THE FUTURE OF THOSE GUTS AND THE MORE COMFORTABLE THINGS THAT ARE ALWAYS ON THE WAY TO BE ABLE TO GET IT TO WORK ON A MORE IMPORTANT LEVEL

Saramodel · Answer

I love random hookups, no emotions, just being used by a stranger. It's so hot. I usually give blowjobs, but I let some of them fuck if I'm very horny and see they're okay

Anonymous · Answer

It’s safer for men than for women. If a man meets a crazy or unhinged woman he can just leave, but a crazy man is dangerous. We also can’t get pregnant. Someone can seem safe and sane when you chat to them, but then in person you can tell something’s off.

Staximus · Answer

I used to work the door at a bar. I had a few drunken bar beasts come up to me in their way out, looking for a random guy to take them home for the night. They just came up and started trying to make out with me after I talked with them for 5 minutes. The question is who took them home the night before? I'm not sticking my face in a pussy that was fucked all night by some dirty dick drunk 12 hours ago.

HighValue · Answer

In my opinion, anyone that participated in casual sex should be avoided by anyone that wants a successful serious, long term, exclusive relationship.

Angxl3120 · Answer

Its sometimes great, sometimes not so great, i usually try to get to know them before, if i ever intend to hookup with the guy. Its a lot better than some random person

Anonymous · Answer

This is why I avoid dating apps. You wouldn't believe the staggering percentage of women with STD infections on there. I think it's estimated at like 76%.

Guys complain about lack of success on them but I don't think these guys really realize how bullets they're actually dodging.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Depends on if the men are insecure or not. The modern insecure man who doesn't have much to offer will say they hate it, but only because they never get any.

molonski2 · Answer

Not remotely scarey , and extremely exciting and fulfilling , and just awesome fun , some of the very best moments of spontaneous action , and a plethora of unforgettable moments.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

I like them at first, but I always feel cheep dirty and bad after them. So I've learned to avoid them

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have only had one. I have had sex with 4 girls but one was random. It was fun to get naked with a new person and share some orgasms. I used condoms. I'm only 18 so I'm still kinda new to it. How do you or other girls feel about it?

jshm2 · Answer

As a guy who used to be into it - it's not a stable lifestyle and usually means there are underlying issues.

AviatorTom · Answer

For guys who are young and single, random hookups are something to consider, but it's much better to date and try to have a relationship.

LadyKitty · Answer

No thank you! Sex comes with risk like stds and pregnancy. I'd rather save sex for a serious relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a few brief and meaningless encounters when I was younger and now wish my body count was a bit lower. Sex feels great but it doesn't compare to making love with a real girlfriend in a committed relationship.

MemeSupreme · Answer

im WAY too awkward to do hookups lol not interested but if other peeps do it idc

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Not for me but and I guess I'm not into someone who makes them a thing. But otherwise, you do you.

SotiCoto · Answer

Never saw the appeal of that sort of thing personally. I don't want strangers anywhere near me, so there is no way in hell I'd ever want to have sex with them.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I went brrr after my first relationship, I realized I was playing with fire. So I stopped, plus in doing so I crossed paths with a sucubus. So in retrospect it’s not a good idea

OddBeMe · Answer

We all do our thing. I’ve been with one chick for nye on 18 years.

Some people like more transactional sex. Not for me to say who’s right. There is no right. Just don’t hurt anyone. Including you. Confucius say, but who will listen?

billmunch · Answer

Most of my sex life since 2020 has been with prostitutes, so yeah, I'm a big fan of random hookups.

exitseven · Answer

Hookups were not a thing when I was a kid. I dont think I would have had any. I liked having a steady girlfriend.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Not an activity that I have or probably ever will participate in.

BullShark · Answer

Avoid 'em like a plague. Was never interested in random hookups ever

JacobJordan · Answer

Disgusted. It is disgusting not to mention the negatives long term of such actions make it entirely not worthwhile

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

yeah its extremely scary if you are a guy and live in the America for the fact that women here for some odd reason believe that one night of sex is a precursor to a relationship

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"Feel" is the key word here. People who hook up are people who make decisions with their feelings. They ignore reality and facts and the inherent dangers involved in this path of life.

RavVid · Answer

Sex is always good but I tend to want a connection

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Gross. No man has respect for women who do random hookups. No man.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No interest in them whatsoever. People who do that are retarded.

GregorSamsa · Answer

Quality over quantity. I'd rather know what I'm getting into first (pun intended).

DreamLife7 · Answer

Why is this even a question? Have some respect for yourself.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Being in a relationship taught me how important intimacy is for sex exclusive monogamy makes sex so much better

Fxjjxhhccbgcfccc · Answer

I'm into hookup culture. I find them disgusting

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a fan of hookup culture, and I'm definitely not a fan of women who participate in it bacuse of what that says about her character and priorities.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not comfortable hooking up randomly for health and emotional reasons. I feel best with one partner in the safety of a marriage. I'm waiting for my forever spouse.

MrCharlie13 · Answer

I always lacked the social skills to pull them off, but I am not against them. They can be very exciiting

boobliker · Answer

me and most guys I know love them it sexy and hot

zagor · Answer

Haven't done that for ages. Fun, but I was always picky even for hookups.

clampfan101 · Answer

Blind dates I’d try, but not random hookups. (Or any other kind of hook up.)

LiamJHayden · Answer

I stopped doing that before I could legally drink.

Christoff92 · Answer

Don't they usually get excited and turned on over a pretty face and nice body?

Anonymous · Answer

Nope - not a chance in hell, and I'm not that desperate, but IF I were I'd probably hire a Professional Escort.

Nemesis2k7 · Answer

Dont like it personally. Need to have a connection / relationship with the person

i_am_an_engineer · Answer

I love it…for me sex with random hot girls is the best…

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It's a waste of time and it takes unnecessary risks.

FenixG45 · Answer

I did it once years ago. It was so unpleasant & awkward & terrifying, I never did it again.

krin_m · Answer

Have not done those for a long time. Enjoyed them when I was actively into it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Use to love them now not so much depends on the girl

Anonymous · Answer

I freaking love it it.. It's the best!!! I can usually tell with her in an hour or so.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

There are no safe hookups period.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

I wouldn't do it but yolo

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